If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 14 March 2012: OP: "26-29" is "young". IF you hope to cloud the issue by bringing up age, you're wasting your time. ALL the replies stand....... (read in full...)
I've developed a strong hate for gay men because of a failed legal dispute, how do I change this?
Q. Ive been involved in a legal dispute with a major airline the last two years over a discrimination claim. Ive now lost the case and the man I accused of discriminating me is gay. Since the incident (and a few bar happenings), Ive overall developed a ...
A. 1 March 2012: I suggest that you close your eyes, imagine that the guy you claimed discriminated against you was a buff, studly type, who you'd like to have take you to bed and pleasure you for the evening..... THEN, decide if you would like to continue hating ... (read in full...)
My ex wants us to start sleeping together again! What is he playing at? Does he not care how this will affect the kids?
Q. Is my ex partner trying to play mind games? 2 months ago i broke up with my partner of 8 yrs as he can been verbally and physically abusive towards me. He accused me of giving him children he didnt want and ruining his life, i was also accused of ...
A. 1 March 2012: You've seen it here in several "replies"..... HE wants/needs some s*x.... and he suspects that you are vulnerable.... hence likely to acquiesce to his sordid preferences.....
The choice is yours; Put out and be his strumpet, or, refuse and keep... (read in full...)
Are we official boyfriend and girlfriend? Or will it only be official when I get back?
Q. hello again! :) so me and my crush got together a week ago. we went out for a drink and then went to the movies. i think he did try to make a move but i was too scared and looked tense. i didn't even give him a kiss goodbye...just said: 'thanks!...
A. 1 March 2012: It will be "official" when you have the real, notarized piece of paper that sez it is....... (read in full...)
I cant stand watching my friend self-destruct! What can I do?
Q. My best mate drinks too many energy drinks, swears too much, is getting into fights over his gf who probs won't last long but he's distancing himself from everyone and it's his life but I can't stand and watch him shut down. What do I to? I know I ...
A. 1 March 2012: Having a dear one who is self-destructing is much like watching your favorite football team lose the Super Bowl (as I experienced, recently).
All you can do is watch....... (read in full...)
He keeps texting me but then standing me up! Why wont he leave me alone?
Q. Why is he doing this? why won't he leave me alone? ? There's this guy that I use to like a lot. We use to work together (not anymore) he'd stare at me all the time and only flirted with me and ignored all the other girls so I thought he was i...
A. 1 March 2012: He won't "leave (you) alone" because YOU are not writing back to him to tell him to "...f*ck-off, I'm not interested in your stupid games..." .... I'm sure that, once you do that, this question will disappear.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I found my husband was looking for sex with a transexual! What should I do?
Q. Last week i went on the history tab on my computer and found a transexual dating site. As i hadn't visited it i checked my husbands emails to find that he had joined this site. I entered his password and found he was looking for a descreet ...
A. 1 March 2012: Yes, to SVC's "reply"....
All bets are "off" until you reveal to him that you've become aware of his on-line solicitation....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
There is no blood between us, and no ancestors in common, but I still feel uncomfortable with our shared family connections, what should I do?
Q. I know it's way too late to do anything about this but it still bothers me. Most of my dad's side of the family lives in Canada. My dad has an uncle, Brian (my great uncle), and Brian is married to Annie. Annie is not my great aunt by blood, s...
A. 1 March 2012: There's no "blood" connection... hence no DNA connection.... Soooo, what's keeping you from carrying on just as you have been????
By-the-by: WHO is grilling you, these days, about what (if any) is your "family" tie with the guy you date????... (read in full...)
If we get serious now how will I know he wont do bad things like he did in the past? Should I give him a chance?
Q. This will be a bit long, but please bare with me. I've known this guy "D" for about 6 yrs. We met when I was 16 and he was 20. We dated for a couple months but then I started dating someone else so we stopped talking. But for the past 6 yrs I've ...
A. 1 March 2012: The reason he "can't settle" is because NO GUY WANTS TO SETTLE!!!!..... and find that there might be a more-enticing girl right around the corner!!!!
WE (men) just LOVE to chase after women... in hopes that they will satisfy our carnal needs...... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 29 February 2012: If you'd like to get validation for deciding to dump your porn-watching partner - who ignores you, evidently, because of that - I'll be happy to offer that validation.
Dump him and get on with your life....... (read in full...)
After our good living together trial period, everything has gone downhill!
Q. Ok so im having a big issue here and im looking for advice or peoples opinion on what they think. So, one day after being tired of being alone, and also needing a place to stay, i decided to look online to try and find a compatible match for my ...
A. 29 February 2012: Yes, you submittal and situation IS complicated - as you've said... So my response is necessarily a bit complicated, too. HOWEVER, the conclusions and "solution" are clear. Here it is..... YOU reacted to your situation - being alone and needin... (read in full...)
Should a married woman accept a drink from a man at a bar?
Q. Do y'all think it's OK for a married woman to accept a purchased drink from a man at a bar? My wife often goes out with her girlfriends. Sometimes they sit around a table like a bunch of hens cackling for hours - men run for the hills. But other ...
A. 29 February 2012: A woman SHOULD accept a drink from a man IF she thinks that he is hot, and she would like to go back to his hotel/motel room with him and do s*x. After all, for a man to buy a drink for a lady... isn't it reasonable for him to expect her to put ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never calls and it's starting to bother me.
Q. I know this isn't a life altering issue or anything, but it's starting to really bother me. My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time together and we text every day. We rarely talk on the phone- maybe once a week. When we talk, and the conversation ...
A. 29 February 2012: Let's address your very specific question: " Is this a big deal, or is this pretty typical male behavior?"
1. This behaviour is fairly common among men.... It occurs because men don't want to have to work too hard in order to keep a girl int... (read in full...)
I feel worthless as a wife because I can't offer him more!
Q. Before I dated my husband I use to date only woman . But there was something about him that caught my eye and my heart. I started dating him and I got in a serious relationship with him and we marry. Things between us was good and we were even ...
A. 29 February 2012: Mandy's right. YOU can choose to either: 1. Burn in Hell (as your "hubby" has suggested), or, 2. BURN IN THIS "marriage".......
The former is a remote possibility; the latter is a certainty.
Your choice...... (read in full...)
Does my former teacher still like me?
Q. Ok so I published a question like this a whole back when I was at college about my teacher.Im 19 and very mature for my age seeing things in a very adult way. The last question I posted was about my teacher and the response I got was that this tea...
A. 29 February 2012: These student/teacher romances always get to me. It's SO cliche... and the STUDENT is the one who gets the short end of the stick.... and yet, time and again, students fall in to this trap and get burned....
If it's any consolation, boy-stud... (read in full...)
We stopped fooling around but to my surprise we still see each other. Does this mean he respects me? Or does it mean he is no longer interested in me sexually?
Q. i'm in a situation with a guy which first started off as a flirtation. we fooled around a few times (pg rated stuff) but i've pulled away from that and expected him to ignore me since he wasn't getting what he wanted. surprisingly though we still ...
A. 29 February 2012: It "means" that he's biding his time.... and he KNOWS he has enough of your interest such that, if he carefully orchestrates things, then he will get you to put out for him.... It's really quite simple.
The only question in MY MIND is: Are you ... (read in full...)
We were having a normal conversation and I had a massive urge to tell him I wanted to break up! Has anyone else experienced this? Is this some kind of sign?
Q. I am 3 years into a relationship with a guy that was, as I thought at first, the "one" but after the rosy glow of new love wore off there were disappointments and at this stage I love him dearly as a person but I don't think I can handle all the ...
A. 29 February 2012: What happened is that you have been AVOIDING admitting to yourself that you and this young man need to go your separate ways..... AND during this phone call, all your mental guards (what teases you in to actually believing that you and he are "an ... (read in full...)
I think I caught him out with his ex wife, but he wont explain what has been going on! I feel so used....
Q. Dear all, please help!! I have been seeing this guy for a year. it has been a rather rocky relastionship, and he had seperated from his wife sometime back - around three years ago. Anyway, I had a funny hunch that things were somehow still 'cosy' ...
A. 29 February 2012: He's a lying, cheating DOG.... and the sooner you get away from him.... and the farther you can get.... and the sooner you can make the emotional parting from him.... THE BETTER!!!!!... (read in full...)
Two years on and things are a lot less physical
Q. Hello everyone.. :) Well, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years over. Our relationship are great. He is caring, lovely and responsible. But lately I realise that we have less physic contact, he sure hug and kiss me a lot, but he seldom go ...
A. 29 February 2012: YOU can't do a darn thing to change HIM..... REMEMBER THAT... as you are going to be tempted to "change" guys for the rest of your life....
As for THIS "relationship"... it has run its course, and you'll be wise to get out of it now, and look for... (read in full...)
How long do relationships last?
Q. Simple. how long does an average relationship last? I don't know much about this and I'm curious. it would also be helpful if you knew when a guy might want to break up? I'm not having trouble at the moment with my current bf or anything but I want ...
A. 29 February 2012: Some last just a few minutes..... Some last a lifetime...
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I am gutted that he's only looking forward to seeing me because he thought he was going to get his leg over!
Q. hello all, well i'm 36 and after a crappy divorce am back with my parents, had one disappointing boyfriend since but have been single for a good while and would like to meet someone now.. well i have and we went for a drink last night, hes 31 and a ...
A. 29 February 2012: He thinks you're going to put out... and that is ALL any guy wants.....
IF you choose to be his tart, then HE will have gotten what HE wants.... and you can spend the next few days/weeks/months wondering "WHAT the heck did I do wrong?"
P.S. ... (read in full...)
I feel like an outsider after our discussion about wills and money!
Q. HI guys. I have posted questions on here before and had some really good advice so hope you can help. To cut a long story short, I have been with my partner almost four years and we are reasonably happy. It started out long distant but i mo...
A. 29 February 2012: You would be SMART to extricate yourself from this "relationship".... taking with you any real cast/money/equity that you contributed.... and chalk this whole thing up to a "relationship" gone wrong. It's clear that this guy has no cares about ... (read in full...)
Should I dump this guy and get on with my life?
Q. Ive being in a relationship for the last 15 month. He is 7 years older than me not that you would think it as he quite immature for his age. He told me he has being in a relationship and lived with someone and that he got hurt. I have no evidence...
A. 29 February 2012: You say, "...We have broken up a few times but when we do he just keeps textn me saying he loves me loads and stuff so I always go back with him..."
Next time you and he "break up" (Let's hope there IS a "next time").... let the break-up stick an... (read in full...)
Worried by my boyfriend's taste in porn, does he have a problem?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a question regarding my boyfriend's taste in porn. We have been together for over three years, and ever since the beginning of the relationship I knew he watched porn, and I didn't have a problem with it whatsoever. He was honest ...
A. 28 February 2012: HE doesn't have a "porn problem"... but YOU DO!!!!
YOUR "porn problem" is that the porn which your "B/F" watches gives you a glimpse of what is really going on in his head..... AND, you find that (what's going on) to be offensive (not to mention ... (read in full...)
My fiance wont have sex with me, so how do I reduce my sex drive?
Q. I am a 20 year old male and im posting this because i simply do not know what to do with m y fiance. her sex drive is low and mine is pretty high. We have been together for 2 years so far.We started having sex pretty early in the relationship and ...
A. 28 February 2012: PLEASE listen closely to what I am about to write:
IF your fiance, is not putting out now, there is nothing magic that will happen, following the nuptials, that will make her resume doing so.... In fact, there's ample evidence that the simple a... (read in full...)
He stopped contacting me after things got sexual, now we are talking again but is he ever going to ask me out again?
Q. Why would a man pull back when you get physical with him? I have been dating this guy and I know that we are not exclusive ..but I did some sexual things with him. I noticed that he texted me less after that. He used to text and say good morning ...
A. 27 February 2012: It's a "sign" that he's likely to keep you JUST INTERESTED ENOUGH for ".....but I did some sexual things with him..."
Anything beyond that (like a real date) is an extra bonus...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Haven't heard from him in 2 weeks - confused
Q. I have been dating this guy (we are both in our late 20's) about 3 months and prior to our first date we talked nearly every day one the phone for a month. It's been 3 weeks since we've seen each other and 2 weeks since I've heard from him. We had ...
A. 26 February 2012: Chalk this up as an "interesting" experience that ain't goin' nowhere!!!!........ (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend get over my past?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about 3 months who I am completely in love with. Everything was going great until about a week ago. He found out that I had slept with a guy in his group of friends around 7 years ago. He had always told me he has ...
A. 26 February 2012: If he's sufficiently immature and vindictive that he will allow this ancient history to taint/impact what goes on between the two of you, then he may well not be much "boyfriend" material, after all..... Think long and hard about it........ (read in full...)
An argument over opening doors has led me to question my feelings for him, am I being crazy or over-sensitive?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year. He's 46, I'm 43. I will admit, I have ignored some small "yellow flags", but there are many, many good qualities about him and I also know that there is no "perfect", that I, myself, am not ...
A. 25 February 2012: Like So Very Confused, I find that your "update" tells us
'way more about this guy..... and what we learn is that he is what I would call an "uber-jerk" .... and, if you were my Sister, I'd suggest that you dump his cheap, sorry a*s anbd get a real... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he sent this message? I don't know how to respond...
Q. My boyfriend sent me a message saying " I don't know if you still love me like i love you, but i hope that you do ". Why would he say that, especially when i told him i loved him in the message i sent to him before that?. It's worrying me. I don't ...
A. 24 February 2012: Tell us about that age gap..... It is germaine to your issue....... (read in full...)
He was once a cheater, so what makes me any different?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months and I can honestly say without hesitation, I've NEVER loved anyone the way I love him. However, he has a past and it's affecting me and our relationship. Before I go any further, let me give you ...
A. 24 February 2012: Would you mind if I challenged one of your details? That "detail" is this one (your words): "...I know for a fact that he loves me."
What you actually do know "for a fact" is that he will keep coming back for s*x as long as you allow it.... H... (read in full...)
Is he using me for sex even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. this is a long story, everything i will mention is pretty important to the case but basically i just want a strangers point of view on what i should do... im 16 and i was dating this boy (j) in september, and i really loved him. sounds silly but...
A. 24 February 2012: IN order to get to a suitable reply to your submittal we need only to read as far as this portion of it: "...and we were sexually active, it may be important that i saw him 3 times the whole relationship where we didnt have sex -his idea. " Now ... (read in full...)
He's sleeping on my couch and wants me back, but I want him to leave because I cant take it anymore! What should I do?
Q. I was 15 when I had my first child and 25 when I had my second and last. Shockingly enough (and I say 'shockingly' because I know how people are), they are both by the same father. However, we did not stay together throughout that ten year gap. We ...
A. 23 February 2012: Neither of you is acting like a poster-child for adult, responsible living......
That said,.... if you want the rat out, then tell him to take his a*s in hand and LEAVE!!!!
THEN, you can try to proceed with the life that YOU would like to ha... (read in full...)
Why am I so heavy on my feet when I walk?
Q. Ever since I can remember, I've had knee problems. I only found out a year and a half ago that I am flat footed also. I did some research and found out that my knee problems may have stemmed from my flat footedness. However, what I am really ...
A. 23 February 2012: When I was a kid (at about age 13) my flat feet were noted and corrected... Prior to that, I had pains throughout my skeleton when I walked great distances (My step-Mother suspected the problem when I told her that my thighs hurt when I caddied ... (read in full...)
I gave him oral sex on the 4th date and now he has stopped contacting me, are my fears of him never contacting me again correct?
Q. I know that getting physical too soon especially if you are just dating and the guy is not your boyfriend is not the best way to go. However, I have been on 4 dates with this guy and on the fourth date gave him oral sex. I said some stuff that may ...
A. 23 February 2012: This submittal is proof-positive that the old "four date" scheme works well......
He got what he wanted, and now, he's gone. You must reconcile that to yourself..... AND decide how you will handle that guy, in the future, who will attempt ... (read in full...)
Premature ejaculation.....
Q. What can I do to prevent quick ejaculation?...
A. 23 February 2012: Masturbate an hour or so before you go see your lady-friend...... (read in full...)
Do you think he is going to live up to his promises?
Q. Hiya Just need some advice please on a current situation... I have a lovely home and a lovely boyfriend who loves me completly - however, he has 3 children. I have told my boyfriend what I want out of life and he has always said he will do it...
A. 23 February 2012: From your submittal, I believe you are describing a very wishy-washy man who has no motive to change the way he is living his life because YOU are doing all the "doing" in this relationship.....
Please re-read your submittal and see if you migh... (read in full...)
An argument over opening doors has led me to question my feelings for him, am I being crazy or over-sensitive?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year. He's 46, I'm 43. I will admit, I have ignored some small "yellow flags", but there are many, many good qualities about him and I also know that there is no "perfect", that I, myself, am not ...
A. 23 February 2012: Well... the ironic part of your submittal is that it's polite to open/hold the door for ANYBODY who happens to approach it when somebody (man or woman, me, your B/F) does!!!!
In addition..... it's UNTHINKABLE that a guy would approach a door wit... (read in full...)
He ended it because he couldnt cope with other men looking at me, and then in the 7 days we were apart he got a new girlfriend!
Q. Thanks in advance for any advice given! I am in a sad place right now and really could do with some opinions from a mans point of view and also a womans if you have been in the same situation. Up until a couple of weeks ago I was dating a guy...
A. 22 February 2012: Here's the skinny on your situation:
Your man thought you were hot... and that viewpoint was validated by the attention that you got from those other men.... HOWEVER, he was not being intimate with you... by HIS CHOICE, accorting to you.... ... (read in full...)
Men and fidelity.....
Q. do men always secretly want to have sex with other women when they are in a relationship/married...to be specific when they are in love with their partner. are the faithful men faithful because they are obliged to? is it that men have to control ...
A. 22 February 2012: It's pretty much a matter of survival....
Men can spread their seed (have intercourse resulting in pregnancy) often.... To do so ensures that their DNA is carried in to future generations.... We do this spreading cheerfully.
Women must in... (read in full...)
Our relationship was always a secret so her friends think I've been stalking her for 5 years! Despite this I know if it was all in the open I know it would have worked, what should I do?
Q. My girlfriend of 5 years walked out a few weeks ago. The reason was because after 5 years of her wanting to keep our relationship a secret, I told her we cant go on like this and in order for us to move forward as a couple we need to stop being a ...
A. 22 February 2012: How quickly do you suppose you should get away from this sort-of woman who is playing such an important game????... (read in full...)
After 20 years, I am tired and leaning towards just getting the hell out of this relationship! Need advice badly!
Q. Hello People! I am having a small dilemma that I cannot talk to friends or family about due to the nature of this situation...so I am relying on unbiased strangers opinions. Here we go... I have been with my significant other for 20 years. ...
A. 22 February 2012: Soooo.... go on and start a new life. What more do you need to hear??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
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