He won't show me any affection but always wants sex!
Q. Hi everyone- Me and my boyfriend of four years on and off are back on I guess. Here's the problem he doesn't want to hold hands or kiss me in public or infront of his friends just bc its " akword" to him. He shows me no affection at all unless w...
A. 12 February 2012: "Sounds" to me like your guy is like ANY "typical" guy... that is.... ANY "TYPICAL" 8-YEAR-OLD!!!! ....who has just figured out that he has a pe*is, and is trying to figure out what to do with it!!!!!
You "domt want to loose him or start over wit... (read in full...)
Huge family bombshell dropped..i don't know what to think!
Q. Hi, i'm 15, and when I was 13, my grandmother died of cancer. We found out a week before she died. She had a very, "i don't care. You wanna hurt me? You wanna kill me? I dare you." attitude. She was sometimes a bit cold, a bit mean to her daughter ...
A. 12 February 2012: Let's deal ONLY with the important question that you've posed.... which is: "How do you deal with something like this?"
The answer is, you reconcile that what happened in the past is in the past.... makes no difference now (After all, you can'... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will believe rumors over what I say and it will cause a fight!
Q. Ok so my boyfriend is getting out of jail this month and I've been right by his side the way thro it. Now there's rumors about me but the things their saying I never did. We broke up for 2 weeks then got back together. But while we were broken up me ...
A. 12 February 2012: I'd dump the boyfriend .... and spend all my time studying for my GED........ (read in full...)
I want to break up with my b/f and get back the money he owes me!
Q. I gave my boyfriend about US$3,600 when it was equivalent to GBP £2,000 few yrs ago. He abused me a lot verbally and mentally so I am thinking to break up with him. I want that money back but should I ask him in dollar or in pound? Coz if he ...
A. 12 February 2012: Kiss off the money and dump his sorry a*s.
It's an unfortunate fact of life that, sometimes, there is a very real - and quantifiable - price to pay to learn one (or more) of life's lessons. This is one of those times...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can someone so into sex go completely cold like the way my partner has?
Q. Partner not interested in sex. At first he was all over me, told me I was beautiful, kissed me, hugged me wanted have sex often. I was always up for whatever he suggested. I'm not sure what happened but he stopped being interested and now its down ...
A. 12 February 2012: Right!!! YOU put out for him and got knocked up.... and HE "decided" that he doesn't have to be so "lovey-dovey" anymore.... Do you know WHY????? Because having you with child means that HE will have to man-up and behave like a MAN (which HE is ... (read in full...)
Is it too early to be discussing marriage and children?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, we are 23 and have discussed moving in, but he says hes not ready yet and mayb in a year or 2. Also he says at the minute he doesnt want kids or marriage in the future. It is something i would probably ...
A. 12 February 2012: Key to the "answer" to your query is whether or not you are putting out for this "B/F"....
IF you ARE, then he has no reason to want to take on any OTHER responsibility.... since young guys don't think any farther in advance than the next time the... (read in full...)
How can I stop my father controlling me when I'm 18 and an only child?
Q. Hi. So simply as im going to put it... I'm 18. An only child still live at home Have a controlling father who yeah, you could say...im scared of... So, my father thinks he has the right to control me, given I still live at home... He...
A. 12 February 2012: Jessica: Your Father "sounds" like he is acting like a responsible parent, trying to keep his immature daughter on the straight-and-narrow..... and YOU "sound" like a brat who could use a little paddling to try and bring you around to some sensible ... (read in full...)
I never want to talk to my father again
Q. Hello, I need help very soon please xx. Ok before I get into this problem you need a back story. Ok my mom and dad split when I was two so I'm used to the two home lifestyle. I have a stepdad I had a stepmom. Her. The stepmom is the issue. I was a...
A. 12 February 2012: I'm with you. The only time that a youngster "needs" to talk to his or her parent is when he/she wants some money...
Sorry you got strapped with such a bunch of loser adults as "parents" (or, whatever they are)!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Am I trying too hard to spice things up on Valentine's day?
Q. Ok, so another advice; For valentines day I bought this really sexy little outfit ( btw, today was the day my bf moved into his new place and our offical 1 yr ann. Is comming up on the 28th) anywho, so I bought the outfit and a lamp he likes; t...
A. 11 February 2012: Most guys love it when a girl "throws herself at him." You can continue to do that, if you are so inclined.... OR, you can behave a little more demurely and see if this guy really gives a darn about you..... You can't do both!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How can he so easily forget what we have? I'm blonde. His blonde jokes offended me
Q. Hello aunts. This guy and I met 4 months ago and things have been moving really smoothly infact, better than I had predicted. He checks on me a lot, calls me often and its the first time I've been in a relationship where the guy is so into me. We...
A. 11 February 2012: You chalk this up to an interesting life experience whereby you learned that some guys just aren't worth spending time with, or even thinking about....
Then, you get on with you life....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
25 years together. What does this cheating ex want from me?
Q. Four years ago I caught my husband of 18 years cheating with a online woman, I took him back, but never got over the pain and the betrayal. I thought we were destined to be together forever, because of the way he treated me like a princess...
A. 11 February 2012: If you're putting out for him... then the answer to your question is obvious.... Are you????... (read in full...)
How do I become close to a girl who is in a relationship with another? Should I?
Q. What should i do in order to win the heart of a girl who is in a relationship, even though i might not be able to see her often because of her studies? how do i become very close to her?...
A. 11 February 2012: When I first saw this submittal, I chose not to make a "reply".... BUT, your subsequent "reply" now gets me to consider this:
You write: "... consider this,what if this guy doesn't really value this lady & their relationship & she's just waiting ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage him? My boyfriend is not affectionate
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost two months. We have only held hands once. I just find it wierd that he does not want to hold my hand, hug, or kiss me. I try to hint to him that I want him to hold my hand, but I don't think he gets...
A. 11 February 2012: You can say this to him: "You know, (his name)... if you don't try to put the moves on me before too long... then you're going to have to satisfy yourself putting those moves on some other girl in the near future.... because I AM GETTING ... (read in full...)
Retrospective jealousy!
Q. I've been dating a woman seriously for close to a year. I recently found out she had slept with a few guys I know (I wouldn't say they're my close friends, but we run in the same circles.) When I asked if she had been with them, she responded by...
A. 11 February 2012: I'd be inclined to think to myself: "Well, she's tried all those LOSERS, and now found a great guy (me!).... so let those LOSERS spend all their time drooling.... because I've landed this peach of a girl,.... and am getting a little with her...."
... (read in full...)
Is he ashamed of being friends with me? Why does he lie about me?
Q. I am a mature student and I have been friends with a guy that teaches at my uni (he doesn't teach me) for about two years. We meet up frequently and email back and forth on almost a daily basis. I talk to him about absolutely everything and have ...
A. 11 February 2012: You ask: "Can there not be any other explanation for his behaviour?"
I can think of one; That his WIFE told him that, if she ever caught him fooling around with one of the coeds on campust, that she would cut his ba*ls off!!!!!
This guy is '... (read in full...)
Is it possible for an interracial relationship to be successful?
Q. Could it be possible for a black girl and a white guy to have a succesful relationship? Or is the cultural differences too much? I'm an African American girl and i've being thinking of going out with this guy i'm in college with but i've asked a ...
A. 11 February 2012: Anyone who replies to this and tells you that there's any reason NOT to make your interest known to this guy... is an A*S!!!!
C'mon.... this isn't the 1800's!!!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is masturbation harmful to a man around 80 years old??
Q. is masterbation harmful for an old man,say 80 years old? ...
A. 11 February 2012: HARMFUL???? It's likely the best thing he's got going.
(It was for me, the last 4 years......)... (read in full...)
Should my mother allow me to spend the night with my boyfriend?
Q. Okay so I wanted to know that if your 16 years old and your boyfriend is 17, and you guys have been together for a year and seven months but have known each other for three years. Should you be able to stay the night with him. My boyfriend lives an ...
A. 10 February 2012: Are you saying that you will be staying at your B/F's (family) home along with him AND HIS PARENTS (and siblings, if he has some)???? If so, then I'll assume that you would stay in a guest room, or a room with, say, his SISTER... and all would be ... (read in full...)
How can I help my daughter? She has no friends and rarely goes out...
Q. I'm a mother who has a 29 year old daughter who is a bit of an introvert. She still lives with me and my husband, she has no friends, never goes out and has never had a boyfriend, thankfully she works full time and she doesn't get on with the people ...
A. 10 February 2012: Have you ever just left your daughter to her own devices and let her live her own life????? IF not, then why not try doing so, now? She'll probably be just fine....
Good luck, to both of you....... (read in full...)
I don't want to get back with my ex, but I need help understanding his behaviour. Why couldnt he stop going onto online dating sites? Why did he lie so much?
Q. I write in a midst of confusion. I have ended a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend due to his do or die determination in dating site memberships. It has been a constant cycle of him getting caught, lying, convincing me I am seeing things, then ...
A. 10 February 2012: Men are a lot like dogs who chase cars.... think of the car-chasing as his being on the dating sites....
We don't know what to do with the girls on the dating sites any more than the dog knows what to do if a car stops and he "catches" it!!!!..... (read in full...)
I know he is taking me for a fool, so I want to cut contact for a few days to see if he realises what he's missing. Will this work?
Q. me and my boyfriend of nearly 2 years are LDR, everything was great for the first few months, then early last year he ran off for another girl, that didn't work out, so me - with mug written on my forehead - took him back with open arms. things...
A. 10 February 2012: In order to "...realise what he had, and realise he could well lose it...." he would have to have a brain.... and, apparently, this guy doesn't. So, don't be disappointed if your "test" doesn't give you the results that you expect.
Meanw... (read in full...)
Is he ashamed of being friends with me? Why does he lie about me?
Q. I am a mature student and I have been friends with a guy that teaches at my uni (he doesn't teach me) for about two years. We meet up frequently and email back and forth on almost a daily basis. I talk to him about absolutely everything and have ...
A. 10 February 2012: Let's go right to the heart of the matter. Using your words: "Can I really trust him?"
No. Dump him....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I see this band? My ex might be there.
Q. I joined a meetup that meets to watch live music. The thing is it's at the place where my ex used to hang out. We had an ugly breakup. He dumped me by text after dating a year. Then he verbally abused me by text. I'm 110% sure he had someone else ...
A. 8 February 2012: WHY would you let an "ex-" interfere with you and your group of new friends doing something that the bunch of you would like to do?????? Cripes!!!! Go to the show and enjoy yourself....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's way too busy to settle down, but I don't think I can wait 4 years for him
Q. I need help soooo bad, and don't know what to do. About 3 1/2 years ago, my husband passed away from a tragic accident and left me with three kids. I dated a little afterwards, but never found anyone worth while. I stumbled upon an old friend fr...
A. 8 February 2012: Many guys who get girls to put out for them also develop a "phobia" about marriage and committment. "Sounds" to me like your man-friend has that phobia..... You can wait .... FOREVER, if you wish.... but I would cheerfully take a wager ... (read in full...)
What is the proper role of sexual attraction in a relationship?
Q. OK Aunts, here is something that has been troubling me. How important should sexual attraction be in a relationship? The reason I ask is because sometimes I think sex and sexual attraction is a distraction and sort of leads us down the wrong ...
A. 8 February 2012: It's somewhere around 11 or 12 (or higher) on your scale....... (read in full...)
He's changed and our relationship is going down the drain....I'm so miserable and don't know what to do!
Q. hello everyone, tonight im finding myslef laying in bed with to much on my mind and am really in need of some advice please and thanks in advance. okay so my boyfriend and i live together and have been together almost six years. we have had our fair ...
A. 7 February 2012: I think this phrase, in your submittal, includes all you need: "...im miserable being in this situation and not knowing what to do..."
You DO know what to do... and that is, GET OUT OF THIS MISERABLE SITUATION...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Boyfriend kept all photos/numbers of his ex girlfriends but lied to me about it
Q. hi im in a new relationship but had problems already my boyfriend kept all hes exes letters photos and numnbers after telling me he had got rid of them .its only been over a month and i dont want to lose trust ....
A. 6 February 2012: You write: "....after telling me he had got rid of them.."
Did you tell (insist) this new B/F that you expected him to get rid of any/all things related to his past?
If you did, then you aren't coming across as much of a prospect for a "... (read in full...)
I loaned my friends some money for a film project and I've not heard from them since! What should I do?
Q. I've been financially double crossed by friends and I need advice on what to do now. Some background: in september I was apart in a project for a film festival where you make a short film in 2 days and enter it before the deadline ends. The team w...
A. 6 February 2012: My advice is to kiss off the money (repayment) and learn the lesson of not loaning money to "friends" unless you have decided, to yourself, that: 1. It may strain the friendship, and, 2. You may not get re-paid....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has no hygiene and no self esteem! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. One of the problems I have with our relationship is that over the past couple of years he has turned into an epic slob. He doesn't just leave a disaster wherever he goes-- He does not brush his ...
A. 6 February 2012: I can't imagine that you have any OTHER reasons to dump this guy - in addition to there great ones that you have enumerated herein.....
Soooo, why wait? Ask him to leave immediately....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why would he start a relationship with his ex when he still hasn't moved out of my home? Is this just a tactic he is using on me?
Q. Is this a tactic for a abusive man to regain some control back after i ended our relatonship. I ended a 7 yr relationship recently as me partner was verbally, emotionally and phyiscally abusive to me. We have 2 young kids and he currently still ...
A. 6 February 2012: This is the key phrase of your submittal: "Why would you start a new relationship with an ex when you still havent moved out of your other exs home?"
The short answer is: Because she lets him do so.
P.S. The long answer is also, "because s... (read in full...)
Meeting tomorrow with the man I had an affair with a year ago....
Q. I had an affair a year ago - we were both married and it was found out. It tore our families apart and we are now both seperated. I knew this person for approx 10 years and have had feelings for him for a long time. Our affair only lasted three ...
A. 6 February 2012: I vote for: "....he is a liar and was only saying the things he said to get into my pants.........."
Good luck.... and, P.S. Why repeat a mistake?... (read in full...)
I took him back after he left me for another woman, but I just cant trust him because he said he'd always love her. What should I do?
Q. my spouse left me for his ex-girlfriend, he's moving in with her she is going through her second marriage. my mom was dx with ca and he left anyway for 6 months. he did not pay taxes he quit his job got her name tatooed and then told me he was gonna ...
A. 6 February 2012: Let's focus on the only phrase in your submittal which makes any sense; This one: "....help what can i do i dont want to leave him..."
You ask for help. Here it is. Leave him.
You ask: "What can I do?" The answer is, leave him.
Yo... (read in full...)
Huge age difference, and now I'm starting to wonder if he even loves me...
Q. I am female,28...3 months living with 63 year old american guy,i am confused now because he is no longer treating me the same like before,it was clear before whats my future with him but now seems like i am hanging,i feel like not being love,i ...
A. 5 February 2012: EVERY 63 year old guy covets the idea of having a fling with a hot 29-year-old girl.... The idea of being able to get away by ".... going back to his country..." is just frosting on the cake....
Face it.... you've been a victim of a charmer.... (read in full...)
Do guys like necking?
Q. Hi everyone I'm wondering if guys like necking. Girls and guys please feel free to answer but a guy's perspective would definitely help! Thank you! ...
A. 5 February 2012: Necking is OK IF it leads to s*x....
But necking - in and of itself - is pretty boring (and not very rewarding) if it DOESN'T lead to s*x......
Next question......... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my 19 year old niece lusting after her married professor
Q. I'm the uncle of a 19 yr old girl that is a college student. From childhood, I've been like a best friend to her. However, her recent behaviour's disturbing me. She's apparently head over heels over this prof of hers that is EIGHTEEN years her ...
A. 5 February 2012: Teh closest you can come to "whacking some sense in to her.." is to tell her that her infatuation is silly, childish and ill-fated.... and that you don't wish to partake of discussing it with her any more....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He's 25. I love him to bits, but how can he be so selfish? Even forgot by birthday!!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year.hes my first love i love him to bits and i really cant sit here and explain just how much i love him and before anything i will not ever leave him unless he cheats on me so please do not ...
A. 3 February 2012: Please... WAKE UP!!!!! YOU told us the details of what goes on between you and this cad..... and we gave you opinions of where you are, where you are likely to go, and how and why YOU should avoid it.....
With your subsequent submittals, you pret... (read in full...)
Why is he pursuing me when he has a girlfriend
Q. He and i were sort of fwb in the past, it didn't become anything more for a number of reasons. Mainly because we live hours away from each other and hadn't really gotten to know each other well enough to form a real relationship. I went to see him ...
A. 1 February 2012: Guys who have girlfriends pursue other girls for the same reason that a dog who has a perfectly good car standing stationary in their driveway will still run after a car that passes down their street....
It's the thrill of the chase, not the ... (read in full...)
Does this happen to anyone else but me?
Q. So whenever my boyfriend and I get really frisky and have the privacy and space to have sex, we do it and what not. But after constant changing of positions (missionary, to doggie, and other variations) and anything over 15-30min, I start to get dry ...
A. 1 February 2012: There are several "personal" lubricants available in pharmacies, which will solve this problem....
Since this occurs in on-going playing, I suggest you make the application (and re-application, if necessary) a part of your love-making. It could... (read in full...)
He's 25. I love him to bits, but how can he be so selfish? Even forgot by birthday!!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year.hes my first love i love him to bits and i really cant sit here and explain just how much i love him and before anything i will not ever leave him unless he cheats on me so please do not ...
A. 1 February 2012: I see two important details in your submittal:
1. A 26 year old guy who is dating a 19 year old girl is probably pretty cocky that YOU are more serious about HIM, than HE is about YOU..... just the course of nature. I predict that he will con... (read in full...)
My B/f couldn't get enough of me and now I have to beg him for sex even once a week. Is he bored of me?
Q. I started going out with my boyfriend 8 months ago And we've been living together for 4. I'm 25 and he's 35. At first he couldn't get enough of me, even waking me Up several times during the night for sex most nights. Now if I get it even once a ...
A. 1 February 2012: It's interesting that this is posed by a woman.... since the stereotype of this has the sexes reversed....
Nonetheless, either way, if one partner chooses to "leave" the intimate part of the relationship, then the partner so-abandoned might ju... (read in full...)
Three times I have declined my boyfriend's request for an open relationship.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for roughly 10 months. A while ago, maybe 4 or 5 months ago, he brought up the subject of an open relationship. This isn't something that I feel comfortable with, which I expressed to him. He brought it ...
A. 31 January 2012: How did this subject ever even get THIS FAR????? Of course you and he should go your separate ways....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
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