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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:my husband left me for a girl that is 24 years younger than him.when i found out i was crushed, i saw no problems in our marriage. we both worked long hours, spent time together when we had days off. i cooked, cleaned, did yard work, layed his clothes out for the next day. i waited on him hand and foot. he admitted that i was an awesome wife, but he was in love with her and loved me but not that way anymore. i filed for divorce, and allowed him to stay with me until i found out he had bought her a ring on valentines day.i put up with him staying out on weekends with her, staying out late and than coming home coming to bed and sleeping with me. and yes i just mean sleeping he would only put his arm around me.we are still in the middle of the divorce. i have to talk to him and see him once a month for my spousal support. he wants to text me everyonce in a while and expects for me to text back, if i dont than he says i hate him. i dont understand why he expects for me to stay in touch with him. i love him very much still and would love to have him come home. i have talked to her on the phone when i first found out about it and she says she didnt know he was married at first because he didnt wear a ring, but he told her he was married shortly after that and said that i didnt deserve getting hurt. i asked her to leave him alone,but she said lets let him decide. they are now living together her and her 3 year old daughter. do i wait alittle longer to see if this is what he wants or do i move on. is it a mid life crisis? its been 6 months.
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reader, mooh  +, writes (29 May 2012):
He is jumping from one long term relationship directly to another so is maybe afraid of the possibility that it doesn't work out between him and this girl. He is probably trying to keep you on the side in case like a security blanket and he maybe still senses that you have feelings for him so is trying to "control" you. Don't let him use you, time to turn the page and think of your happiness!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 May 2012):
 He is clearly a dick-head... and YOU deserve better.....
Let him go.... AND, (ultimately) let him learn that he has screwed up, badly......
Maybe, he'll ever learn what an idjit he's been... and, maybe, he'll ever want to re-kindle that great marriage/relationship that you and he once had.... but, hopefully, by then, YOU will have made a far better life... and you'll be able to say to him, "Sorry, loser, you went for that young hottie.... now let HER tend to you. I've got a better life going...."
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2012): u sound like an awesome women! Let him go and he'll soon realise your worth, and even if he doesn't please dont look back. Its said u dont know what u've got until its gone. So do everything in your power to just disappear, let him deposit the money.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 May 2012):
 Move on. Hopefully in the near future you won't give a rat's ass about what he wants or whether he's having a mid-life crisis. Do not give him the time of day, period. Why do you have to see him to get your support money? Have the dickhead mail it to you. Focus only on yourself and start building your life the way YOU want it. Best of luck, you sound like a very nice lady.
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reader, Puffalapeno +, writes (23 May 2012):
You don't mention any kids of your own, so my answer is based on there being no children between you and your husband. Do yourself a huge favor. Have enough self respect to move on. Don't be his safety net in case things don't work out with the younger woman. Is it a mid life crisis? Does it matter if it is? Should that give him the right to trample all over you and your feelings? If you make him your center of focus instead of yourself, you will be constantly disappointed. A man who could abandon a wife who "waited on him hand and foot" will do it again if given the chance. Just because he wants you to text him back doesn't mean that you're obligated to. Take a class, get out and meet new people, experience new things. Take the time to take care of yourself and let him do his own self centered thing. Best of luck to you.
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