Three times I have declined my boyfriend's request for an open relationship.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for roughly 10 months. A while ago, maybe 4 or 5 months ago, he brought up the subject of an open relationship. This isn't something that I feel comfortable with, which I expressed to him. He brought it ...
A. 31 January 2012: How did this subject ever even get THIS FAR????? Of course you and he should go your separate ways....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
His codependency is slowly killing me.
Q. I'm in a relationship I don't see any future in and honestly I don't want to be in the relationship at all anymore. I'm 21 years old and I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 years come this April. The saddest part is I have told my boyfriend this ...
A. 31 January 2012: I see that you have included the precise, concise reply to your own "question" with this: "...I'm in a relationship I don't see any future in and honestly I don't want to be in the relationship at all anymore..."
Sooooo, what's the question... (read in full...)
I cant seem to have relationships like other people....what's wrong with me?
Q. Hi, I'm lonely and frustrated. I am a natural redhead, men think this either makes me easy or a bitch. I'm neither, i rebuff their advances, i have a preference for women you see. After qualifying as an optometrist i moved to a new city to work. I'...
A. 31 January 2012: Contrary to popular lore.... masturbating will NOT affect your eyesight, will not cause you to grow hair on the palms of your hands, and will not make you go mad. That said, have at it and allow that to be your "intimate" life as much as you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is still in love with his ex
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend 1 year in march we were talking last night and he mentioned his ex which he does quite often so I asked him if he was still in love with her and he said yes he is now I'm so confused but my question is will he be ...
A. 31 January 2012: You'll know, for sure, that he's thinking about his ex- when he calls you by her name when you are doing you-know-what.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I regret breaking up with my ex, but if I tell him how I feel it will look like I'm tying to stop him going away with his so called friend....what should I do?
Q. Last year i broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years and i think ive made a mistake in doing so. the reason i broke up with him is because 1 night i was walking home with my boyfriends best friend who lives on the way after a night out. when i reached ...
A. 31 January 2012: Forget your ex-B/F... and that cad with whom he's travelling to Australia.... and get on with your life. Who needs THEM?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
It seems like sex is a chore for her, how can we improve things?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my gf for 10 months now. We've lived with each other for 6. The problem for me is the almost non existent passion/sex intimacy.now the problem isn't so much the lack of regular sex as that doesnt worry me so much, ...
A. 31 January 2012: If a woman (or, a man, if the roles happen to be reversed) who happens to be one's partner doesn't wish to share intimacies (and sex, if appropriate).... then the one (partner) whose needs/desires are not being met should simply walk away from that ... (read in full...)
My wife had a termination 6 months into our relationship, and now 7 and a half years later the sex is still terrible!
Q. Hi, me and my first love have just got married 5months ago, we have been together for 8 years nearly and have never slept or even been out with anyone else! We are only in our early and mid 20's. For the first year the sex was great and very ...
A. 31 January 2012: Your story is reminiscent of what happened to me over the past 8 years.... save for the marriage part. About 6 months ago, I decided that I'd had enough of a sex-empty "relationship".... and walked away. I met a lovely lady about 4 months a... (read in full...)
Problem looking at other women?
Q. Hi - I am 40, married for 10 years and have 3 amazing and beautiful kids. My wife keeps thinks that I have a problem of looking to other women telling me that I do it also in her presence. As for me I have no idea of what she is talking but I admit ...
A. 28 January 2012: I used to date a girl who behaved just as you have described your wife..... She would chide me if I LOOKED at ANY OTHER WOMAN... even if I had no choice.... such as, for example, if we were walking on the beach and another couple approached us. (I ... (read in full...)
I still can't be intimate with my wife despite forgiving her infidelities
Q. My wife and i have been married going on 4 years. In our first year married she cheated on me with my ex best friend. Well i found out later by her best friend and for a while My wife denied it then she finally broke down and told me. Well I forgave ...
A. 28 January 2012: I'd suggest you find a counsellor, clergyman - any disinterested third party who you trust - and ask them to listen to you, and help intervene with what is happening between you and the Missus.....
It's understandable that you are reluctan... (read in full...)
Discharge days after sex
Q. Since I've started having sex a few months ago I occasionally get a thin cloudy discharge. To describe it as discharge would be misleading as I can feel it come out and a lot comes out, like I have to run to the bathroom immediately to ensure it ...
A. 28 January 2012: Your gynocologist is a great place to start looking for the answer to this query........ (read in full...)
My husband has joined an online dating site
Q. My husband has joined a sex dating site. Should I be worried. Or is it harmless fun?? ...
A. 28 January 2012: It's "harmless" if you think it's OK for him to fool around with other girls. OTHERWISE, what he's doing is a "red flag" that he's intent of compromising his vows to you.......... (read in full...)
Have you ever got in a relationship with someone, knowing beforehand it probably wasn't going to workout, just so you could have sex with that person?
Q. Have you ever started a relationship with someone, knowing all-well that it probably wouldn't workout anyways, just so you could have sex with that person? I'm curious because from what I've observed among friends and acquaintances - ...
A. 28 January 2012: P.S. There's another "old adage" that applies too:
"Women fake orgasms; Men fake entire relationships."
Sorry, I'd forgotten that one....... (read in full...)
Have you ever got in a relationship with someone, knowing beforehand it probably wasn't going to workout, just so you could have sex with that person?
Q. Have you ever started a relationship with someone, knowing all-well that it probably wouldn't workout anyways, just so you could have sex with that person? I'm curious because from what I've observed among friends and acquaintances - ...
A. 28 January 2012: You are correct. The "old adage" that applies is this one:
"Women offer sex in the belief that it is part of a relationship; Men will feign a relationship in hopes that they will get sex."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family I'm dating a woman 28 years older than me?
Q. Hope someone can help, I got talking to someone on a internet chatroom and we have a lot in common. After chatting for a while we both wanted to meet each other and we did and got on really well together, only thing is that she's 55 and i...
A. 28 January 2012: Why would you handle this woman's introduction to your family any differently than you would the introduction of any other (younger or older) woman????? WHAT DOES YOUR FAMILY HAVE TO DO WITH YOUR PRIVATE LIFE?????????
Good luck........ (read in full...)
I don't think my g/f is into me anymore
Q. me and my girlfriend have been togeather for 3 yrs now she use to like sex with me.but now im not so sure it went from 1 to 2 times a week to once or twice a month.she use to b relly tight t even now when we do it . its still loose even after a ...
A. 28 January 2012: The one who can "help" you most IS YOUR G/F!!!!!
Some time, when things are quiet and peaceful, tell her you want to talk about something which has become important for you..... and show her a copy of this submittal and tell her that you wrote it... (read in full...)
I am almost certain my husband is using escort services!
Q. Hi Everyone, I also am pretty certain that my husband for the 25 years is using escort services. My husband is self employed ,he not a nine until 5 man. There are alot of unexplained afternoon mobile numbers on his bill, when he dails these nu...
A. 28 January 2012: Maria: I imagine you could find an affordable P.I. (Private investigator) who would tail your man for a couple of days to see if your concerns are justified.
IF they are (justified), then you need to know.... need to confront him... and, be ... (read in full...)
I loved him so much but he treated me bad.
Q. Why would you want to hurt someone that loves you so much? is something wrong with me? I loved him so much I thought he loved me too.. He was so nice so sweet, I felt for him and he told me he loved me everyday. But then he broke up with me...
A. 26 January 2012: I'm guessing that you and he had a great s*xual aspect to your relationship. Am I correct?
If "yes," then you can understand his disdain at having given that up..... and, by "staying friends," he can hold out hope (HIS hope!) that he might ge... (read in full...)
Why do I keep feeling so sick whenever I go out drinking?
Q. Hey I seem to have a bit of a problem that affects me going out and enjoying myself, not sure if anyone else has had the same problem but I've receieved comments about it. Everytime I go out drinking I get so far and feel the need to throw up, and...
A. 26 January 2012: Your feeling sick is God's way of telling you that drinking alcohol is something that you should not be doing....
I don't usually pontificate... but for you, and this instance, I'm willing to make an exception!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got a lapdance at a strip club and now I am struggling to deal with this, am I just being silly?
Q. My boyfriend went to see strippers and has got a private lapdance on a number of occasions. Im finding it hard to deal with, I feel inadequate and dont feel comfortable having sex at the moment. I just feel he'l compare the way I look to the ...
A. 26 January 2012: Since you've said "... on a number of occasions..." I will slant my comments to THAT DETAIL.
WHAT THE HECK WOULD MAKE YOU WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH A GUY WHO HAS HAD LAPDANCES PERFORMED ON HIS LAP "ON A NUMBER OF OCCASIONS??????"
Did I say tha... (read in full...)
We're dating, but her family is trying to set her up with another guy!
Q. I recently started dating a 17 year old girl. As a couple by ourselves we work out great. We agree on many important things. She's pretty mature for her age too. The problem is that I think her family is trying to set her up with another guy. Her...
A. 26 January 2012: Here are my calming words: Don't worry about it....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Conflict on a work placement
Q. I started a work placement in my 3rd year of uni studying business law in june of last year at a small firm of lawyers. I love my job and am hard working and try my best with my work and relationships created here. I never got the impression that ...
A. 26 January 2012: How much more time do you have in this business/position?
"Sounds" to me like you're LOOKING for drama.... and really could spend your time and attention on better matters.... After all... who assigned you to be the "employee police?" (I'm ref... (read in full...)
Just learned that my wife cheated while we were engaged
Q. I just found out my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. I'm really confused about what to do. Part of me wants to just leave and get a divorce, but my wife and I have been married for more than 10 years and 3 children. My trust in her is ...
A. 26 January 2012: The counselling makes sense....
On the other hand..... I recommend that you spend most of your time/attention reconciling that it might be best to forget this ancient history.... I understand your feeling of betrayal..... BUT, it was a long tim... (read in full...)
How can I prove my feelings are real?
Q. Please help me, I desperately need help and I don't know what to do anymore. I have met the most amazing girl ever. She is kind, thoughtful, sweet, caring, faithful, intelligent, fun..everything that a man could want. We never even argue. What...
A. 26 January 2012: I think the decision is clearly your's and your's, alone.
SHE is telling you "Go with the flow..." which is probably her-talk for, "Let's keep seeing each other and see if we wish to continue seeing one-another over a longer time-fra... (read in full...)
Is it me or is it him? Has he brainwashed me, or do I need to end the relationship?
Q. Back on here again about the same person I put a question on here about in 2010. I suppose that says it all. I desperately need some advice so if anyone can spare 5 mins to read this I'd appreciate it. I'm in a very troublesome relationship. ...
A. 26 January 2012: I'll bet the responses you got in 2010 basically all said, "Get away from this scum...." (or something like that). Today, a year later, the same advice applies. Will you "listen" to it this time, please?
Good luck....... (read in full...)
In a strange place with no way back so I gave him oral, and now he hasn't contacted me. How do I forget? How do I make sure this never happens again?
Q. I went through my childhood and most of my teen years being made fun of, and because of that I often feel ugly and fat and unworthy of being loved. I met a guy a few weeks ago who made me feel beautiful and he took me out for the day it was great ...
A. 26 January 2012: Sometimes, the dream of that day when "your Prince will come" can cloud your sensible thinking.... and that seems to be the case here.
This guy was a RAT and should be accorded no more thought and attention than a RAT is entitled to (read: ... (read in full...)
Problems with a blended family
Q. I've been married for 2 plus years. My wife has 3 children all living with us ranging from 23 to 15. We lived together prior to us getting together for around three years. But I worked evening and got off work after everyone has gone to bed so I did...
A. 25 January 2012: First, you tell all those age 18 or older that they need to find another address....
Then, you sit wifey down and tell her that her kids are going to behave better or they - and maybe she - are going to have to find another address.....
Isn't t... (read in full...)
One final meeting with the ex to talk things out?
Q. I was seeing this guy for a few months. Now that I think back, it was really unsatisfactory. I put up with a lot of crap and I was miserable but I put a good front. I mean, I was happy, but only when things seemed to be going great. So we ended it...
A. 25 January 2012: No. It's a STUPID idea. Put it out of your head and get on with your life....... (read in full...)
He flirts secretly with other women on Facebook. What should I do?
Q. my boyfriend is pretty much perfect. he always makes time for me. he trusts me. we never argue. he always tells me he loves me, and how he wants to one day get married and have a family. he always tells me he never speaks to other girls anymore, ...
A. 25 January 2012: So this two-faced rat TOLD you one thing, and is DOING quite another....
Only question I have: WHY would you want to spend even another minute with him?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What should a teenager wear to a posh restaurant?
Q. Hey guys, I am to go out with a "friend" on saturday night for dinner and I don't know what to wear, basically. We're both 17 so it's not like I have a suit and I wouldn't really feel comfortable in a shirt/trousers. It is a posh restaurant and i...
A. 25 January 2012: Pretty much the same thing(s) that an adult would wear to that same restaurant..... 1. a clean shirt (ironed, too, incidentally!), 2. neat, pressed slacks.... 3. shoes, 4. NO baseball hat!!!!
Bon appetit!!!!!... (read in full...)
If I drink energy drinks can I have sex multiple times?
Q. Hello. Me and my girlfriend are going on a trip to New York City and she been making comments like having sex all the time multiple times a day on this trip. It's only days, I'm a little nervous I won't perform okay. She is 31 and I'm 20 and a...
A. 25 January 2012: If she's hot enough, you could drink water from the East River and get it with her multiple times every day... believe me!!!!
Good luck... and have a great time.
P.S. Be sure to use protection!!!!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become verbally abusive after finding out I had sex before I met him
Q. I met my bf 2 yrs ago. I am 24 and he is 28. We love each other so much but the problem is my past. I had another bf in my past before I met him. I loved that guy too(but not as much as this one) but he just cheated me. I didn't want to have sex ...
A. 25 January 2012: I think we can get to the crux of your submittal if we just consider a couple of your phrases, and edit them accordingly. To wit: You wrote: "But still he accepted me and told me he loves me who I am." Adjust that to read: "... told me he ... (read in full...)
This guy used me and I dropped him out of my life. Then why am I feeling jealous about his one-night stand?
Q. Coming up 2 years ago I fell head over heels for this guy I knew through a mutual friend. We became best friends so quickly and we had an amazing bond. He began purposely leading me on and generally finding fun in messing with my head. But I was ...
A. 25 January 2012: It's understanable that that contact upset you... since it reminded you that you'd been USED by this creep.....
IF you'd like to expunge those memories, don't contact the dog.... don't encourage him in any way.... in fact, you would be justifie... (read in full...)
Just ended an abusive marriage, my ex is still living with me, and he's emailing his ex!
Q. Is this part of his game playing. I recently ended a 7yr relationship. My ex still lives at my home but will be moving out shortly. The reason for this was because he was abusive to me one night after he had been out. Whilst i reaconise that he has ...
A. 24 January 2012: REgardless of the details... this guy isn't worth the drama and angst that you can incur if/when you spend time with him.... Find a nice guy.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Questions about a large life insurance policy! Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend of two years was thinking about Marriage and he wants to set up an insurance policy of one million on my name so that he said, that if he pass away (God forbid) I will have money to start with. Should I agree with this? That this kind ...
A. 23 January 2012: I love "life" insurance!!! You bet that you are going to die; the insurance company bets that you are going to live.... Sooooo, if you WIN, you lose; and if you LOSE, you win!!!!
In all honesty, think of it NOT as "life" insurance... but as "... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be angry with him?
Q. I need to know if I have the right to be angry. Whats Happened: I was supposed to be going my boyfriend's this weekend to spend some time with him. Friday I would go to his, Saturday we would go bowling with friends and then back to his and the...
A. 20 January 2012: You DO have a right to be angry. The only question - as I see things - is do you WANT to be angry? .... and, is this guy WORTH the anger????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is he only looking for sex?
Q. I ve been talking to a guy on the phone and through text for over a month. We decided to meet soon and he often mentions he cant wait to hug and kiss me. I asked him exactly what hes looking for and he said for u to be good friends that hang out and ...
A. 20 January 2012: EVERY GUY is "in it for the sex." The only issue is if YOU are "in it" for the same (or similar) reasons...
Once you and he have reconciled that, you can either spend time together or decide to go your separate ways...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What makes a girl a "safe bet"?
Q. What does it mean when a guy says you are 'a safe bet' ???????...
A. 20 January 2012: It means that she puts out.... but that she is using birth control....... (read in full...)
Is it ok to cry tears of joy or is it too much too soon?
Q. Ive been dating a guy for only a few months now, and i can honestly admit i love 100% everything about him and hes amazing and treats me with the most respect and supports me Sometimes i feel so happy when im alone, i cry in tears of happiness that ...
A. 19 January 2012: Cry tears of joy whenever you darn well please!!!......... (read in full...)
Why would you stay with someone who ruined your life?
Q. Why does he say these horrible things to me? My partner and i of 7 yrs have called time on our relationship. After another incident of abuse both phyisical and verbal in front of my kids i told him id had enough. although i only have the odd bruise ...
A. 19 January 2012: Aunty BimBim has given you great advice. I hope you've digested it and will follow it........ (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she needs time and space, what does it mean?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a month and a half and everything was going perfect she seemed very happy and said I give her butterflies when ever I kiss her. We rarely argued and she also said she never wants to lose me because we ...
A. 18 January 2012: It's a polite way of dumping you!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
A Good News Story!
Q. Hi everyone, Having been a member of this website for quite a while now, I've found it genuinely heart warming and pleasing when someone who has asked for advice comes back with a happy ending. So I thought I'd do the same in the hope it might br...
A. 18 January 2012: I'm glad to learn just how well things are working out for you.... You know, I first fell for (G) when I was sixteen... but she wasn't much interested in me... and she ran off and married (R).... Meanwhile, I went to college, where I met (M)... (read in full...)
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