He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 12 March 2012: Butterfly: I think that you've missed an important detail. To wit: Part of your healing is for you to NOT be available for s*x with this guy!!! How much clearer can anybody make this to you?????... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my urges may ruin everything!
Q. In my country, relationships are really hard to be understood by foreign people. And that is because of our religion, culture and education. it's just full of weirdness lol. I won't tell you about how it became so complicated but just try to ...
A. 11 March 2012: I suggest you move to Sweden or Honduras, where you and your man-friend can extricate yourselves from "religious" dogmas!!! Good luck.... and keep safe...... (read in full...)
My parents don't approve of my boyfriend and I hate sneaking around but I have no other option. What should I do?
Q. I am 19 years old. I figured by now my parents wouldn't be able to control my love life but i guess it didn't work out that way. I met a guy, he's 20 and we've been talking for 4 months now. I enjoy being around him and everything about him is just ...
A. 11 March 2012: I'm guessing that your parents would be far happier if you dated an unemployed Harvard MBA, rather than this sorry construction guy who, possibly, will be able to make and support a great life for you.... You're 19 years old!!!! IF your parents ... (read in full...)
How can I be more accepting of other people's pasts?
Q. Hey all, Whenever I meet a new girl, we get to be friends and then i find out that she has slept with many people before me. I know that it shouldn't bother me, but it does. I feel like I get turned off? It's like I have this view that those wh...
A. 11 March 2012: Have YOU ever experienced a "one-night stand?"... (read in full...)
He tried to cheat with my best friend now he's after his ex again.
Q. Number 1 is what happened to me in 2010. Number 2 is what is currently happening. Please Help !! 1) Okay so my situation is really weird. I met this guy who is now my husband on May 26th 2009. That same year in August I lost my virginity to hi...
A. 11 March 2012: Please wait until March 10, 2015..... and, if you've become an adult by then, you may re-submit this....... (read in full...)
Is it OK if the girl calls after 4 dates, or does that ruin 'the chase'?
Q. Guys Should we call you after say 4 dates? Or do you lose interest and back off if you dont feel like you're in " the chase" Honestly. If you've started calling/texting less what gives?...
A. 11 March 2012: A REAL savvy guy/stud can have a girl calling - repeatedly and desparately - after just two dates..... In fact, the BEST OF US (I'm one of them!) can have the girl calling to us before we even get home from dropping her off after the FIRST ... (read in full...)
My parents do not approve of my LD online boyfriend and want me to break up with him
Q. Dear Aunts, I met my boyfriend on facebook like 2 years ago. We have developed feeling to each other since then and we started dating. It didnt take long for us to develop such feeling coz we have the similar interests. We live in 2 different cont...
A. 11 March 2012: WHO's "dating" this guy????? ..... YOU????.... or your PARENTS????
How hard would it be to say to them (your parents): "When you become ME, then you can advise ME how to conduct my life????? Until then, I will conduct my life as I see fit, and... (read in full...)
He said he hasn't loved me for a long time.
Q. Hi guys I am very sad and hurting right now because My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me because he told me he hasn’t felt love for me the same way as before in a long time. We were constantly arguing almost everyday. He used to say he loved me...
A. 11 March 2012: Do you have any problem with saying to him: "you're right.... we don't have much in-common... you go your way and I'll go my way, and may we never encounter one-another again..."????
THAT's the REAL "answer" to your question....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why do I want my ex back when he was so awful to me?
Q. i was in an abusive relationship for about 5 months.. i love him very much he was everything to me. i gave up my family and friends for him, we were living together at my apartment which he didnt help at all.... he was verbally abuse with me, he ...
A. 11 March 2012: "any advises?"
You just enumerated every reason in the book to walk away from this sorry excuse for a man.... and NOW you come on here and hope that someone will validate that you could/should do anything but walk away from this piece of human ex... (read in full...)
He wont let me move on!
Q. Whats going on in his head? At the start of this year my live in partner and i split up, this was because he was abusive to me and because he said id given him kids he didnt want. He is due to move into his new flat anytime now, he lives at his ...
A. 11 March 2012: He "...wont he let me (you) move on" because he likes s*x with you.... and.... as long as YOU are dumb enough to let him get away with it, you will NEVER be rid of this sorry residue of mankind.....
Hope you figure this out soon..... Good luc... (read in full...)
The expression "stop looking and you'll find someone" isn't working for me!
Q. I've heard this over and over again... That the reason I can't find a girlfriend is because I'm looking for one, and that as soon as I stop looking, I'll suddenly end up in a relationship. "Happens when you least expect it," "I found my partner when ...
A. 11 March 2012: DESPARATE guys NEVER find girlfriends....
You must STOP looking for a life partner.... and then (and ONLY THEN) are you likely to find a partner....
I believe that you may have fallen in to that trap of BELIevING that you "stopped looking... (read in full...)
What steps do I take to get back and be happy by myself ,knowing that I'm not single
Q. for the first time in our relationship..which is long distance from a while, my boyfirnd of two years ,who is too bust ,stressed and burdened with work and responsibilities in his life ..is asking me for "space" he also said that i give less ...
A. 11 March 2012: He's dumping you... Figure out how to react to that, and you life will be much simpler....... (read in full...)
He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 11 March 2012: HOw many different ways can we Agony Aunts and Uncles tell you that there is absolutely NO REASON why you should make yourself available as a "FWB" with this guy????.... and that you should tell him to "f*ck off" until/unless he becomes an ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know if he can be my b/f but yet he keeps texting me
Q. So I'd been seeing this guy for three weeks, known him for a month. We'd seen each other 3 times in this period of time. I finally plucked up the courage yesterday to ask him what was going on between us and he said he wasn't sure what he wanted and ...
A. 11 March 2012: It "means" that he wants to keep you on the hook long enough to see if you will put out (do s*x) with him.... and - if you will - then he will TELL YOU that he and you are "in a relationship."
IF you are smart enough to tell him that you like him... (read in full...)
My husband is fearful of touching me, I want to know techniques and ways I can satisfy him?
Q. My Husband is sexually so active (2-3 times/day in an intercourse, and last for 50-60 mins each time or 7-8 time if masturbating),for the first few months of our marriage, i used to bleed after intercourse, and feel sore even though, i checked with ...
A. 11 March 2012: He "sounds" like a guy who has REAL problems with REAL intamacy with a REAL woman like you....
Do you want this to be the intimacy of the rest of your life? ...(of the rest of your MARRIED life?).... or do you prefer to get out early (read: n... (read in full...)
How do you date someone suffering from depression?
Q. i just recently learned my bf may be suffering depression. I asked him what's going on with our sex life and he didn't want to talk about it but eventually said he has no sex drive. I asked if it had been a problem in past relationships and he said ...
A. 11 March 2012: At your age,... I'd kiss off this guy and convince myself that there are OOOODLES of other guys who are such a handful to hang with....... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting? He's chatting to other women and telling them he loves them!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 1/2 yrs and I recently discovered he is chatting with women from the Phillippines via webcam again. This is something we got into several arguments about 4 years ago (and he promised to stop) and now I've discovered ...
A. 11 March 2012: How much - how many times, and it what manner - is he going to mislead you before you "get it?????"
HE doesn't love you.... He thinks you are a convenient place to put his pe*is when he wants to make if feel good.... and YOU allow him to do so...... (read in full...)
Is this guy using me for sex?
Q. X and i had this brother sister thing going on at first and made it very public. we got very close and we even have the same friends. later, i realized that i had a crush on him (X) i told him that one day and after a brief period of not talking ...
A. 11 March 2012: Girls who are content to have a "FWB" "relationship" often learn that the GUY who is taking part with them REALLY WANTS an "FWB" relationship.... whilest THEY secretly want a "REAL" relationship....
The two are incompatible - to the MAXIMUM!... (read in full...)
I feel so undeserving of him! He's a 10 and I'm a 3. What do I do about it?
Q. At 21, after 1 serious relationship, I think I have a little idea on what kind of man I would want to date. I know of this guy who's extremely funny and easy-going that everybody enjoys being around him. There are so much more about him that are ...
A. 10 March 2012: WHAT is your criterion such that HE is a "10" and YOU are a "3"??????
Is it because HE can type 40 words per minute, and you can only type 16? Is it because HE can hold his breath underwater for almost 5 minutes and YOU can hold your's only for... (read in full...)
How can I get closure when she won't give it to me?
Q. Hi All, Long story short, a woman I was dating for about 8 months and whom I supported financially and emotionally turned out to be using me and was seeing and sleeping with another man (who was separated but not divorced from his wife). I was crus...
A. 10 March 2012: SHE doesn't need to give YOU closure.... THAT is something that YOU can generate from within......
Move on with your life and try your darndest to forget this unpleasant chapter. You'll feel better soon... I guarantee it!!!!... (read in full...)
Can a minor bicycle riding accident cause the hymen to tear?
Q. Can a minor bike riding accident cause the hymen to tear? I had a bicycle riding accident when I was younger. I was still learning how to ride it and hadn't gotten used to breaking and getting down smoothly. I hit myself down there on the cycle ...
A. 10 March 2012: Yes. There are many common/typical/routine activities which a young woman might engage in and, thereby, tear her hymen.... Sports - especially horseback riding and gymnastics - are well-known for this....
If you don't have complications (such as... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my boyfriend or give my ex another chance?
Q. Hello, My question isn't a dire circumstance as most questions on this site often are. It is just a confusing situation. About a month ago I was in school in Indiana, I began dating and met a wonderful man (lets call him Dan). He has a job, he ha...
A. 9 March 2012: "Sounds" like whatever is going on between you and EITHER of these guys is not very mature and adult at this point...
Let things simmer for a while....and don't convince yourself that you have to "tip your hand" to either of them... and let us k... (read in full...)
I have been paying for everything while he saves his money...should I leave if he doesn't follow through on his promise?
Q. I havent been wed very long but me and my hubby both work, we both earn about the same plus I have outgoings and he doesnt. The problem is is that I pay for everything and and its been this way all the time. before I met him I had savings. I could ...
A. 9 March 2012: AAahhhh, money problems.....
If you and he make equal amounts, then each should contribute to the household, in proportion.....
IF you have a few bucks left over from before you were wed, then it's YOUR's.... and use it as you wish....
Fran... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I don't want my husband's nephew around anymore?
Q. my husbands nephew is down right disrespectful and disgusting and rude. he talks like a sailor, and spits chewing tabbaco and tells his friends he want to have sex w/ me. i hate it when he comes to our house to help my husband work, he not only is a ...
A. 9 March 2012: He sounds like a jerk... that kind of jerk that you (or ANYBODY!) would like to not have around. WHY is he "around" you (and your kids), anyway?????
Tell Hubby that his nephew isn't welcome in your world (your family's world) and insist that he ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to make sure you fall in love and stay in love?
Q. My on-again-off-again boyfriend is coming over this weekend. We've been "off" for a little less than two months now. My concern is that every time we get together after a few weeks apart, the passion we have for each other is intense. But then over ...
A. 9 March 2012: I'm suspect that when you and he "...get together after a few weeks apart.." that you do S*X..... Am I correct?
If "Yes," then you KNOW what is the answer to your question.... STOP putting out for him, casually, and make putting out a conditio... (read in full...)
I want to leave abusive spouse but don't want to end up in a shelter!
Q. Hi agony aunts, I'm in need of some help. I am married with three children and I am living with a physically and emotionally abusive spouse. He has cheated on me in the past several times and he said he would change but he has not. I want to leave ...
A. 9 March 2012: You, and your kids, are 'way better off in a shelter than you are with an abusive "husband"......... (read in full...)
How do I bring up to my wife that I know she's using her vibrator rather than having sex?
Q. I'm married with young kids and have been with my wife for 10 years. Over the last few years our sex life has become almost non existant which we put donw to the pressures of having young children. Recently I have discovered that my wife is using a ...
A. 9 March 2012: I suggest you sit her down and say to her, "Honey, I notice that you are using lots of batteries these days.. but you haven't worn out, or replaced the bulb in your flashlight for a Loooooong time. Is there anything special about your flashlight ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong because on our 1st official date I turned down giving oral sex?
Q. Dear Cupid, So i've been seeing this guy but not for that long. We've hung out briefly and last night he took me out on an official date. After dinner we left and went to a park to check out the view and went back to the car. He kept asking if I...
A. 9 March 2012: Most of us guys are savvy enough to keep you "on the hook" for 3 or 4 dates before we ask you do give us the hum. This guy is 'way too quick to ask you to pleasure him.... so YOU are OK to tell him to take a hike....
Hopefully, he will learn fr... (read in full...)
My g/f has had 35 plus partners and I know 4 of them!
Q. my girlfriend of 10years has had about 35previous partners an i can't stop thinking about it and 4of them i know. i have these feelings of anger alot i still even think theres more an she is lying an theres a chance she cheated with 2 or 3 aswell im ...
A. 9 March 2012: AuntyEm: Thanks for so delicately delivering the message that this OP so desparately needs to hear.... Amen!!!... (read in full...)
Why do I keep dreaming of a 65 year old man?
Q. i keep having a dream about my great aunts husband and me getting together hes not my family through blood she is and hes 65 years old im only 29 what does this mean i have had this dream before like 6 time please help...
A. 8 March 2012: Sounjds to me like you have a vivid imagination which manifests itself in your dreams.... and you should enjoy THAT and not worry about it....... (read in full...)
Should the girl lead the way, when the boy is unable to achieve an erection??
Q. ive been seeing a really great guy and the other night we decided we were ready to take it to the next level and have sex. we didnt have very long before i had to go so we went into his room and started messing around, to be honest i realised then ...
A. 8 March 2012: I wouldn't make much of an issue of it. You said, in the first place, that you were pressed for time..... THEN, you note that his flat-mate came home..... NOT what I would call ideal circumstances for two people to spend quality time together in ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong, to want to know what happened between my bf & his ex??
Q. me and my boyfriend were in tesco the other day and we saw his ex! it was weird she followed us round the store, I dont know much about his ex as when i ask him he says he doesnt want talk about it, ive asked my mum too coz i thought it was weird ...
A. 8 March 2012: IF you press him to provide details about "what happened" between him and his ex- you can be pretty sure that he'll pose it in just the way he thinks you'd like to hear it... I suggest that you keep quiet about the matter.... let him put it behin... (read in full...)
I want a threesome with my wife & another man, how do I make it happen?
Q. I have been happily married for 12 years with 3 kids. I want to do a 3sum with my wife and another man. I don't want to do anything with the man, the idea just seems very exciting. I know she would never even consider doing a 3sum with anothe...
A. 8 March 2012: It's a stupid idea, and you'll be wise to erase it from your mind.
It's OK for YOU to have that fantasy... and keep it in your head..... but don't let it slip out of your mouth....
Good luck...
P.S. Isn't alcohol just the greatest for ge... (read in full...)
My bf attacks me about my past, how can I stop him?
Q. Hello all. I've seen a lot of questions here from men who cannot deal with their girlfriend's past, but I'm in at the opposite end of the problem and I need help. I'm sorry this is so long. I have a lot more sexual experience than my boyfriend. I ...
A. 8 March 2012: I didn't have to read beyond your second paragraph before I was absolutely sure that I could tell you that this guy is probably going to keep this up as long as you permit it.... then will keep it up beyond that.....
He's "tipped his hand" ab... (read in full...)
I wet my bf's bed, how do I reduce the embarrassment?
Q. I have an embarrassing problem, that i'm almost too embarrassed to ask you all about. Last night I stayed at my boyfriend's house, we've been together 2 and a half years. I woke up to discover I had wet the bed. I was absolutley mortified, as I hav...
A. 8 March 2012:
RELAX!!!!!... (read in full...)
How can I bring back the spark?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating 3 years all together, where inlove with eachother, and we was best friends when we got together, but of a lately the spark has dissapeared, he doesnt like mushy paragraphs anymore, we think its because he isnt ...
A. 8 March 2012: Be patient....... (read in full...)
How do I find out if he wants more than sex??
Q. I am a 20 year old girl and im very confused! I havent had a long term bf in about a year or so. Any thing since that was just dating. But now, i want a relationship. Ive being seen a friend of a friend for the past 2 months. Im not sure if what he ...
A. 8 March 2012: For a guy, s*x IS everything.....
But, it's worth it, if you wish, to learn more about this guy and find out if he is one of those few who actually likes women for other than s*x.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My b/f of almost a year has not come to see me after a medical procedure. Should I be upset?
Q. I'm really upset that my boyfriend of 11 months did not come to see me after I had an out-patient medical procedure. He lives 1-1/2 hours away and knew about this procedure well in advance. My parents came into town to take me the day of ...
A. 8 March 2012: Of course you discuss it with him. It may be too late now... but you could STILL tell him, "I would really like to have you here with me whilest I recover from this..."
IF he fails to react to that, then you know quite a bit more about him.... ... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer girls who are high maintenance??
Q. Hmm, so my boyfriend of 1.5 years was talking about his ex-girlfriend (who he dumped after 4 months) saying she was high-maintenance. I asked him if I am high-maintenance too, and he said I'm no maintenance! Is that a good thing or a bad thing?? ...
A. 8 March 2012: I think there are two kinds of "high maintenance" women. One is those who believe that they want to pursue the "good life" the "high life".... such as dressing in expensive clothing, driving a fancy (read: "expensive") car, attending fancy ... (read in full...)
One day he's all over me, the next day its nothing, what's the deal with this guy?
Q. Dear Cupid, I need advice on this situation...Ok, my b/f and I were on a break for the whole month of February per his request as he needed to sort out his life. We did text each other through that month but nothing too exciting. Early March, h...
A. 8 March 2012: The confusion appears to come about because HE would like to have s*x with you WITHOUT the complications of a "real" relationship. YOU would like to have a "real" relationship... and would cheerfully include s*x in that relationship..... AND you've ... (read in full...)
Awesome friend with benefits situation, but I want more and now I don't know if I should end it or try and move things forward..
Q. I feel like I have sort of an uncommon situation... None of my friends ever quite know what to tell me. Here it goes: So, I have been thinking about ending things with my long term friend with benefits. He and I both care for each other deeply, ...
A. 8 March 2012: FWB arrangements are almost always awkward.... because they tickle at the edges of a "relationship"... but very rarely become one.....
For a guy, "FWB" is ideal... HE gets s*x without any pressure to be nice or to hold up his end of a real rom... (read in full...)
How can a guy be still in love with me after 15 years?
Q. How can a guy be still in love after 15 years? He is a family friend, same age and loves me like a crazy. He proposed me few times but I wasn’t ready to get married and didn’t accept. I got married 8 years ago but he is not dating anyone because he ...
A. 8 March 2012: YOU don't have to do a darn thing for this guy....
HE has chosen to continue "carrying the torch" for you, despite his knowing that YOU have gone on with your life...
I WAS that guy for the longest time.... but - after a while - I figured out ... (read in full...)
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