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writes:I am in the middle of a business venture, and I'm 16. While meeting with investors and some other people on a project, I met a man, married, who lives near me and wants to meet at some point. We talked briefly and he ended up driving me home. I wonder however, if he is interested in any way in me. He friended me on FB and has my phone number now. I just wonder how it looks, does he honestly just want to talk to me or is there something more? I don't want to read into this too deeply. I mean, he's nice and pretty good looking...okay that's beside the point...Not gonna help me...And he's like 40 or something. What is his point for talking to me and what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, we met today and went on a walk with his dogs and he wanted to use my private number to avoid any implications of impropriety, and asked for discretion. He said he wasn't "interested" in me..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 May 2012):
 Don't be confused. He's being VERY inappropriate.
KEEP everything with him totally professional. Only respond to professional work related questions... ignore everything else.
if there is someone who is overseeing this project go to them with any further issues.
At 16 you are not equipped emotionally to handle a predator which is what this man is right now. He's taking advantage of your youth and inexperience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to keep it professional, and it's not my choice who's involved, it's not my project. He texted me today and when he asked if i was around and i said no and asked what his schedule was, he said "you tell me." confused!!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 May 2012):
 When a 40-something man gives inordinate attention to a cute, perky 16-something girl.... you can be quite certain that he isn't planning to be sure that you get adequate ice cream in your frappe, down at the local malt shop!!!!
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Whatever his agenda he certainly gives the impression that he's interested in something on the side. He is more friendly that propiety would allow. An honorouable, responsible person wouldn't behave in such a way as to leave someone wondering.
Me thinks he might not be the best person to do business with.
I'm not sure what kind of business you're in since you have to be at east age 18 to sign a contract (here anyway).
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 May 2012):
It does NOT matter how he is interested in you, what matters is that you are 16 and he is clearly older and MARRIED. AND this is BUSINESS and you must learn early on you never mix business and pleasure….
So don’t worry about his motives because they possibly are evil. They may not be but we don’t know. Just keep it strictly business.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Turn around, look in the mirror and then look halfway down ur body. THAT is what he is after.
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reader, N91  +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Yeah, keep it strictly business, as you're in the US and only 16 this would make any intimacy illegal anyways (I think?).
He's also married, so don't go there.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Well he could have an interest in you regarding business and pleasure.
I personally advise to keep it professional and dont get closer to it than that. Its ok to be friends and have a business relationship but anything beyond is asking for trouble.
Having sex or any intimate relation with this guy is going to create problems for yourself so be cautious of his intentions.
From what I know these kind of relationships rarely work.
Goodluck
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