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reader, Serpico  +, writes (18 June 2012):
What brayden said below.
If you have any questions about his statement, you have no business having sex.
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reader, braden  +, writes (18 June 2012):
The fact that you believe that proves you are not ready for sex.
YES, you can get pregnant even though he smokes. Plus you need to protect yourself so condoms or no sex.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (16 June 2012):
 Yes of course he should wear a condom. You are so naive - I suggest you go to a family planning centre or to your GP to get some facts and advise on birth control. Good luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 June 2012):
 wrong. daddy and mommy smoked when mommy got pregnant with both her kids...
My concern is this:
1. he knows he's lying to you about this so you would let him go bareback.
THIS means he is a LIAR. so you are with a boy who will LIE to you.
It also means he does NOT respect you. so you are with a boy who does not care if you get pregnant or and STD he just cares about how HE feels
on the OTHER hand IF he really believes this information then he's not educated or mature enough to be having sexual relations. I think teen sex is FINE if the kids are educated and mature enough to handle it. That means you need to be able to talk about it and look it up on the internet (goodness it's so easy now to find things out without having to go to the library)
so if you want to have sex:
condoms are mandatory for birth control and STD protection
sex with boys that don't care about you (no respect and lies) will NOT be good it's all about them
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reader, Datsun73 +, writes (16 June 2012):
That is a absolute lie he is telling you a LIE you can get pregnant USE a Condom
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (16 June 2012):
 He MUST know that it's not true. Motive? I can only guess, but either he wants to get you pregnant, or, more likely, he doesn't care because if he does he plans to run off and leave you holding the baby anyway.
As others have said, liar or idiot. My money is on his being an unprincipled liar, from whom you should get clear of quickly.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 June 2012):
 Heh, if that were true, then none of us fine aunts would be here to give advice, since smoking was WAY more prevalent in our parents' and grandparents' time. That "after sex" cigarette was fabled to be the best of all! The human race would have died out by now if that were true!
The moral of the story is...wear a condom!
Wear a condom on a bus.
Wear a condom on a train.
Wear a condom on a boat.
Wear a condom in the rain.
When he says "I want it bare",
Send him packing outta there.
When he says "It feels too good",
Tell him to put away his wood.
Give him a cig and send him out.
He can tell it to his hand...then pout.
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (16 June 2012):
 It would be difficult for a smoker to have children..provided he is impotent...so your boyfriend should go for an impotency test first...and if the test result is negative you would be at a risk of conceiving...so don't risk your future for a jerk's whims and fancies...always use condom unless you want to have a child...take care
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (16 June 2012):
Ha! No! And I surely hope you don't end up having children with him either because he doesn't sound too bright.
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reader, Abella +, writes (16 June 2012):
 This is scary that he would think this is worth trying on a girl who he claims to care about enough for you to be Gf and Bf
How many other lies is this boyfriend likely to spin in front of your face? If he can get this Soooooo Wrong then what else is he misinformed about?
If he has been spinning this lie to you and other girls then I hate to think what Sexually tramsmitted diseases (STD) he may be harbouring?
Ask him to visit the Doctor to get tested for a whole range of STDs.
From then on you STILL need condoms to protect you from any future STDs AND you need to be on the contraceptive pill to protect you from unwanted pregnancies before you are ready to bring a baby into the equation.
I surmise that he just wants to have unprotected sex.
If that is the case then he is to be avoided until he gets his act together. And shows you more respect.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (16 June 2012):
 tobacco is NOT a form of birth control
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reader, Discovery +, writes (16 June 2012):
Absolutely false. Smoking has nothing to do with it.
And smoking is really bad for both partners' health too...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 June 2012):
 Wha? No, honey!! My good friend Mike has 8 kids and smoke 2 packs of cigarettes a day...My husband is the father of 5, he smokes quite a bit too. Trust me.. smoking doesn't mean the doesn't have any little swimmers!!
Honey, if you don't know more about procreation I suggest you start education yourself before you start having sex and get knocked up.
He must either be really young, ignorant or stupid.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (15 June 2012):
 Not true at all! Men how have been smoking for 40 years can have children with ease, he needs aa condom, although do you really want to have sex with a guy that has lied to you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 June 2012):
 Absolutely not true at all. If it is more difficult the difference is a few percentage points, nothing that is actually going to prevent a fertile woman from getting pregnant. If you don't use condoms or contraception you are trying to get pregnant.
You need to use condoms at all times, no matter what.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012): it is not true. a smoker and a non smoker have equal chance to put a girl on family way. One of my ex's smoked like a chimny but still I had to wear condoms.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (15 June 2012):
 Seriously? Well...he's lying to you. You may want to consider getting yourself a new boyfriend if he is either (1) That uninformed or (2) That intent on deceiving you. He's not only putting you at risk of getting pregnant, but also at risk of getting any sexually transmitted diseases.
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reader, Battista +, writes (15 June 2012):
Apart from anything else if you don't use a condom you are not protected from STDs. Please use a condom. Where did you hear this idea?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012): No, if he wants to have sex with you he should wear a condom. It doesn't matter if he smokes or not. If he won't wear a condom then no sex. It's for your own safety, not only from pregnancy, be safe
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (15 June 2012):
 No, the ingredients in cigarettes are not spermicidal. There is a nicotine condom available though so he can pick whether to spend on cigarettes or condoms. They eliminate the need to smoke after sex. If he doesn't wear a condom then no sex for him.
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reader, ~WildThing~ +, writes (15 June 2012):
 You should use protection... Just because he smokes doesn't mean you won't get pregnant and condoms protect you against STIs as well x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012): It reduces fertility but only by a small amount. Condom absolutely necessary
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012): Whilst it does say on cigarette packs that smoking can lower a man's sperm count, that doesn't mean that he produces no sperm. It only takes one lucky one to make you pregnant. Is that something you want to risk?
Another reason to use condoms is that they protect against against sexually transmitted infections which it is possible to have without displaying symptoms.
Personally, I wouldn't take that chance
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reader, citadel +, writes (15 June 2012):
He's blowing smoke alright.
He's blowing smoke out his $ss.
Sperm can live in the uterus for 5 days, an egg will live for 12 to 24 hours.
Those sperm are on a mission, the egg just sits there like a lovely flower with no worries.
That is also how you handle your love life, you the flower, he the seaman, (sailor) banging on your door.
Remain still, beautiful, unabashed.
Let the right one in, be picky, as the egg needs a strong sperm and will reject billions and billions of them. Live on the outside how nature lives on the inside. And tell this guy to put a cover on it or Butt out of your life.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 June 2012):
 Your B/F doesn't have it quite right.....
It's true that it is more difficult for a girl to get pregnant by a guy who smokes...but that is ONLY if the guy substitutes smoking for s*x..... Otherwise, all bets are "off."
Good luck....
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