A Good News Story!
Q. Hi everyone, Having been a member of this website for quite a while now, I've found it genuinely heart warming and pleasing when someone who has asked for advice comes back with a happy ending. So I thought I'd do the same in the hope it might br...
A. 18 January 2012: I'm glad to learn just how well things are working out for you.... You know, I first fell for (G) when I was sixteen... but she wasn't much interested in me... and she ran off and married (R).... Meanwhile, I went to college, where I met (M)... (read in full...)
My father is selling his body!
Q. i reently found out my father and his new girlfriends selling their bodies for sex on a website [name of website removed by mod]. its torn my family apart one of my brothers thinks the sun shines out of my fathers rear end and my sister is getting ...
A. 18 January 2012: What your Father does in his own time is none of your's and your sister's business.... as long as it is not illegal.... or, does NOT affect you, directly....
Why not get a life of your own (and encourage your sister to do so, as well).... and let ... (read in full...)
Guys, is it a deal breaker for you if your girlfriend hates blow jobs?
Q. I tried giving blow jobs, it hurts, my jaws got irritated , i felt used (i knew i`m not gonna like them) and i felt bad about myself, i love sex though. so is it a deal breaker if a woman refuses to give it to her boyfriend? i never asked any men ...
A. 18 January 2012: "Sounds" to me like you've got a lot of the details screwed up.....
1. REAL good boyfriends LOVE to go down on a girl and pleasure her orally.... IF you can't find such a guy, then you are looking in all the wrong places....
2. IF you wi... (read in full...)
Getting drinks with a big group of people this weekend and 3 of them have feelings for me! Help?
Q. And to make things more complicated, a fourth girl that is going to be there is the one I actually have a thing for and am hoping to get to know better at this social gathering. So "Girl A" is a good friend of mine; we've been friends for year...
A. 18 January 2012: Cripes! ... I wish I had YOUR "problem"!!!! I can't FIND 4 women to agonize over... and, if I could, I doubt I could get all 4 of them to the same place at the same time...
Count your blessings..... Good luck....... (read in full...)
Older male cannot understand what's happening!
Q. Hi, I am 62 and change. Exactly 1 year ago I met a woman 14 years younger in a retraining program. She chased me, and even when I tried to point out the age difference, she insisted it was not important. We've been seeing each other several ti...
A. 18 January 2012: The age difference is of no importance. What IS important is that this woman is not serious about you, and so the best you can do is get away from her and find a lady who will be a "true and blue" girlfriend.... There are OOOdles of them (nice ... (read in full...)
Ex keeps getting together and then breaking up w/me. BF says I'm his booty call only!
Q. dear cupid, back in march, i met this guy through a mutual friend. i wasn't really all that interested in him at first; to be honest, our first date was actually kind of a pity date. but eventually, i wound up falling for him. HARD. and when i...
A. 18 January 2012: I think you should believe ONLY yourself.....
And.... I hope that "yourself" will tell you that this guy is USING YOU (for s*x).... and that you are being a fool for even giving him the time of day.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Dating a single mom and I'm confused!
Q. Having been married for 6 years, I'm now in my first relationship post-divorce (which is kind of strange for me in and of itself). I recently met this amazing woman and we've been going out now for about three months. She is also divorced and has ...
A. 18 January 2012: Too much drama.... give her up!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says the mark on his neck is a bruise. I say it's a love bite.
Q. Thanks in advance for your answers! Last night I noticed what looks like a lovebite on my boyfriends neck. When I mentioned it he said it must be a 'bruise'. Since when do love bites look like bruises? When I tried to bring it up again he got angry, ...
A. 18 January 2012: IF he took a Karate class last night.... then, perhaps, it's a bruise. IF he DIDN'T attend a Karate class last night, then you need to search around for the girl who gave him this "bruise"!!!!!
Good luck........ (read in full...)
How close is too close?
Q. Hi Advice sought on how to handle a prospective 13 year old step daughter. She came to stay with us for the school holidays (nearly 5 weeks). It has been one of the most stressful times for me as she seems to have set up some kind of competit...
A. 18 January 2012: I wouldn't suspect it's a question of CLOSENESS as it is a question of TERRITORY. This young gal is trying to make it clear to you that SHE is her Dad's sweetheart.... and YOU are a "Jane-come-lately"....
The basics are simple: She's acting l... (read in full...)
I'm married and now my lover has got married I have lost my trust in her....what should I do?
Q. I am married and I have been in mutual relationship with a co worker for few years now. She recently got married and it was mutual decision that we shall continue working post her marriage and we both wont change our feelings for each other and ...
A. 18 January 2012: WOW!!! What a great submittal. Let me see if I've got this correct:
You are married and she was your tart...
She got married and started behaving as if she were married and had a hubby, to whom she pledged fidelity...
You now think that sh... (read in full...)
When he crashed out and went to sleep I kissed him, now I'm not sure if he even was asleep....what should I do?
Q. My best male friend and I have been friends for about 3 years, and we're very close. We're college sophomores and we talk about school, parties, sex, orgasms, etc. -- we're really open with one another, which is great...and it's nice to have a guy ...
A. 18 January 2012: If he didn't stick his tongue in to your mouth - to start a bit of "tonsil hockey" - you can be SURE that he was asleep!!! I know of NO MAN.... EVER... ANYWHERE... who had a girl pull his shirt up to touch his abs.... who didn't then try to ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation worth doing?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I'm still a virgin in every way. Everyone I know masturbates,but for some reason that really freaks me out. The thought of it makes me feel guilty for some reason. How do you even do it? I know that sounds silly, but seriously. ...
A. 18 January 2012: There's nothing WRONG with masturbation. The only caveats about having that as your primary sex life (as I have done, repeatedly, over the years) are: 1. You will find that you do NOT grow hair on your palms... your eyesight is NOT adversely af... (read in full...)
Can all women have squirting orgasms?
Q. I'm in my early 40's and my question is about squirting orgasms, which I have never had. I have had a vaginal orgasm only twice, both on my own. Most of my orgasms are clitoral and extremely satisfying. Do you think it is true that every woman...
A. 18 January 2012: I suggest you spend not one more moment of your time considering this question.... and get on with your life... enjoying it in every/any way that you can.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why won't he put me first?
Q. I'm a 25 year old gay male (if you hate me already, please move on and don't leave me mean messages!). I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. He is two years younger than I am. We fell in love at first sight and it was amazing and still is ...
A. 18 January 2012: Regardless of your sexual preference.... your query is the same as so many others that we see herein... i.e.: "I have a (partner) who treats me like crap.... how can I get him/her to stop treating me like crap?"
The short answer is that YOU CANN... (read in full...)
My son's wedding will be a disaster!
Q. My son is 37 and marrying a 28 year old woman. My son is getting married this summer and im not happy with the way his fiancees family and friends re-acted at the engagement party 2 weeks ago because im afraid they will ruin the day of the weddi...
A. 16 January 2012: The boy has LEFT THE NEST.... and the remainder of his life is HIS to live.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What is a great indirect & funny way to ask a female friend if they have a boyfriend?
Q. What is a great indirect and funny way to ask a female friend if they have a boyfriend? Any advice? ...
A. 16 January 2012: Sure. You ask her, "Any chance that if you and I go out together that your boyfriend or husband will object?"
Good luck....... (read in full...)
The other day we where making love and he stopped to answer his phone! Is this normal?
Q. Hi,I would like you aunts opinion on this please. I am in a relationship with a man and have been for many years, we both are in our late 50's so really i was shocked and very surprised by this action of his. The other day we where making love and ...
A. 16 January 2012: If he's like most of us guys, he has a special ring-tone for his stock broker... and ALWAYS answers that incoming call... as it may be a wonderful opportunity for a new security... or an old one that is about to take off!.... and he wants to know ... (read in full...)
I cant bear the fact that my ex is in a new relationship and threw away the 5 years we had together
Q. Dear friends... today i found out my ex is in a relationship and i didn't take it as well as i should... we broke up 6 months ago, and because it was pretty crappy at the end, i thought i was completely over him... but deep down, i always thou...
A. 16 January 2012: I believe the key phrase in your submittal is this one: "...i feel like he threw away the 5 years we were together..."
You see... being together DOESN'T accrue ANYTHING.... Women think it does.... but men don't.... YOU (women)think you "threw a... (read in full...)
My G/f is utterly convinced that most of her unhappiness has to do with me, and I have a hard time dealing with such a heavy burden
Q. I am feeling very confused and trapped in my current relationship with my girlfriend. I’ve been dating her for 2 and a half years, I am 21 and she is 23 years old, if this is any help. I care for her a lot, yet she is simultaneously a...
A. 16 January 2012: if a girl thinks that a guy is responsible for all her unhappiness.... then the ONLY thing that guy can do is fold up his "Mr Happy".... put it BACK in his trousers... and find a REAL girlfriend who isn't so screwy!!!!
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Do people believe in friendships without immediate financial benefits anymore?
Q. Broke people get lonely too. And this economy ain't looking up very soon. Do people believe in friendships without immediate financial benefits anymore. I'm by no means lazy or any of that. I' a hard working type guy . Any advice please? ...
A. 16 January 2012: I ALWAYS insist - on the very first date - that a woman reveal to me her financial condition (including actually showing me her checkbook balance and a list of her securities and real estate holdings!).
IF she's too darn poor, then I dump her... (read in full...)
Husband didn't satisfy me emotionally so I went online, he found out and we are working on things but things still aren't right
Q. Hello everyone, I have been married for almost nine years, I have a wonderful husband, he's been the most kindest, compassionate, wonderful man I have ever known, only problem is, is that we don't get intimate nearly enough, if I'm lucky it's once a ...
A. 16 January 2012: When partners have a sexual mis-match it can be excrutiating... (I know; Been there - done that)...
All you can do is reveal your frustration to your partner (as you have done) and make it clear that you cannot continue as the two of you have....... (read in full...)
I found out my wife had 2 abortions and never told me. I don't know what to do now
Q. We have been together for 5 years and we got married a few months ago. Recently she got pregnant, however 6-7 weeks later, it turned out to be a miscarriage. During one of the visits at the gyn, the doctor mentioned that this is her third abortion. ...
A. 16 January 2012: Forgive her and get on with your lives together...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Am I just his "booty call"?
Q. I met this young guy (25y) I am 33y female....We had chemistry..started whith just kisses..with the time we ended up in sex.... I like him a lot. Is very mature and has a brillant career, is very smart and corteous. Very succesful for his age. La...
A. 13 January 2012: IF you want to continue to be just his booty call, then you don't have to say a word.... just go to your room and remove your clothing....
IF you want a warm, fulfilling relationship with an adult man, who will treat you as you would like to be tr... (read in full...)
Does my ex still have feelings for me? I don't wanna end up as FWB.
Q. My ex and I recently began talking again after 2 months of no contact. We topped talking bc he got a new girlfriend. He texted my sister asking if I till hated him. And he even told her that he misses me and wants to be friends. My sister replied ...
A. 13 January 2012: If you don't wish to be his FWB.... then keep your legs together, and continue the benign activites that you enumerated in your submittal....
I'm willing to wager that he will either: 1. Ask you to put out as his G/F..... or, 2. will distance... (read in full...)
Why is so little love and affection in our relationship? Is this just a phase?
Q. Please help. I have been reading Dear Cupid for a number of years, but I finally need to turn to it for advice. I apologize for how long this will be. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three and a half years. He is almost 27 and I am 22. We ...
A. 13 January 2012: The gem-of-a-boyfriend sounds like he's convinced you to buy in to his perpetual procrastination..... and, why NOT??? It's working, he's getting s*x... and you're hanging on???????
YOU hold the key to putting a stop to this charade. Either Y... (read in full...)
Tentative steps in our new relationship. What's a reasonable timeline, before we decide to have sex?
Q. When is the right time to have sex in our relationship? We are both widowed. I'm 68 years old and he is 72. We have dated four times. We do care about each other. ...
A. 13 January 2012: The best time for s*x is between 7:30 and 8:30 PM....
You MAY find that you also want to repeat the process sometime in the middle of the night (2:00 - 3:00 AM is good) and/or just as you awaken......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He has cheated before and now it seems he is doing the same again, what should I do?
Q. Well compliments of the new year to every one, my problem is i have been dating a guy for four months and things has been goin pretty well until he started breaking off the communication between us recently.. During the time we were on good terms he ...
A. 13 January 2012: Dump him.
You can do better.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do you politely reject someone on the grounds that they might not be "your type"?
Q. How do you politely reject someone on the grounds that they might not be "your type"? If a woman showed an interest in me, how can I say in a nice way (if I'm not interested) that she is not my type? If a woman told me I was not "her type", I ...
A. 13 January 2012: Perhaps the easiest and most-elegant way is to take them to a modest eating establishment.... and give them the classic "It's not YOU, it's ME...." line.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Can abusive men ever change?
Q. Can men who have been abusive with there partners ever be rehabilited and change their behaviour, or is it something deeper within them and there is little that will change them. I have been with a abusive man for 8 yrs and although it is not daily ...
A. 13 January 2012: Yes... they CAN change.....
BUT... the chances of them (him) doing so are about the same as you hitting a national lottery.....
I ALWAYS suggest that a woman who has endured a long time (you have 8 years) with an abuser simply get out, now....... (read in full...)
I cant put up with my husband's behaviour anymore, but I don't want to throw in the towel less than a year after getting married! What should I do?
Q. My husband and I have been married since spring of 2011 (not even a year yet). We have the most beautiful 18 month old son and another new baby on the way. Our marriage is anything but newlywed bliss. I think a lot of our stress comes from little ...
A. 13 January 2012: Weeeelllll.... you COULD wait and "throw in the towel" after 5 years.....
IF you did that, what would you gain? 4 additional years of anguish.....
Why bother? You "know" all you need to know about this guy.... You can do better....
P.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend admits that he thinks about sex with other girls, am I not enough for him?
Q. im 19/f and my boyfriend is 20/m We've been together for nearly a year, and we love each other alot. i honestly think hes my soulmate and we can both picture our future together perfectly... except now im not so sure anymore. im a very very in...
A. 13 January 2012: Not necessarily... You see, we guys think that EVERY girl wants to have s*x with us..... AND we KNOW that we want to have s*x with every/any girl who is appropriately equipped....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told a friend he still misses his ex, what does this mean for us?
Q. Long story short: I stooped through my boyfriend's phone, found a text he sent to his best friend saying that he's been missing his ex a lot lately. They've been broken up for over a year, and we've been together for almost a year. He said he saw o...
A. 13 January 2012: About your snooping:..... No comment...
About the embers he still has for his ex- .... that's classic "guy" for holding out that the old G/F will come to her senses and become a second outlet for our sexual desires..... i.e.: YOU stay in the pict... (read in full...)
My wife withholds physical affection. Is there hope she will ever change?
Q. I have been reading a lot of the stories on this site about men whose wives have lost their sexual desire. This happened to my wife, too, many years ago. I think we have had sex just once in 10 years and maybe only a few times in 15 years. We have ...
A. 11 January 2012: I've been through what you're experiencing.... I spent 6 years with a woman who was - by my looking-back recollection - frigid..... She/we started out with dating and spending lots of time together.... AND with occasions of intimacy/s*x....
... (read in full...)
We have lost our sex life because my partner has MS. Any suggestions?
Q. My Partner has a long term illness MS plus other problems related to the illness She has lost all interested in sex, maybe that is a bad way to put it .I will put it this way the illness has been the cause. Not my partner. The last time we had sex ...
A. 10 January 2012: maverick: Your parents sound like a delightful couple who have endured the greatest of stresses, and yet remain faithful to love and honesty between themselves. God bless 'em....
I hope the OP of this will read and re-read your response and see ... (read in full...)
Love triangle and husband wants me back!
Q. Been involved in a love triangle for years. I been married for six years and is going through and divorce. (supposedly)We been separated two years. I have a daughter by my husband, and a child during the separation.My husband states he dont want the ...
A. 10 January 2012: I detected FOUR participants in your arrangement... which makes it a love QUADRILATERAL.....
That said.... maybe the four of you can take a break for, say, six months.... and see if any/all of you can grow up during that time, and stop acting l... (read in full...)
How many dates should you go on before having sex?
Q. After how many dates is it ok to have sex with someone?...
A. 10 January 2012: The standard is that a girl MUST put out by the THIRD date, or the guy will get bored and drop her.....
HOWEVER... be careful that the guy you're dating isn't utilizing the uber-effective "Four date" scheme.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I am not a serial cheat and nor is he....so why are we doing this?
Q. Firstly...please don't judge me. I know I'm playing with fire and I'm an idiot but I really need an objective opinion and some advice. I am married, it's not perfect and I think I rushed into marriage too young. My husband is a good man but we are ...
A. 10 January 2012: You're both enjoying the "grass is always greener in the other fellow's yard" syndrome..... THAT's the basis of many a tryst... and comes back to haunt you when the two of you are found out and whacked across the forehead (figuratively) with the ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him it's over through text?
Q. am just 16 and my bf is 29..i love him but right now,i have every doubt that he loves me to..but when ever he is tickled he plays with me and tells me how much he love me just 2 make love with him..am so used to him that everytime i cry when ever he ...
A. 10 January 2012: Let me help you with the wording of that text. Try this:
"Take a hike, as*hole...."
That should convey the appropriate meaning that you want him to get....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He claims he is just "good friends" with this younger woman? Am I right to end the relationhip and get on with my life?
Q. About 3 year ago, my boyfriend of 5 years became friends with a woman 20 years younger than him. They work for the same apartment management company and live in the same apartment building. He was seen at an outdoor event with his arms around her ...
A. 10 January 2012: Am I right to end the relationhip and get on with my life?
In a word: Yes....
Good luck.... (read in full...)
My husband, the stripper and the bouncer
Q. A few days ago, my husband came to me and told me that he had been taken advantage of by a stripper. He had gone to a strip club for lunch and a show. A stripper convinced him to go in the back room for a private dance for $20. Once there, she ...
A. 10 January 2012: A strip club for lunch???
Let me guess... they had a two-cheeseburgers-for-the-price-of-one special that day??????
I think your man thinks that you're pretty naive.... and are going to believe his story.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
What do you think about during sex?
Q. I am curious to know what other people think about during sex. I asked a girlfriend this once and she laughed and then started to speak, but then declined to answer saying that it would ruin it for her if she told me. I am guessing my w...
A. 10 January 2012: There are many and varied things that I think about whilest having sex.... For example: I re-play a golf hole where I got a double-bogey..... or, a tennis point that lead to my opponent winning a set and match.... Sometimes, I even keep a 5-star ... (read in full...)
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