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writes:Hope someone can help, I got talking to someone on a internet chatroom and we have a lot in common.After chatting for a while we both wanted to meet each other and we did and got on really well together, only thing is that she's 55 and i'm 27, thats one hell of an age gap but I don't care about age.We've been on a couple of dates and we're now an item but I don't know how to tell my family because I don't know how they'll react.Hope someone can give me advice, thanks.
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reader, Aged beauty  +, writes (15 February 2012):
 I am 13 years older than my boyfriend, i thought it was more ackward for me than it was for him when i friest met his mom, but we get along great now, only thing is i have to remember talk about the good old days , because it makes me sound like his mother, and not his girlfriend,, i save those stories for texting to her lol, age is hard tho,,I had an issue as the female and the way i hand it now it to keep my self up, feel young at heart but not stupid and never be his mother,
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 January 2012):
 why do you have to tell them so soon?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (29 January 2012):
 I would wait a few months into the relationship before you relay the news to your family. In the flesh, preferably over dinner or when everyone happens to be in the same room.
They'll be concerned about the age because she's old enough to be your mother. Also, about the fact she can't bare anymore children. That if you two wed, you'll outlive her and have to deal with being a widower. Maybe they'll think this is a "cougar" phase you're going thru. Or they may be very accepting of your new girlfriend.
However, I'm sure the age gap will raise a few eyebrows.
As long as she's a fairly healthy 55 year old woman and you don't want biological children (or you're both open to adoption) then you have a good chance of being very happy with this woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): I think you should wait until you have been with her for some time and are certain about the relationship and how it is panning out before you tell your parents.The major issue with the age gap is children. Your parents will be concerned, most likely, about the fact that she can't have children now. They would probably want that for you.To be honest, they will probably just put up with the relationship for now, and presume that after a few years it will founder. Which, I hate to say it, it probably will. That is a very big age gap, and although you might not think so now, as you are relatively so young, you might come to a time in your life when you want more than just a companion - when you want to have a family.It is almost noble to be with someone so much older. Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 January 2012):
 Why would you handle this woman's introduction to your family any differently than you would the introduction of any other (younger or older) woman????? WHAT DOES YOUR FAMILY HAVE TO DO WITH YOUR PRIVATE LIFE?????????
Good luck.....
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (28 January 2012):
 You're a MAN! "I don't care about age"! There ya go you said it. They'll either love it or hate it, but you should come clean before someone else get's in to tell them first. I was 18 when I was seeing a 40 year old. And if I didn't mind then I think you'll be arite :)
Good luck :)
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (28 January 2012):
 Oh - I'm sure you'll get all the advice you can handle - and some - when your folks find out!
Listen mate, enjoy it while you can, I'm sure she is! I wouldn't bother about telling my folks as it MAY not last.
See how things pan out over a period of say, six months, then if you're both sure you're in it for the long term, then to Hell with what anyone - family or friends - thinks, it's YOUR life and you're well old enough to make that decision.
Good luck.
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