Living with his parents, watching him watch football -- sometimes it feels like I'm wasting my time
Q. I've been with my bf for over 2 years now and I feel like nothing has changed or moved forward in our relationship we are stuck in a bungalow with his mum and dad and ass hole of a brother and it's starting to take its toll. All my bf is interest...
A. 11 April 2012: As regards this: "....what does us sleeping together have to do with anything with my question...."
Because "sleeping together" (having s*x) is EVERYTHING that a guy seeks in a "relationship".... and EVERYTHING ELSE (in that "relatio... (read in full...)
Living with his parents, watching him watch football -- sometimes it feels like I'm wasting my time
Q. I've been with my bf for over 2 years now and I feel like nothing has changed or moved forward in our relationship we are stuck in a bungalow with his mum and dad and ass hole of a brother and it's starting to take its toll. All my bf is interest...
A. 8 April 2012: There are probably lots of OTHER details of your relationship that "dig" at you, as well, no?
When considering the permanance of what has and will go on between you (two)... think about if, what you're "seeing" now is the TOTAL of what will go ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said even though marrying and having children with me would muddy his bloodline, he would overlook it!
Q. Im a 26 year old british asian female, my 31 year old bf is a white american male. We have been together for a few months and recently he expressed a desire to have kids one day in the future. Of course this is great! I would love children with ...
A. 6 April 2012: It means that you are sufficiently desperate to have a baby that you will cast good sense to the side and allow this fool to imseminate you....
How many ways can you hear people say that this is not a very smart idea, before you come to your sen... (read in full...)
Do beautiful women sometimes go out with unattractive guys just because they like the attention?
Q. Hi All, I have a cousin who for a few months hooked up with this gorgeous chick. She was a 26 year old model, and he was a 40 year old government worker. He was head over heels for her, and spent money on her, took her places, etc. We in the fam ...
A. 6 April 2012: They go out with me - and I am one of the UGLIEST dudes you are ever likely to see - because they love my brain AND certain other physical attributes that I have....... (read in full...)
Is there a name for my weird fetish?
Q. Hi When I am in bed at night, instead of masturbating over my crush and thinking about sex with her, I do something a little different. I imagine the two of us together in my bed and holding/hugging each other, but kind of really tightly, like...
A. 5 April 2012: P.S. I forgot to tell you that your "practice" DOES have a clinical name.....
It is called "solo pajama-bound uber-hugging with frictional writhing" You'd be surprised how many (of us) practice it!... (read in full...)
Is there a name for my weird fetish?
Q. Hi When I am in bed at night, instead of masturbating over my crush and thinking about sex with her, I do something a little different. I imagine the two of us together in my bed and holding/hugging each other, but kind of really tightly, like...
A. 4 April 2012: Doesn't sound fetishlike to me.... sounds pretty normal...... (read in full...)
Seeing married man on the fly, does he have feelings for me?
Q. I have really good friend who is married , he's been with this girl 10 years , they split up befour annd we were secretly seeing each other for a few weeks . Over the past few weeks we have been kissing at the weekends when we have a drink in us but ...
A. 2 April 2012: Yes.... he DOES have feelings for you.
Those feelings are best stated this way (I'll paraphrase on his behalf): "Boy, now I've got (your name) to put out for me... and I like s*x with her... and I'd like to continue that s*x.... so I'll do ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend nag at me?
Q. I used to think that it was the woman who always nagged at the man, my mom used to be that way so I promised myself I wouldn't be. I think I'm pretty laid-back and understanding for a girl, but my live-in boyfriend of three years will nag at me for ...
A. 2 April 2012: Important fact No 1: You and he are not married... so you and he stay together with only the most tenuous of obligation to one-another....
Important fact No 2: Because of fact No 1, HE isn't under much/any obligation to be much nicer to you........ (read in full...)
Did I have sex with him too soon?
Q. Sex too soon? I am a 30 year old woman who has been single for 2.5 years. I've never really been the type of girl who always had boyfriends (I've spend 6 yrs out of the last 9.5yrs single), though it's not through lack of trying. I'm at...
A. 2 April 2012: You have to make THIS choice:
1. You can contact him and see if he's be interested in another date that DOES NOT include his staying at your house and having sex together...... or,
2. You can sit back and wait to see if he contacts you to ... (read in full...)
My FWB saw me kiss another man and now he wont talk to me!
Q. Hi everyone just wondering your opinions in this situation I have been sleeping with a man for over a year now who is trying to get over his ex as he was with her for a long time I went out at the weekend and I kissed another man and the man I have ...
A. 2 April 2012: "Friends with benefits" carries NO OBLIGATION on the part of EITHER the BENEFICIARY or the BENEFACTOR.... and BOTH participants have BOTH positions.....
Your kissing some guy/any other guy is NONE OF HIS BUSINESS.... IF he wants you to be a "true"... (read in full...)
Should I become a bad girl to get his attention?
Q. Hi i am 16 years old and have never had a boyfriend. I really like this guy but I know he doesn't like me in return and even if he does I don't have the confidence to ask him out. The thing is I am just too nice: i have good manners, i am polite and ...
A. 1 April 2012:
What a great idea!!!... compromise EVERYTHING that you know is "right".... so that you'll "look" like a "bad" girl.... this for some guy who isn't worth it.....
Have you detected the satire in my reply???? If "No," then, please recognize, t... (read in full...)
I now regret taking him back after his fourth cheating episode!
Q. my partner of two years has technically cheated on me and i have taken him back for the fourth time and now i am regretting it what should i do?...
A. 31 March 2012: DUMP HIM for the fourth time... and, DON'T TAKE HIM BACK FOR THE FIFTH TIME!!!!!... (read in full...)
How would you describe this text?
Q. How would you describe this text message sent by a male friend to me after I had asked about a drink and he said to me you will have to be quick. 'You know i love nothing better than a woman who comes quickly'. Is this classed as a jokey, in...
A. 30 March 2012: It's clearly a fake. NO REAL MAN covets a woman who comes quickly.... WE (real men) like to drag out the intimacy, and see that the lady enjoys/endures a lengthy foreplay the has her SQUIRMING and BREATHING heavy and SWEATING PROFUSELY..... Only ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he love me?
Q. i have known this guy for like 2yrs, he is married but not really very happy into this relation of his. i "really" love him and even broke up with a boyfriend of 4years for him,because i dint want to cheat on him. he used to like my best friend in ...
A. 30 March 2012: You have described (and are partaking of) the classic mismatch of mens' and womens' expectation of what is happening between them....
You have fallen in love with your married-man friend and expect that he has fallen in love with you... so will ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to deal with this pressure from my sister?
Q. I'm so confused and frankly I feel bad. A couple days back I went out to dinner with my boss(19 I'm 17) as friends and strictly that. I then posted about it on Facebook Well my sister read this and when she came over she kept pestering me about...
A. 29 March 2012: Molly: What you do in your life has NOTHING to do with your Sister.....
Carry on with your life... with school, with your regular B/F... with this guy who is your boss.... and don't give this whole incident another thought....
IF your Siste... (read in full...)
I'm considering confronting this bully from my former workplace
Q. I encountered this irritating co worker at workplace 2 yrs back . We had mutual friends though whom i got introduced to him. He appeared real friendly at first. Later he and i were made to work in the same assignment with another senior member (a...
A. 29 March 2012: I suggest that you write a SCATHING email to him.... Print it off your computer, fold it up, and take it home and put it on your nightstand. The following morning, upon your awakening, read that e-mail. IF it STILL makes sense for you to SEND that ... (read in full...)
Should I go on holiday without him?
Q. hi i have a bit of a problem. i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we are both 26 the thing is we planned to go abroad this summer for a week. But i would also like to go abroad with my girlfriend later on this year for 1 week. He thinks...
A. 29 March 2012: You're NOT wrong for wanting to travel with your girl-friend... and your "boyfriend" is acting skittishly immature..... IF that's the best he can do, then maybe you will be better off without him, once he pulls the trigger and sez, "You'll have ... (read in full...)
How do I make hubby last longer?
Q. I have been married for 3 months now and my husband and i have sex with a condom because we are still going to school and dont want to have kids at the moment we have sex 3 times a week but each time with foreplay our sex is about 15 mins long, he ...
A. 29 March 2012: YOu can't do a darn thing "to make him last longer."
What you CAN do is say to him, "Honey, you know when "we" make love, there's another person there in bed? ("it's me")... and it might take me longer than 15 minutes to experience orgasmic... (read in full...)
Is wearing a sheer or see thru bathing suit OK?
Q. My boyfriend (of many years) asked me to remove the lining from a couple of my bikini's, so that when we go to the beach they will be see through. I did this to one of my darker suits, the results being not too dramatic. More noticible on top, but ...
A. 29 March 2012: WHAT AN INSULT!!!!! I've been listening to hear you laughing in his face at this childish request.... but I guess we're too far apart for that.....
Don't sell your soul (never MIND your body) for ANY man....
Remember, men are like taxi cabs..... (read in full...)
Girlfriend lost her license for 5 years. How should I handle it?
Q. My girlfriend lost her license for five years. We have been dating for eight months. We both have children and we live about 45 miles apart. How would you handle this situation?...
A. 29 March 2012: Assuming that you and she continue to see each-other... there's a two-part "answer" to this:
1. For her getting about locally, leave it up to her to do whatever she would have done if she never knew you, and,
2. You can/should take ... (read in full...)
Has a woman ever had you under a spell?
Q. So have you ever been under a woman's spell? I mean, have you ever been in a relationship with a woman whom you knew was bad for you, but you couldn't break away? I had this kind of relationship last year. A woman I was seeing had me under some...
A. 29 March 2012: I could give you a list.... but I think there's a limit as to how lengthy a "reply" can be, here on this site....... (read in full...)
Looks don't matter, or, are men really this shallow?
Q. Well, I know that people always say that looks don't matter to guys, or that they're not the most important thing, but are they just being polite? 'Cause I read an article and it really made me lose a bit of hope in men... http://livingw...
A. 29 March 2012: You will never embarrass yourself by overestimating the shallowness of guys who are trying to get some (any) woman's attention, or trying to get her to put out for him...... (read in full...)
What are the biggest reasons for divorce?
Q. I was wondering what are the biggest reasons for divorce. Or I could call it cause for divorce. My husband is not intimate with me anymore, Is this very common after 20 something years of marriage? I know ,there are some marriage, what was ...
A. 29 March 2012: You (and he?) are sufficiently older that he should have a thorough medical exam to see if there isn't something that has changed within him, such that his libido has plummetted.... P.S. He ought to have medical exams regularly, anyway.... so ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to flirt with someone so young whilst doing business? Or am I just jealous?
Q. I was on my partners computer tonight sending email for him on his instructions as he is away when a message came up saying Sally was wanting to talk. I clicked on link and I saw there were messages dating back a few weeks. I was surprised by what I ...
A. 28 March 2012: You'll be on the most-solid ground if you DROP the "jealous" and "betrayed" bits and stick to "it's not proper and professional".....
You can ressurect the "jealous" and "betrayed" bits when he gets home and you can accost the cheating... (read in full...)
How do I keep my friends and stop them wanting a relationship with me?
Q. I am starting to go crazy here. I am in a healthy relationship. Most of my friends are guys, which I have known for years. Lately, I have had three of those guy friends tell me they want a relationship with me. I just politely say, I am happy with ...
A. 28 March 2012: Ultimately, you are going to have to face the choice:
IF these "friends" continue to hit upon you, you'll have to decide if their "friendship" is so precious that you will compromise your other/real relationship for it.....
Your call....... (read in full...)
I'm angry at my girlfriend all the time now!
Q. Hey ima young male around 18-24. Me and my girlfriend have been together for four years. We have a child together to but now it seems like our relationship is slowly fading. We barely have contact with each other and I seem angry at her all the time ...
A. 28 March 2012: You write "...We barely have contact with each other..."
Am I to understand that the two of you have remained unmarried and do not live at the same address???
Sometimes, wading in to adulthood can really suck......... (read in full...)
How can he love me so much and have such little contact with me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now, and in the beginning we decided to take it very slow. We had both been single for awhile and our previous relationships had been pretty bad, so we decided that slowly easing into this relationship ...
A. 28 March 2012: The real "key" to your submittal lies in something that you didn't say... but which I expect we might surmise:
Are you and he having s*x?
If "yes," then he is behaving in predictable fashion, as a guy who has a woman who will put out for him ... (read in full...)
Wife's friend is dating her ex, and I overheard them talking about his penis. I'm not happy!
Q. Should I be pissed off or not. My wife's friend is really hitting on a guy who used to date my wife. I overheard them talking, and my wife said that this guy was a really nice guy. Will take her out to nice places, and buy her stuff. Then she said ...
A. 28 March 2012: If you calm down and purge the 12-year-old personna out of your brain.... you can read this submittal again and again until it sinks in that it's quite an embarrassment to you... and you should delete it and forget that you ever wrote it.....
... (read in full...)
How can I show more love to my boyfriend?
Q. i find it hard to express my love to my boyfriend and push him away when he tries to show me any. i then end up feeling very guilty, how can i get myself to show more love to him?...
A. 28 March 2012: Are you asking if you should put out for him???? 'Cuz THAT's what we guys tell you girls you need to do in order to "prove your love" for us....
If you've bought in to that... then, please, put the thought out of your head immediat... (read in full...)
Does this guy just not want to pay me?
Q. This is not a relationship problem, but I need some advice as I am feeling quite low about myself at the moment. There was a hairdressing salon just opened in january where I live. I sent a CV into him and the next day he contacted me and told me to ...
A. 28 March 2012: No.. I think he's stiffing you for some pay that you earned. Under normal circumstances the threat of reporting him to workplace authorities would probably bring him around to make good with you. HOWEVER, if you were working "off the books" you ... (read in full...)
Is this guy up to something or is he just a loser.
Q. Does anyone think that this guy is up to something. ive being going with this guy who is 27 for the last 15 month. Never being introduced to his family, never goes to his house unless there no one there and he adds girls all the time on facebook and ...
A. 28 March 2012: You may hang on the "Facebook" issue if you wish... but I counted 4 OTHER good reasons for you to drop this character in your submittal........ (read in full...)
What to do about unhealthy sex affair?
Q. Having a 2 yr fling with a younger man.We only see each other once month and the only time we communicate is when it's time for us to hook up again.I for the ride just for sex.When we started I was married as well but divorced since then for ...
A. 28 March 2012: Any/all guys who have found a woman who will put out for them WITHOUT CONDITIONS will say/do anything to keep that s*x thing going..... THAT is what YOU are experiencing. It would be futile and frustrating to believe that this guy is going to ... (read in full...)
I want to forgive my boyfriend for being involved with this girl but I have too many questions!
Q. I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years. Recently, we got into a huge fight and we broke up. During the time we broke up, we still see each other and hang out. Finally, we got back together after 5 days. Few days after, my friend told me that I s...
A. 28 March 2012: I read your submittal, in its entirety, three times... before I took a moment to look up (again) at the heading and learn that you are "A female (flag) 22-25,".... and then, this question hit ME: Why are you and this guy and this other girl acting ... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits for 8 years, then I find out he is married! How do I get over this?
Q. hi everyone, could do with some advice please, how do you get over a man who you see for 8 years as friends with benefits? im totaly heartbroken and there isnt a day goes by i dont think of him. he got married 2 years ago and never told me and yet ...
A. 27 March 2012: It's unfortunate that you've had this experience... and you have my sympathies.... HOWEVER,....
if you look through these pages (Dear Cupid) you will see many submittals which are similar to, or the same as, your's.... "FWBs" almost always e... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 4 years told me I am not interesting! How should I take this comment?
Q. How does someone make there self more interesting? my bf told me the other night that I wasnt interesting enough and that's why he never can talk to me. we been together for 4years now idk but he's always been really quiet but I just feel like he's ...
A. 27 March 2012: You've been together 4 YEARS... and he has the nerve to tell you "...I wasnt (you aren't) interesting enough and that's why he never can talk to me."???????
The ONLY justification that I can imagine for that would be if you were very busy tending ... (read in full...)
I think he behaved so badly as a defence mechanism...is he worth it anymore? Should I try to keep working on this?
Q. Am I trying too hard? Okay, I have major trust issues--so much to the point I never liked anyone who showed me too much affection, I saw it as clingy. Even though I'm very emotionally needy. Heard of abandoholism? Anyways, I finally decided to let ...
A. 27 March 2012: When a relationship or an incident takes about 5 column-inches to desribe and assess it.... then that relationship or incident really isn't worth the agony of continuing it....
Cindy is correct: sometimes a cigar really IS just a cigar...... (read in full...)
He got nasty when I got ill and couldnt have sex!
Q. Hi,I had terrible problems with my stomach including constant pain for a whole year and spent that time in and out of the medical centre. Then my condition worsened. For a while it looked like I was going to have an operation and I was absolutely ...
A. 27 March 2012: "Sounds" like a delightful, thoughtful "B/F" you've got there...... How quickly can you tell him "Good by" and take another address?????... (read in full...)
Any advice to keep me going through this break up, or any tips on how to stay strong?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years and I broke up on Saturday. It was so abrupt I've been in such shock ( the gist of it being I thought he was the one, he didn't feel the same anymore so I left) So far I've been doing ok, quite up and down but generally al...
A. 27 March 2012: Here's my advice: In a lifetime of, say, 70 years (typical for us, these days), a week or two is really only "the blink of an eye." YOU can endure a little upset and frustration for that long in order to let this bit of drama play out.... AND - ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a girl could be potentially checking me out?
Q. Hey aunts. I need some SERIOUS help. I'm having trouble telling if a girl likes me or not. I've only had two girlfriends in my 24 years of living. I think the reason for that is because I never step out of my comfort zone. When I see a girl I like, ...
A. 27 March 2012: You need to locate and fall for that rare woman who is able to determine that a guy exhibits his interest in her by avoiding or ignoring her.....
P.S. Until/unless you "man up" (your words) you're going to spend a lot of Friday and Saturday... (read in full...)
Will he cheat with her again?
Q. Here I go: I meet him at work(we worked in different dep) We started talking and doing activities together. Sex came in the picture, everything was fine, we started going for lunch at work, seeing eachother after work for movies, drives out of t...
A. 26 March 2012: WHY expose yourself to the angst of having to worry about this?????? This guy is probably LIKELY to re-fire the intimacy/s*x he had with this "other" girl.... and, regardless if he does or not, YOU will always have that to distress over in the back ... (read in full...)
Too call or not to call a man after 3 dates?
Q. I met a guy out, and he got my card. He emailed a few days later and asked me out. Our first date went well (touching of the knee, arm, etc). He asked for my phone number but he didn't call until 5 days later. When he did call, he asked me out ...
A. 25 March 2012: OP: The "4-date scheme" is a sure-fire way for a guy to get a girl to put out for him....... Officially, it works like this:
1. Guy goes on date with girl.... takes her home.. walks her to her door, gives her a hug.... maybe a peck on the chee... (read in full...)
Are his lies that bad? Is it better to end things now, or try and keep going?
Q. I am feeling so terrible right now and need some advice. I really don't know what to do.... I just broke up with my boyfriend. I didn't necessarily mean to. I found out he lied to me, and I was so hurt that I sent him a text saying exactly, ...
A. 23 March 2012: Looks to me like you're prepared to give him lots of justification for his past lying. Are you prepared to do the same thing - in the future - if and as the lies get more complicated, more complex, and you cannot separate yourself for the effects ... (read in full...)
Too call or not to call a man after 3 dates?
Q. I met a guy out, and he got my card. He emailed a few days later and asked me out. Our first date went well (touching of the knee, arm, etc). He asked for my phone number but he didn't call until 5 days later. When he did call, he asked me out ...
A. 23 March 2012: This guy is running the "4 date scheme" to a "tee"........ (read in full...)
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