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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): JOIN the site too.
He will either dig it, or feel ashamed that he's on it, or end your relationship. It's a gamble but it's worth it!
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (31 January 2012):
it's only harmless fun (as he probably claims) until it gets more serious. What you do next is up to you, but you shouldn't just brush this under the carpet unless you want to get a nasty surprise further down the road.
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reader, Latti +, writes (29 January 2012):
RED FLAG!!! Not Good....this behavior will lead to infidelity. He may say its harmless....well let's see how harmless it would be if YOU joined a dating website! This should not be the behavior of any MARRIED man! Don't buy this...its garbage and he is looking for an affair.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (29 January 2012):
 "Sex dating site".... the clue is in the title... it's for single people who want sex or who want to date. (cheating, lying, married people also use it.. but they have to lie and say stupidness like "my wife doesn't exist, or my wife doesn't understand me")
He aint single and he aint available.. so what is he doing on there?
If he's lonely and wants friends, tell him to go gymn, pick up a hobby or join facebook or myspace which is full of kids, old people, family and friends.
What happens if you join a dating sex site too?... wonder if he'd be worried if you wanted to find some friends on there.
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reader, themusicgoddess19  +, writes (29 January 2012):
 You legitimately can't be serious. Yeah, that is obviously something to be worrying about!!! It's called C O F R O N T A T I O N , and suggest you do it soon.. smh.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (28 January 2012):
 Oh dear. This is not good at all. What if he hooks up with someone? Yes, be worried. Ask him what is going on.
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reader, N91 +, writes (28 January 2012):
 I'm sorry but this question cannot be serious...
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (28 January 2012):
 WOW girl. this is not harmless fun. If my boyfriend did this he'd be out on his ear.
You needd to stop this now and sort him out or kick him out.
either way, don't let him walk all over you.
He obviously knows he can have the best of both worlds if you're soft on him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 January 2012):
 my husband....dating....
NOT harmless fun
Does his profile say MARRIED????
DID he tell you he joined or did you discover this on your own?
It's not a good sign at all...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 January 2012):
 Correction.. Shouldn't be worried, you should be pissed!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 January 2012):
No, you should be worried you should be pissed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): It is laughable how desperate some people are. Come on now, if he was a good catch he wouldnt need a date site to cheat on you. He is a joke, so dont let him make a joke of you. He wants to behave like he is single, so let him be single. You will do better by far.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 Make a fake profile and arrange to meet him and then see how he reacts.
This is not good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): Its harmless if you dont mind him doing it. If you do and he has not told you then he is cheating. Only three things can happen now: You accept he cheats on you, suggest an open relationship/marriage or divorce his self serving ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): Divorce and him and take him for Half and he can get his jollies off by being seen as a worthelss old fart.
Seriously, the Men of this site can tell you that Women hold the power of the dating and mating world.
He wants to play with fire - hell hath no fury.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): I'd be afraid, very afraid. And while your at it, I'd make an account and write on his page...."Hi, remember me?!!"
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (28 January 2012):
 You cannot honesty compute your husband joining a dating web-site as harmless fun. Harmless fun would be going to the strip club with his male buddies, playing some pranks, or lightly flirting with a few female friends. How many healthy, satisfied married people do you know that created accounts on a dating site? Get real. Don't bullshit yourself to make his actions seem acceptable. This is not OK in any way, shape or form.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 January 2012):
 It's "harmless" if you think it's OK for him to fool around with other girls. OTHERWISE, what he's doing is a "red flag" that he's intent of compromising his vows to you.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): This is not a car forum, it is DATING. You are not included in it. Of course you should be worried. You should also be prepared for it leading to a divorce.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 I'd be worried.
This is not harmless fun. He is seeking out other women and making himself visible to them.
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