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writes:Hi - I am 40, married for 10 years and have 3 amazing and beautiful kids. My wife keeps thinks that I have a problem of looking to other women telling me that I do it also in her presence. As for me I have no idea of what she is talking but I admit I might have done it without any intention. Can anyone advise me on this? Do I have a problem of looking if yes what can I do to stop that for I love my wife so much and hate to see her feel that way! Help please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2012): I think some men make it more obvious than others. Women as well. We are all human and like to look at the oposite sex. Maybe she is "looking" for it. If that's the case, she has an obsessive problem. You need to tell her to stop being so insecure and to chill out. I think there is a big diference betweeen making it known in an obnoxious way that your checking someone out and just looking casually at someone and admiring. Guys aren't usually too smoothe in that department lol ;)
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 If you feel that you do not do this and it's her being paranoid, then you shouldn't beat yourself up about it. Reassure her that you love her.
do something romantic, get someone to babysit for a few hours and go out on a date, or stay in and do something romantic. Show her how amazing you think she is.
Because you have been together for so long, she probably has lost her self esteem, and realises there are younger "prettier" people.
It's a woman thing, just do whatever you can to make her feel special.
How it was at the beginning :)
good luck xx
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 I used to date a girl who behaved just as you have described your wife..... She would chide me if I LOOKED at ANY OTHER WOMAN... even if I had no choice.... such as, for example, if we were walking on the beach and another couple approached us. (I thought it was appropriate to greet such people!)... I asked her: "What do you expect me to do????" She said that I should move my eyes down and away from the couple!!!I said, "That's downright IMPOLITE!!!"... but she held fast and INSISTED that I do that....I dumped her sorry bottom shortly thereafter.... Her jealousy/insecurity was 'way to much for me to accomodate. Ironically, about the same time that this came to pass, I'd intended to ask her to MARRY ME!!! I never made THAT proposal... and went on my way.... (I see that YOU'RE stuck (already married),... and can't just walk away as I did. I guess you have to tell you the Missus that she'd better "buck up" and learn to accept this... or that SHE can go on her own way.)I'm not very patient with people who expect outlandish behaviour from me... or, who partake of outlandish behaviour, themselves....Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): Look, i dont want to alarm you but most people who do this are either very insecure or projecting their own guilt onto you. By this i mean they are judging you from their own standard of behavior.
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