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writes:I started a work placement in my 3rd year of uni studying business law in june of last year at a small firm of lawyers. I love my job and am hard working and try my best with my work and relationships created here. I never got the impression that one of the secretaries really liked me, she was very close to the previous placement student and I do think we ever really clicked. However I am very nice to her, make her tea ask her about her weekend, always helping her with her work if I have time to spare. I thought we were ok and now ive been working here for over 6 months I thought she was getting used to me, especially as we have recently complted on a big projected and we worked on a lot of it together. However recently I am not so sure, it was just before 5, the time she leaves work and I went to make myself a cup of tea, I didn’t offer her one, I would always but she was on the phone and know she was leaving straight afterwards. However I received an email saying “So funny – she just went and made herself a cup of tea!!! And didn’t offer!!” clearly this email has been sent to me by mistake. but she litrally sent this whilst on the phone and as soon as she got off i was going to and did ask her. She was on the phone to another secretary so now I feel just crap knowing they were clearly gossiping about me. Earlier today it was lunchtime and I wanted to go out for a bit of a walk and nip to sainsbury’s. she told me as we are here on our own today that could I just got to sainsburys and hurry back as she was waiting for a phone call to meet her friend for lunch (we both cant leave the office at the same time)I just want to note here, she always arrives for work 30 mins late ( I usually have a cup of tea waiting for her or get one straight away) she uses the work franking machine for her own use when selling her things on ebay, she spends a lot of time on personal calls and often deligates me some of her work. Im getting really fed up, she has been working for the company for years so I cant really say anything about her taking advantage, im just upset that she has been gossiping about me to the other secretary and don’t know what should I do? Should I just stick it out til I leave or should I say something to her? I am a nice person, I work hard but I know she is good friends with the previous girl who had my job so I think it is hard for her to get used to me, I just feel really sad that she is making comments about me behind my back. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi, thannk you for reading my comments. i was just really upset as i was really trying to be nice. funnily enough i was told by boss to get a file off her email and saw a number of emails making rude comments about me on there (i know i should have just left it and got the document i wanted) things such as taking the piss that i have to wear glasses and calling me big eyes.
to be honest im going for the view for 2 women in their late 30s its just pathetic, i finish my placement in July so over halfway through the year. my bosses are very pleased with my progress and they are the ones that will be writing my reference and helping with my training not the secretaries! i am just going to contiue being friendly towards them, its them with the problem not me! in several times when i am a qualfied solictor i would even give them a second thought!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2012): No. Shes one of those women who are gossips, fault finding, and just wants to target someone to bully.
I'd see what your Human Resources has to say and if they think it isn't worth resolving or you don't think thats the way to go- seek employment elsewhere.
Realize we can't please everyone and people pleasing is a weakness, not a strength.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 January 2012):
 How much more time do you have in this business/position?
"Sounds" to me like you're LOOKING for drama.... and really could spend your time and attention on better matters.... After all... who assigned you to be the "employee police?" (I'm referring to your delineation of her transgressions.... which are really her boss's - and not YOUR - business)....
Good luck...
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