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writes:Hi everyone,Having been a member of this website for quite a while now, I've found it genuinely heart warming and pleasing when someone who has asked for advice comes back with a happy ending. So I thought I'd do the same in the hope it might brighten up the days of the people who read this.I asked for advice a few months ago on a girl (S) I had been waiting on for a very long time. At the time I wrote it I genuinely thought she was the one. After the advice I received, I started to question why I thought she was "the one". However, I was still really struggling with the idea of letting go the chance of being with her.A short while later I started developing feelings for a different girl, (H) I had been talking to her for a few months but had never met her. I knew we were very similar, we have the same interests, views etc etc. We eventually met up for the primary reason of playing and writing music together as that is how we first discovered each other. After meeting her a couple more times I knew she was the one, it sounds silly after only 3 or 4 meetings, but I can't explain it. She completely opened my eyes to what I could have, I have never met someone so similar to me and I'm sure I never will again. It brought the entire situation with S into perspective, and showed me that she really wasn't anything special, espeically compared to H. And as was pointed out on here, she was keeping me as a back up incase something went wrong with her boyfriend. So I told H how I felt, and she confessed that she felt completely the same way, I explained the situation with S to her, so we left a bit of space between the whole S saga and entering into a relationship officially.I can now say I am the happiest I have ever been, H really is the most incredible person I have ever met and we share a bond and connection that I have never come close to experiencing before. In the past I have had big issues with confidence due to a past experience, but H has completely taken those insecurities away and I am now the most confident I have ever been. Since I told her that I wanted to be with her it's been about 5 months and we are totally in love! I'm also happy to say that we have continued playing and writing music together and are in the process of writing and recording our music.If you're in a similar rut to the one I was in for years, I would take any advice given from the outside and from the people on this website as it is totally honest, true, and very helpful. And if you want any advice, please feel free to message me! :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (18 January 2012):
 I'm glad to learn just how well things are working out for you....You know, I first fell for (G) when I was sixteen... but she wasn't much interested in me... and she ran off and married (R)....Meanwhile, I went to college, where I met (M), and fell in love with her and we married... tho' I REALLY had the hots for (P)..... (but she didn't reciprocate!)....Later, I had a fling with (G)... because (R) proved to be such a jerk.... but, meanwhile, she's spawned kids, (B) and (B).... After that, I met and fooled around with another (M)... but, that didn't work out, so I started dating (D).... but she was in love with (B)... and wouldn't dump him, even tho' I loved her more... and told her that I'd put out if she WOULD dump (B).... Frustrated, I started seeing (J). She was a delightful girl... and we hit it off well..... However, after some time, my business (with M) failed, and I had to leave (B), for (N), where I was able to get another job... Whilest there, I met (B) via a personal ad in the local tabloid. We hit it off pretty well... but she wanted to become "official" and I didn't... so we went our separate ways....Then, I met (J). She was a nice girl, but couldn't hold a job and had a sleep problem (insomnia)...so... whilest we could do nik-nik all night, she was often tired during the day, so we couldn't go to afternoon baseball games (there's a AAA farm team in (N), for the Mets, at the time... now it's a Nats farm team).Later, I dated (D) who I liked to dance with, then another (D),.... then (C) who was married,... and (J), who lied to me, then (L) (I nicknamed her "E").... who was jealous... so I had to dump her....After that, I met up with (C) who was delightful, but who wouldn't put out, after a while.... so, now, I hang with (B) (not the "old" "B", bot another one - tho' she also has red hair and pretty eyes!).... and we are hitting it off well....I love your story, as it triggered a few memories of my own!!!!Good luck....
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (17 January 2012):
 Congratulations, I am so happy things worked out for you. Thankyou for sharing this with us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): Nice one....we all love a happy ending! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): Hi there!
I read your story and i felt complety related to..
The things is that, i have had two penpals almost months ago. With (J) things were really slowly: we met, talked and realized we had so much in common but i didn't felt he hwas the one until i met (N). I have talking to (N) almost 4 months and i am in love with him and i will meet him up in NYC in a couple of weeks because i live in Perú. The problem is that he once told he was in love with a girl in Australia and that he thought she was the one but i feel there is something going on with us. So, what i am also expecting is that my situation with him will end like yours: i love him so i have decided now that i will tell him my feelings.
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