She lied to me!
Q. I am in a relationship with the person I love and wanted to be with. We have been in a relationship for a year now and decided to get married as we both are 28 years old and ready to settle down. We were honest to each other and very loving bu...
A. 2 May 2012: She never "lied" to you.... AND, if you are going to hold this bit of her past "against" her,..... then YOU, Sir, are going to lose out on a pretty good partner!!!! ... (read in full...)
We had sex, and do these signs mean anything?
Q. Hi, so im 18. I liked this guy which is also my friend... He used to be a womenizer but he changed,he kissed,but he said once he is more for a combination. My friends think he probaly likes me. So anyway we had sex. He slept before with this...
A. 2 May 2012: "Sounds" to me that he has you convinced that you are NOT a "conquest".... AND he'll continue to hang with you as long as you put out....
Do you understand that guys LIKE to have girls put out for them? .... AND, once they (girls) do so, we guys ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I love the smell of my girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend and me don't really sleep together but every now and again we do get intimate. I have a real fetish of sniffing her knockers though. Is that wrong? She kind of knows I do it but it isn't talked about. I just love the smell of her......
A. 2 May 2012: We all have five senses.... there's no reason to feel peculiar if you are engaging this one (smell) to enjoy one of your girlfriend's attributes/features!!!!
(You wouldn't ask a similar question about her appearance (sight), or feel (touch).... (read in full...)
Do all men think about is how to get a girl into bed?
Q. I'm just wondering if all men's goal is to bed a female when they approach them? I feel kind of silly asking this because I know all men want something from the girls that they date... Many of the men that I've dated actually let me know that all ...
A. 2 May 2012: You are spot-on, for the most part..... (many/most men)...
After all, this (below) cliche did NOT come about without some evidence:
"WOMEN offer sex in hopes that it will lead to a loving relationship; MEN will fake an entire relationship if ... (read in full...)
How does one live with such volatility? Should I try to live with such volatility?
Q. Two years ago I feel head over heels in love with an employee of mine. I don't know how it happened, but it did. I have lived with her for 18 months. The passion is out of this world. I mean HOLY-SHIT-BLOW-THE-ROOF-OFF-THE-HOUSE-WOW! I've never ...
A. 1 May 2012: I believe the "street" term which applies to this woman is "drama queen."
SHE imposes HER drama upon you... YOU are so stirred up in the sexual WOW that you and she share (when things ARE OK)... than you throw your sense to the wind....
It will... (read in full...)
I'm 22 weeks pregnant and I think he might be cheat on me
Q. When I started a new job last June, I started a relationship with a man at work. Not the best timing since he was just at the beginning of ending his 12 year marriage. That being said, I guess I'm worried now. I've heard rumors of him cheating, and ...
A. 29 April 2012: That age-old saying...."once a cheater, always a cheater".. did not come to pass in a vacuum.... Many/most cheaters do so again and again... to the dismay of those (like yourself) who fall prey to their lying and cheating ways.... Sorry....
... (read in full...)
Can I change her bad ways by loving her?
Q. Right so i have known this girl and i've dated her on and off. i feel an intense attraction towards her. She's a gorgeous lass but Problem is, she has a terrible family background and as a result has led quite a wayward life. She hasn't been abl...
A. 29 April 2012: For someone (man or woman) to believe that they can and should take up with someone with the hopes that they can "change" or "improve" or "correct" that someone is the age-old delusion that many of us incur.....
NO, you cannot change this woman...... (read in full...)
My insecure wife constantly accuses me of looking at other women!
Q. My wife and I have a problem. We have been together 8 years, we are mid 30's early 40's (I am 6 years younger), unable to have children after having multiple miscarriages. My problem is this; that every time we go out, be it the mall, supermarket, ...
A. 29 April 2012: I had just this experience, and when I addressed the issue with my "girlfriend" and asked her how SHE expected me to behave when another (ANY OTHER) women came in to my purview. She insisted that I should TURN AWAY from that woman.... EVEN if that ... (read in full...)
Girls would you be OK with this? Guys how do you feel about men having strippers at a bachelor's party?
Q. I am just asking this question out of curiousity. It is for both men and women. How do you feel about men having strippers at a bachelor's party? Maybe it is because I have low self-esteem but if my fiance was enjoying that kind of show, I woul...
A. 28 April 2012: Strippers at bachelor parties is stupid. It pisses off the wife/G/F/S-O of almost every guy who attends. WHY do it? WHAT does it accomplish????? The "answer" - for any of you who are not familiar with the answer - is that it is considered a ... (read in full...)
My mom will not let me date this man
Q. hi,i have a crush..he's Islam while i'm Christian. I do really like this guy,he's funny,cute,everything.. But i'm afraid my mom will get mad,he hates "islam people" sorry.. But this guy,he so knid,loving..I don't know what to do ...
A. 28 April 2012: If your Mother was a terrible driver, would you consider that grounds for YOU to not drive a car???????
Leave your Mother out of the equation. IT's YOU who seek to date this guy..... She (your Mom) is entitled to her opinion... but YOU are the ... (read in full...)
What kind of gift would leave him speechless
Q. So the guy I liked for a year is moving away in two months. I want to give him a gift but I don't know what. I want something cute that he will take with him and leave him speechless. Any suggestions? ...
A. 28 April 2012: If he has a favorite sports figure... get him a bobblehead figure of that athlete....... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my ex want me to date his friends?
Q. I want to remain in contact with my ex- we finished 4 weeks ago. We were talking regulary still but not as much but in the last week or so its became even less- which upsets me. I miss him. I miss the conversations we used to have. He just clearly ...
A. 28 April 2012: WHAT makes you think that your ex- is supposed to be your "matchmaker????"... (read in full...)
32 year old woman/19 year old man
Q. I feel like a damn fool. I'm an attractive, intelligent woman and over the course of the last year or so, I have found myself growing more attracted (emotionally, physically and mentally) to a beautiful, extremely mature 19 year old man. Sometimes I ...
A. 28 April 2012: This man's age is of no importance in your "question."... Whence a man beds a woman, HE gains control of the situation between them... and can then act as aloof and disinterested as he wishes..... MANY women then turn inwards and ask "What'... (read in full...)
My friend is not making a move on me because I am still married. What do I do?
Q. I am so stuck. I am separated but not yet divorced. Me and this man have become good friends and I know he feels the same but he has not made any moves because I am still married. I have not loved my husband for a long time and am ready to move...
A. 20 April 2012: A friend of mine once told me this, as it relates to leaving a marriage and taking up with another partner:
You DON'T jump from ship to ship. You MUST jump in the water and swim/float on your own UNTIL you can get on to your new ship....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has started gambling again - should I break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months roughly. We are very happy together and I love him a lot, and I hope to be with him in the long-term. However, a few months ago, he told me he used to have a gambling problem - in his first year of un...
A. 20 April 2012: Gambling is HIS issue as long as the funds which support him are his or someone ELSE who is in his life..... It becomes YOUR problem if and when you and he get close enough so that you might pool funds to pay your (collective) ways through lif... (read in full...)
Is it right to change who you are in the search for a partner?
Q. I often feel very alone and have this need, almost, to have a girlfriend, someone I can listen and talk to and feel completely immersed in conversation without being just friends. A thought occured to me this evening, I don't have to be anyone but...
A. 20 April 2012: Many stage shows, movies and TV skits are based on just this issue.... someone pretending to be someone OTHER than who they REALLY are..... "Mrs Doubtfire" comes prominently to mind..... IF you choose to "be someone other than who you really a... (read in full...)
Problem with girlfriend's past?
Q. So here's the issue. I am 18 and my girlfriend is 24, about to be 25. We met on a joke app (Funny Jokes) and found out we lived a couple hours away so we just started texting each other. Then we started Skyping and added each other on Facebook. And ...
A. 20 April 2012: When two people meet and "hit it off", they necessarily bring with them all that they have been and done in their pasts.... As those people become closer, they reveal those pasts to each-other to whatever extent, and in whatever detail they feel ... (read in full...)
Guys, what are the general meanings behind the words hot, sexy, beautiful, cute and pretty and gorgeous?
Q. Okay this is a question For the guys mainly. what are the general meanings behind the words hot, sexy, beautiful, cute and pretty and gorgeous? I thought hit and sexy always meant the same thing. But i got called hot and sexy by a guy recently so ...
A. 20 April 2012: Without wading in to a discussion of any/all the details... consider this lesson in "guy speak".....
When a guy finds a woman attractive and wishes to get her attention, AND test her intentions, he will use those words that will get and keep her... (read in full...)
He's stopped going down on me! What can I do?
Q. Hey there! I've been with my fiancé for a year now and we will get married in the Fall. I love him deeply and so does he. One little thing is bothering me though... at the beginning of our relationship he went down on me a lot and then he stopped. ...
A. 20 April 2012: How ironic that you can reveal your disdain for doing oral for him..... but keep doing it because you want to pleasure him.... BUT, he tells you of his disdain for reciprocating, and ceases doing it....
I'd say that that tells you just about al... (read in full...)
Do I believe what this married man is telling me?
Q. i met this married man at a night club 3 weeks ago he called me first thing the next morning and has texd and phoned every day until last week when we met up ,i texd him yesterday and asked him if we re finished he said no im just busy at work ,?? ...
A. 18 April 2012: OP: We (men) are ALL "just waiting to get our divorce"... or "we haven't been intimate with our wife for years...", or, "she is threatening to injure herself if we walk out"... so we stay with her.....
The fact is that he is STILL married to the l... (read in full...)
Do I believe what this married man is telling me?
Q. i met this married man at a night club 3 weeks ago he called me first thing the next morning and has texd and phoned every day until last week when we met up ,i texd him yesterday and asked him if we re finished he said no im just busy at work ,?? ...
A. 18 April 2012: There are three important rules that you should learn and memorize, as they apply to incidents such as this. Are you ready? Here they are:
1. Don't believe a single thing that a married guy tells you....
2. Don't believe a single thing tha... (read in full...)
Is he with someone else or just busy?
Q. He only reaches out to me when I contact him first and sometimes does not even reply to me. We have been had sex a few times each time he cuddles me ask me about things but then disappears. He canceled last night @ the last min and now I am ...
A. 18 April 2012: You are describing classic "guy" behaviour... wherein YOU are making yourself available for s*x, and HE is most-willing to participate with you... AND will do so until and as long as you don't expect or insist upon him doing anything to further any ... (read in full...)
Is it fair that my family smoke around me when I'm pregnant?!
Q. Dear cupid aunts im 22. and pregnant. And have moved back.in with my parents because the babys dad left and as i was living.with him in a rented house i now cant afford the rent on a single wage. I love my parents and am grateful for all.they ...
A. 18 April 2012: How unfortunate that your family (especially your brother) is - collectively - so ignorant or unawares of why there is a great reason for them to not smoke in your presence.... I suggest that you gently (again!) remind them that you are carrying... (read in full...)
How do I dispell the untrue rumours that I was unfaithful? Should I go to the prom anyway?
Q. What can I do? My BF and I have been together 2 and 1/2 years. We are now seniors in high school. Our relationship has been very good but had decided to go our separate ways once we went away to college because we both know we need to meet oth...
A. 18 April 2012: You ask: "How can I dispell all the rumors?" Rumors have the pesky habit of taking on a life of their own. As well, when someone involved or affected by that rumor (your B/F, in this case) makes up his/her mind that the rumor is "true," then ... (read in full...)
Did he over-react? Was he trying to guilt-trip me? He's 28
Q. I met this fella January this year, we went on a few dates, got "officially" together mid February time. Now, at times, he would become irritated if I would spend time with my brother and friends rather than with him, despite the fact that I saw him ...
A. 18 April 2012: Yes. His behaviour is the classic "guilt trip." IF you fall prey to it, and remain in touch with, or - God forbid - remain an ITEM with, this man... then you will have set yourself up to be the shill for the oft-repeated "relationship" which ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible?
Q. Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible? Some background info before the women on here start calling me a 'player' etc.... I'm 23 years old and was a virgin up until last year. For most of my life, women...
A. 18 April 2012: Congratulations!!! You have successfully morphed from a "socially awkward" young man - pondering the world around him - to one of us.... the ultimate "macho-man" who believes that God populated this world with females who have reproductive organs ... (read in full...)
Should I give my B/f a chance and help improve himself or leave him as a 'lost cause'? Is bullying during his childhood a reason or excuse?
Q. I am at my wits end with my boyfriend at the moment. We have been together for just over a year and we get on well. We have met each other's family but he has problems with my side. He didn't greet my Mum when he came round until I told him to do...
A. 18 April 2012: I'll assume that your boyfriend is in the same age category as you (26-29). If so, then where have his manners and social graces been for all this time? How is it that he has been able to avoid developing some manners? (Let's face it; mann... (read in full...)
Should I say happy birthday to my ex?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We had a long distance relationship and dated for about 2 months, but we've been friends for almost 2 years. The break up was weird and about a week ago we had a huge fight (I broke the no ...
A. 17 April 2012: In a situation like this, I would say that the smartest thing you can do is MAIL a Happy Birthday card to him....
P.S. That means "mail by the postal service.... a PAPER card... NOT an e-mail card...or a text message"... (read in full...)
Pregnant and feeling very alone, to make things worse after I went to my first check-up alone I found flirty texts to another woman! Am I being extra clingy because I'm pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend has a lot of responsibilities. Parents etc. He works hard too. We found out I am pregnant but he doesn't seem to pay any attention to me anyway. When I asked him to spend more time with me after work, he recently questioned me if I ...
A. 17 April 2012: The only thing that you seem to be sensitive to is the INSENSITIVITY (and jerkiness!) of your "boyfriend"..... He sounds like a child who hasn't grown up........ (read in full...)
What is the average time for a couple to move in together?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now, i asked him if he wants kids with me and he said yes, but I'm wondering what is the average time it takes a couple to move into together? He is making efforts for me he met my mom and sister and for ...
A. 16 April 2012: What are your prospects for getting "married?" Many people believe that THAT actually PRECEDES moving in to live together and have a family (children)........ (read in full...)
Really unhappy in this relationship, is it just me? Or is he actually treating me badly?
Q. So ive been with my current bf a year and this is my first serious relationship and we live together. He however is a divorcee who has been in several committed realtionships. (He is a decade older than me.) Ive been seriously debating whether...
A. 16 April 2012: The guy you described is the quintessential self-centered little boy who is ecstatic to have landed a "G/F" such as you.... one who is naive enough to ask the question: "...(Im worried,) is it me ? " Of course it's "not you".... BUT, in order fo... (read in full...)
Was I just the rebound girl?
Q. ok where do i start. I broke up with my ex boyfriend of two years in august last yr afta months of abuse and coldness from him. we tried to be friends but it has always been up and down and tbh i havent really been interested in being friends. so i ...
A. 15 April 2012: was i his rebound? or just something to get back at his ex with?
Would you feel like an "overachiever" if you learned that you were BOTH of these?????? 'Cuz you were........ (read in full...)
My cheap boyfriend tries to make me feel guilty to pay for our meals out!
Q. Lately, my boyfriend of 2.5 years has been giving me a guilt trip about not "treating" him to dinners. I'll ask him if we can go out somewhere nice, implying that I'll pay half, and he says "if you're treating, sure." He earns the most money out of ...
A. 15 April 2012: I can only imagine how tasty you find meals which are seasoned with guilt!!!!!
A guy who behaves as you describe... when his G/F offers to "go Dutch" periodically is uber-cheap, to be sure...
From the description you make of your's/his relat... (read in full...)
Do I try to contact her one more time?
Q. I have been chatting with this girl in college class since the beginning of the semester . There was light flirting and she would always turn around (she sits a row in front of me). She would literally turn around to small talk with me everyday. ...
A. 14 April 2012: IF you make a pointed effort to contact her... I predict that she will view you as "desparate"..... and, her past behaviour indicates that that would turn her off....
INSTEAD, can you arrange to "run in" to her somewhere around campus? THAT wou... (read in full...)
Living with his parents, watching him watch football -- sometimes it feels like I'm wasting my time
Q. I've been with my bf for over 2 years now and I feel like nothing has changed or moved forward in our relationship we are stuck in a bungalow with his mum and dad and ass hole of a brother and it's starting to take its toll. All my bf is interest...
A. 11 April 2012: As regards this: "....what does us sleeping together have to do with anything with my question...."
Because "sleeping together" (having s*x) is EVERYTHING that a guy seeks in a "relationship".... and EVERYTHING ELSE (in that "relatio... (read in full...)
Will he ever change or should I just give up?
Q. my partner of 2.5 years and I booked a holiday recently, I previously took him away and paid for everything, he is non working and his mum always gives him money as he lies constantly to her to get her to feel sorry and give him funds. he is 40 and ...
A. 11 April 2012: All I really see herein, is a woman who has MADE A DECISION to hang around with a guy who she KNOWS is a handful....
At the end of this submittal, as I read it, YOU are home stirring yourself all up in a dither.... and HE is enjoying the grea... (read in full...)
Who is right, me or my wife? And what advice do we give our friends?
Q. I searched the internet for advice sites, and I ended up here. We (my wife and I) have a question. We have some friends who are a little younger than us (mid 20's). They are engaged to be married. The Guy has an apartment, and the Girl moved back ...
A. 11 April 2012: IF one of a "partnership" believes that the other in that partnership must discard his/her past as a condition of that partnership.... then that partnership is beginning on some pretty shaky ground..... and it's only a matter of time before the ... (read in full...)
Telling your best friend you love her?
Q. Is it best to tell a girl you are in love with as soon as possible? Even if the girl is your best friend?...
A. 10 April 2012: Let me give you a "balancing" opinion..... I dated a woman who I was introduced to through a mutual friend. We met by having dinner.... and, as might be predicted, believed we liked one-another and had more and more contacts/dates..... (read in full...)
My biological clock is ticking, and he just rolls his eyes!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. From the start he knew i wanted marriage and children some day. He also told me he wanted those things. Over time, this has gone to, wanting it, not wanting it, not sure, wanting it. He has also ...
A. 9 April 2012: Sounds to me like you and this guy are far afield of one-another as to what you would like to share with a (your) partner..... Consider if you want to continue waiting for this guy to play his hand.... since - when he does (and who knows WHEN???) ... (read in full...)
My younger sister has tried to hook up with my boyfriends. Now the tables are turned. Should I accept her boyfriend's invitation to have sex?
Q. i have this problem... my sister just recently started seeing a new guy. i later find out that he wants to be with me in a sexual way. i do have feelings for him and not sure what to do. part of me is saying its wrong but another part is saying she ...
A. 8 April 2012: When I see that you've included this in your submittal - "...part of me is saying its wrong...." I KNOW that YOU KNOW "the answer."
You'll never have to regret having taken the "high road"........ (read in full...)
Living with his parents, watching him watch football -- sometimes it feels like I'm wasting my time
Q. I've been with my bf for over 2 years now and I feel like nothing has changed or moved forward in our relationship we are stuck in a bungalow with his mum and dad and ass hole of a brother and it's starting to take its toll. All my bf is interest...
A. 8 April 2012: There are probably lots of OTHER details of your relationship that "dig" at you, as well, no?
When considering the permanance of what has and will go on between you (two)... think about if, what you're "seeing" now is the TOTAL of what will go ... (read in full...)
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