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anonymous
writes:Is this part of his game playing. I recently ended a 7yr relationship. My ex still lives at my home but will be moving out shortly. The reason for this was because he was abusive to me one night after he had been out. Whilst i reaconise that he has been abusive in the past, you become confused as afterwards he turns into the nice kind person i once liked. Following this icident, my children witnessed him verbally abuse me and his raging temper. He was accusing me of ruining his life, giving him kids he didnt want and critising me. There has been calmness now and he is being very nice to our kids, we havent talked and i go upstairs in the evening to avoid sitting with him. He is sleeping on the sofa and is moving out soon. Although he did say he felt terrible thats the only sorry ive had. We share a laptop and i have noticed he has started emailing his ex, trying to invite himself over to her house and asking for her phone number. They go back yrs as they have a 26 yr old son. he is 43. I have read up on abusive relationship and is this way of hurting me or is it that he needs someone to boost his ego?
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reader, Domolovescookies  +, writes (24 January 2012):
 He's probably just looking for a place to live... a place where he can get emotional and sexual needs satisfied is always a plus.
Dont delude yourself, if he's abusive, dont even go there. It doesnt matter why he's doing it anymore, it only matters that hes leaving.
though... im shocked u let him stay... most girls would have kicked him out
goodluck
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 January 2012):
 REgardless of the details... this guy isn't worth the drama and angst that you can incur if/when you spend time with him.... Find a nice guy.....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): He is a loser and is looking for the next woman to live with and abuse. Nothing more.An abusive man such as him; uses and abuses women. He is not capable of loving them UNLESS he seeks professional therapy to overcome the abuse of his childhood.He is no good to any woman in his current state.He is doing what he is doing out of selfishness and not to deliberately hurt you.PLEASE kick him out immediately. You and your children will be far better without such a darkness that breeds sadness and misery into your home.Then, seek individual counselling and counselling for children so you can arm yourselves with knowledges, decision making tools that have everything to do with happiness and good emotional and mental health.When you are emotionally healthy, you make better decisions about loving another.*hugs*
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