How can people compare porn to a romance novel?
Q. How can people compare porn to a romance novel? A romance novel is harmless words on a page, porn is a picture of a real person with no clothes on who exists who can easily be compared. Same with a vibrator it's a piece of plastic....
A. 19 March 2012: As far as I'm concerned, they're EXACTLY the same thing....... (read in full...)
I'm 26 and my husband is looking for younger women
Q. I thought I forgot about my husband, maybe ex husband hasn't divorced yet. So technically not yet. I am not into divorce and I think that marriage should be sacred that is probably why I'm still pushing and hoping that we can still get back together...
A. 19 March 2012: I'll "answer" the only, one question that makes any sense. You write: "Help pls"..... so, here it is:
This guy isn't worth even ONE whit of your concern. He's proven to be disinterested.... Sooooo, YOU need to figure out THAT, and get on with ... (read in full...)
I don't like her inappropriate behaviour!
Q. I have a group of friends who I was at a party with last weekend. They know and study with this girl. She is very slutty I would say. She grabs at the guys (she's got 3-4 guys she's always grabbing at). Now, what they do is their business, but this ...
A. 19 March 2012: Her behaviour is HER'S... Your reaction to it is YOUR'S....
If they (her behaviour/your reaction) are incompatible, then YOU are free to stay away from her....
What's the question???????????????????... (read in full...)
My four year old's 73 nyear old Daddy ignores her existance.
Q. I have a four year old child by a 73 year old man!we live in the home with him! He refuses to claim her as his child when his family ask him. I have asked him on several occasions to prepare her for the future in case he dies ber=fore e pass away so ...
A. 19 March 2012: This submittal provides proof-positive that we men go 'way demented in our upper brains, whilst are lower brain and all that goes along with IT, may keep working for YEARS!!!... (read in full...)
How to get over his porn use?
Q. Does anybody have any tips on how to get over your boyfriend's porn use? I know some women aren't bothered or used to be and aren't now, I want to be one of these women to move on....
A. 19 March 2012: IF YOU don't like his looking at porn... then it is a REAL problem FOR THE TWO OF YOU!!!!! Don't be fooled when he tells you that it's "your" problem!!!!!!!!! As you and he discuss this matter... unless he clams up completely.... you will learn m... (read in full...)
After 4 years I feel like we've lost the spark
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 year, and we have recently moved in together. I love being with him, and we always get on really well. Sometimes I worry because I feel like we have lost our 'spark' we don't often have sex, and ...
A. 19 March 2012: P.S. It's OK to keep trying to keep it alive... or, resurrect it ... if you wish!!!!!... (read in full...)
After 4 years I feel like we've lost the spark
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 year, and we have recently moved in together. I love being with him, and we always get on really well. Sometimes I worry because I feel like we have lost our 'spark' we don't often have sex, and ...
A. 19 March 2012: Count your blessings that you got 4 years out of this "relationship." Sometimes, what you described happens in the first few WEEKS..... sometimes, after 40, 50 or 60+ years...... The fact is that, sometime, you and he are going to get bored and ... (read in full...)
I think the reason I stay is because everyone says it won't work out, and I want to prove them wrong. But is my happiness worth the risk?
Q. Alright, My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over nine months and I'm at my whits end with everything... The first couple months were great, but once we hit the five month mark, it's been all downhill. I love this kid so much, but I ...
A. 19 March 2012: I'm not sure that your "question" makes any sense.... for this reason....
AL/ANY of us guys crave to find a young partner who will treat us like our Mother.... EXCEPT that she will put out for us, and - under the circumstances - THAT is acceptab... (read in full...)
Does he love me or is he obsessed with me?
Q. So this guy has wanted to be with me for a very long time and finally had the chance to make his move. We have many things in common. We've always got along very well. We've been seeing each other for about a month and we've said just about ...
A. 19 March 2012: Is there is difference between "in love with" and "obsessed with?"
Frankly, looks like you've got this guy under your thumb REGARDLESS of the answer to that (above) question.....
Good luck... and, please, go easy on him........ (read in full...)
How could he move on so quick?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of five and a half years called it quit a month and two weeks ago. One month after we separated he post pics on Facebook of him and his new girlfriend. My heart hurt in a place I never felt before. I don't know whether to move ...
A. 18 March 2012: WE guys give up quickly when you girls dump us....
We're ready to bed-down our NEXT conquest within 24 hours... Sorry that you don't understand that....... (read in full...)
How far do most 17-year-olds go with each other after 5 months of being in a relationship?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I are 17 and have been going out now for about 5 months and this is our first relationship. He says he just wants it to be comfortable for me and he will be happy which is very sweet but i'm just curious. How far do most 17 ...
A. 18 March 2012: I got 1/2-way between 2nd and 3rd bases before Susan Murphy told me to stop........ (read in full...)
Is a handjob painful for a guy?
Q. last night me and my bf were making out and feeling eachother u. I had my shirt off and he was feeling my breats down my bra I guess I got excited and went down andbegan to rub down there. It was my first time doing this so I was curious. So I kept ...
A. 18 March 2012: ARE YOU CRAZY????? We guys would, cheerfully, sell our souls in order to get a handjob....... (read in full...)
How long should a hand job last?
Q. How long do handjods usually last when the guy is 17? And how shud I clean it up when im done? And how much will there be?...
A. 18 March 2012: It shouldn't last more than 2 minutes and 45 seconds. You can clean up - afterwards - with some of those "sanitary wipes" that you get at the grocery store.... for wiping off the bar of your grocery cart... As for how much.... some of us will ... (read in full...)
A cologne to turn my girlfriend on?
Q. Hi Guys, This question is for women to answer and men are welcome too :D. Do you know a specific perfume that i can use to turn my girlfriend on and really worked for you? ...
A. 18 March 2012: You (other) guys are crazy!!!! IF a guy REALLY wants to make time with a lady, he will slather himself with "Old Spice" or "Hai Karate". I use both of them, and I've NEVER returned home except with my undies IN MY POCKET!!!!... (read in full...)
I love him, but I left on a bad note with him.
Q. I moved away from my home town 3 years ago and returned at the beginning of March. I had been in love with the same guy for eight years. I never stopped thinking about him when I moved. My first day back at school last friday, I didn't see him but I ...
A. 18 March 2012: "Sounds" to me like you've got him in the palm of your hand. The only thing left for you to do is to pull the trigger and get him to make a fool of himself for you.
Given the same circumstances, most of us (guys) would.... (make a fool of ourse... (read in full...)
How often do you see your boyfriend/girlfriend in the average week?
Q. Hi Dearcupid, I was wondering how often you see your boyfriend/girlfriend on average? My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost four months and we only see each other once a week, usually on Saturdays. Sometimes he will text me ...
A. 15 March 2012: Even after reading your follow-up, I can't shake the thought that this guy really has another life that you won't learn about from him.....
ANY guy will tell you he's being monogamous, and not seeing anyone else.... IF THAT'S WHAT IT TAKES TO... (read in full...)
Rather than dealing with our problems, at the first sign of trouble she goes straight onto dating sites!
Q. I have been in a relationship for 3 years now. It appears that every time there is a problem or I am not up to scratch, that instead of telling me what I have done or not done, she goes on date sites and talks to men. For the last year I have been ...
A. 15 March 2012: In reply to your only real question: "... so why the hell is she still on them then?"
It's because SHE likes the drama that you and she play.... and YOU haven't/won't put your foot down and told her, "I really like you, (her name here), but I de... (read in full...)
Does he love me or is he messing with me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months or so. (I'm 29, he's 35). We spend a few days and/or nights together each week, and we keep in touch every day via phone/texting. We have not said the "L" word yet, but we have done other things ...
A. 15 March 2012: WHY aren't you asking this question to HIM????
Do you LOVE him? If "yes," then why haven't YOU said so, to him?????
I find this a particularly tender subject, since I spent 6 years with a woman (and in-love with her) whilest SHE didn't "love... (read in full...)
Do natural contraception monitors work?
Q. Hi This isnt a relationship question as such... more of a sex and practical question. I do not get on well with hormonal contraceptives. They do horrid things to me, and I stopped taking them. My boyfriend uses condoms, but it would be nice to...
A. 15 March 2012: MANY people have tried this method of contraception.
A LOT OF THEM are now known as "parents."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I get hit on but I'm not attracted to anyone and its starting worry me
Q. Hi everyone. Some insight will be appreciated. I am 32 years old and single. I used to enjoy being single but not anymore (mainly because it is lasting so long) but I am also not desparate for a relationship. Here is the problem. I get a lot of ...
A. 14 March 2012: Let's zero in on what I think is an important detail in your submittal....
You write: "...are only interested in sex or they might create a fight in a bar when they get drunk.."
IF you are in bars looking for a reasonable man-friend with ... (read in full...)
Cheated, broke up, and cannot move on
Q. Exactly a year ago I posted this: I was in a wonderful relationship for over a year and we were really deep in love with one another. Then one day I went for coffee with a guy I used to love and we slept together. I told my boyfriend right after th...
A. 14 March 2012: I'll make a note in my calendar book to watch for your next year's submittal. "Sounds" to me like you have no intention of improving your life.... you just like to update your post every 365 days (366, this year)....... (read in full...)
My boss is married. He rubs and pats me at work. What are your thoughts? He's older but attractive to me.
Q. I've been working at a local restaurant in my town for almost two months now. It's the first real job I've ever had. I've been recently getting vibes from my boss. Last week, we had a moment. The area behind the counter is very narrow. My co-wo...
A. 14 March 2012: Here's my thought... which includes YOUR words: "...I don't want to do anything. I'm not stupid. I would never want to do anything that would get us both in trouble. "
Keep repeating those words until they sink in....... (read in full...)
He had sex with his ex....we were seperated but neither of us had filed for divorce, so did he cheat on me?
Q. My husband and I were separated for a year. After the first 6 months we started to talk and go out to dinner and such. We do have a daughter together and we were only married a little over a year when we separated. We worked on things and he had ...
A. 14 March 2012: This guy has gotten himself in to what I would call the "Dreamland" of manhood..... He has TWO women concerned/fighting over him.... and BOTH of those women are willing to have s*x with him.... and NEITHER is strong enough to shut him off from ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend has depression, how do I handle this?
Q. Okay here's the thing, my boyfriend seems depressed lately and I don't know what to do. Recently he's been really distant, not physically, just emotionally. We've been together 2 years now so I knew it was just a phase. However, it seems to be ...
A. 14 March 2012: Let's go to the crux of your question: "Okay here's the thing, my boyfriend seems depressed lately and I don't know what to do..."
The short answer is, you don't do a darn thing. It's HIS problem, so let HIM correct it....
The LONGER TE... (read in full...)
Why is my ex acting this way?
Q. My boyfriend of two and a half years broke up with me almost three months ago. Sometimes I miss him other times I don't really care. In either case I don't want to lose him and I do want him back. We had a great relationship up until the last little ...
A. 14 March 2012: All three of your "questions" have but ONE answer: To wit:
YOU make yourself available to this guy for s*x, irrespective of whether or not he loves you and is willing to exhibit (real) love for you.....
If and ONLY IF, YOU change the dynam... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 14 March 2012: OP: "26-29" is "young". IF you hope to cloud the issue by bringing up age, you're wasting your time. ALL the replies stand....... (read in full...)
How do I get over my younger FWB?
Q. I have left my 19 year old FWB and now I miss him more then ever. I have gone in a depression mode. At first it was just all for sex and then i started having feelings for him. I want a relationship with him but he doesnt. I really dont think he ...
A. 14 March 2012: Let's go right to the heart of the matter....
YOUR WORDS: "...I dont know what i did wrong or what i did to deserve this heartache..."
What you did "wrong" was enter in to a "FWB" arrangement without understanding just what it meant....
... (read in full...)
He asked to be my FWB, I turned him down because I want a relationship, then he claims to have feelings for his ex wife but got upset when he saw me kiss another man! What is going on?
Q. Hi everyone this is the situation, I met a man a year ago today, he had split from him wife nearly two year before we met. we agreed to take things slow then he asked me if we could be fwbs to which I told him no I want a proper relationship with ...
A. 14 March 2012: WOW!!!! AuntyEm.... I hadn't noticed what a FANTASTIC "reply" you'd made to this submittal.... Do you suppose there's ANY CHANCE that women - all over the world (and all over this site) - will look at it and actually pay attention to it??????... (read in full...)
He asked to be my FWB, I turned him down because I want a relationship, then he claims to have feelings for his ex wife but got upset when he saw me kiss another man! What is going on?
Q. Hi everyone this is the situation, I met a man a year ago today, he had split from him wife nearly two year before we met. we agreed to take things slow then he asked me if we could be fwbs to which I told him no I want a proper relationship with ...
A. 14 March 2012: You describe the "classic" "FWB" arrangement wherein the dynamics scatter all over the place... with no evidence of focus by the two participants....
HE has you putting out for him... so HE has no motivation to do anything else except continue... (read in full...)
Men won't stop treating my sister badly!
Q. Hello, I'm really worried about my sister. Shes been messed around by a couple of guys in the past and the guys that do have a relationship with her end up being not worth keeping on certain levels. The last two guys she really liked have been ...
A. 14 March 2012: I find it noble (and charming) that you are concerned about your Sister. HOWEVER, you cannot "live her life" for her.... AND, you cannot protect her from HERSELF (meaning, the life-choices that SHE makes).
Best you can do is be the best Brother ... (read in full...)
How can I show this girl that everything would work if she would bring our dating out into the open?
Q. Until recently I was dating a girl in secret for 5 years. She didnt want anyone to know because there was a 12 year age gap, and she was convinced everyone would make her end it. She is 27 now. After 5 years I wanted it to be out in the open as w...
A. 14 March 2012: REad your submittal again and see if you don't agree that this is a young, immature woman who you probably are better-off not seeing.... To wit:
"...because there was a 12 year age gap, and she was convinced everyone would make her end it...." ... (read in full...)
Do I hang in there or give up?
Q. I get close to a woman three months ago, i find out she has an ex she claims she cant get rid of, he is threatening her and nasty to her. See says she doesnt know how to deal with him and tells me she is frightened for me to so she thinks on a ...
A. 13 March 2012: Sounds like you've got yourself a "drama" girl, there...
I'd keep a comfortable distance from her until/unless SHE makes the "move" and becomes "available" (without qualification)... and reveals THAT to you....... (read in full...)
How do you turn down a guy in a respectable way?
Q. hello! im not the most attractive person out there, and im aware of this, so please no one take my question as a conceded one.. i get alot of guys approaching me, all of the time, and i dont do anything to initiate it, i dont think.. it seems like ...
A. 13 March 2012: I'd say there may well be TWO issues involved....
The first is your open and overt "appearance".... which means your deportment, attire and your words... THEY may be "just right" to inform a potential suitor that you are not interested. (For exa... (read in full...)
I would like my wife to share my sexual views
Q. I am a 45yr old male and think my my wife is not into sex. When we have sex its like a scheduled event and if I can not preform right, she says its ok maby next time.I am very sexual and like alot of stimulation in all my private parts but she will ...
A. 13 March 2012: AS long as nobody incurs bodily injury, there's really no such thing as "too kinky." What you HAVE described is a relationship (marriage) wherein the partners have different sexual energies and preferences.... You're probably in a LARGE group of ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my boyfriend with a girl, how is he going to react?
Q. hello.. i cheated on my botfriend with a chick during our 2 day break up, and im not interested in having a three some. how would you guys react to something like this if you were the boyfriend? (coming clean tomorrow)...
A. 13 March 2012: It wasn't cheating... and it's really none of his business. Why not just keep it to yourself????... (read in full...)
When he confessed it wasn't what I thought it would be!
Q. I am 24 and I met this genuinely loving guy at a charity organisation which helps disabled children get into sport. Anyway, we started dating 9 months ago and he has asked me to move in with him. I agreed and am in the process of packing my stuff. ...
A. 13 March 2012: What a great line. I'm almost ashamed to say that I've never used it, myself!!!
I'd withhold any decision about this guy until I saw a copy of his bank statement, AND got to visit the venues that he claimed........ (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to ignore his ex's pregnancy and marry me
Q. My boyfriend and I had a brief break up in January an during our break up he had a brief sexual encounter with a young woman (she is about 25) he is 49. He also has Bipolar 2. She is now pregnant. He says he does not want anyhting to do with her ...
A. 13 March 2012: I can't imagine any woman putting herself in to the crazy scenerio that you described as this guy's life........ (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend trying to protect me or control me?
Q. So I guess I should start by saying that my life has been chaotic the past month. I've been looking for a job for a few weeks with no success, and ended up taking a job at a "gentleman's club". I'm not dancing! Just waitressing. It's been ...
A. 12 March 2012: Tell your "B/F" that YOU will figure out how to do your job the best way that you know how..... and, thank you for your advice... but please keep it to yourself!!!!
WHAT KIND of "B/F" have you got there?????... (read in full...)
He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 12 March 2012: Butterfly: I think that you've missed an important detail. To wit: Part of your healing is for you to NOT be available for s*x with this guy!!! How much clearer can anybody make this to you?????... (read in full...)
B/f inexperienced and winds up hurting me while trying to make me feel good
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we both virgins and want to stay like that till we both feel ready for sex. The problem is when we do make out he likes to rub my clit but he rubs with alot of force which leaves me ...
A. 11 March 2012: You say to him: "Hey, (his name) take it easy on that little man in the boat. I love it when you coddle him... but when you make him feel like a sagebrush in a tornado it HURTS!!!!"
He should get the hint and then pleasure you a little more gen... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my urges may ruin everything!
Q. In my country, relationships are really hard to be understood by foreign people. And that is because of our religion, culture and education. it's just full of weirdness lol. I won't tell you about how it became so complicated but just try to ...
A. 11 March 2012: I suggest you move to Sweden or Honduras, where you and your man-friend can extricate yourselves from "religious" dogmas!!! Good luck.... and keep safe...... (read in full...)
He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 11 March 2012: HOw many different ways can we Agony Aunts and Uncles tell you that there is absolutely NO REASON why you should make yourself available as a "FWB" with this guy????.... and that you should tell him to "f*ck off" until/unless he becomes an ... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 29 February 2012: If you'd like to get validation for deciding to dump your porn-watching partner - who ignores you, evidently, because of that - I'll be happy to offer that validation.
Dump him and get on with your life....... (read in full...)
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