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writes:Hi I was just wondering why men always have to play games when they know a woman likes them? I met a man nearly 10 months ago now we live close by he asked me out and I have a three year old son from a previous relationship. anyway I couldn't get a babysitter for our first date so he came round mine we had a drink and he went home, we carried on like this for a few months and I told him I didn't just want sex I told him I liked him a lot and he told me he knows I do. he has never once said how he feels about me, we have never been anywhere together there is only his brother knows about me. if his mum calls him he pretends he's at home even if he's at mine we haven't been out anywhere together as his excuse is this he is on a diet for some sort of show he is doing but when its over next month we will start going out. I am not happy about this as I want us to be together properly he says we are taking it slowly, but surely after 10 months we would be getting more as a couple? my question is why is he playing these games and what should I do? should I wait around till his diet is finished and see if he changes or should I walk away and find someone else? thank you for any answers
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (18 November 2011):
 EVERY testosterone-bubbling guy is ecstatic if/when he finds a girl like you... who will put out and not ask for anything in return....
NOW, the issue is: When are you going to wake up and ASK FOR SOMETHING in return????
Good luck...
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reader, moon river +, writes (18 November 2011):
 sorry but this is definately a booty call, you are being used. if you want to test it then i would say you should do as 'so very confused' suggested
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 November 2011):
 Tell him to call you after the diet when he can take you on a proper date. that will be asnwer #1
After 10 months and you've never gone out... you are not a couple... he shows up.... you give him food and drink and company...
are you having sex with him? if so STOP... see what happens.. that's answer #2
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reader, Miamine +, writes (18 November 2011):
 He's not playing games, he is just using you for sex. This isn't a proper girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. He doesn't introduce you to anyone, this is just a booty call, he doesn't take you any where. Are you sure this guy is single and doesn't have a girlfriend. Kick his ass out, this guy is using you and giving nothing back.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (18 November 2011):
So right now all he has to do to have sex with you is come over to your house??! No. He's not going to suddenly work harder after his "diet" - there is no need to pursue you or make a big fuss because you've already established the boundaries and hes taking advantage. I wouldn't be surprised if he has a girlfriend and that's why he's not telling his mother where he is.
Stop letting this guy take advantage. Next time he tries to come over say "no, but I can meet you at --- for dinner. You owe me a date". When he says no - stick to your guns ans say - "ok well have a good night" and don't let him off the hook. But be prepared - if you do this - it will likely be over because he doesn't sound like he likes you enough to put in the effort.
You deserve a real relationship if that is what you want.
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