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*hellycg
writes:Well what a few weeks its been having written about my ex on here, and saying i wasnt going to see him again... well i went on a date with another guy which ended in disaster well actually me telling the guy to go forth... as he made a remark about my stomach... anyway ive started a new job made new friends, and what i thought foolishy made contact with my ex, its so hard not to as he was one of my best friends who i have known for 20 years, i went to his flat and we didnt say a word we both hugged each other and both of us were crying for half an hour or more, he knows he really messed up and i honestly have never ever seen him like this before, hes been very candid open and honest with me about his antics and the club he went too, as have i - i told him about the date i went on and he now realises im not going to be waiting around for him to make up his mind what hes doing, ive made it crystal clear that it was unforgiveable for what he did...absolutely ive told him i need time ... but i too have been more open with him - i do feel i can be myself when i am with him - as my mum and sister keep trying to fit me into the normal box ... which i am not and im struggling with it, they are not happy about my ex being back in my life quite rightly so, but they still feel the need to interfere i dont hear from them for weeks, then all of a sudden they are in my life dictating to me what i should be doing with my finances with my job and with my relationship - im 41 years of age ... and yes my ex dresses in womens clothes sometimes, im cool with it , but feel guilty for being cool with it because of my sister and mums reaction to it, hes messed up big time and we have had fallouts as you all know but it is a 2 way thing, and looking back i didnt mention where i had gone wrong too.. i know hes trying as hes sent his cross dressing friends the same email about me and him being together, they have all said that they are happy if he is happy, im not condoning his previous actions in anyway ... but thought i would just share with you my feelings and his reactions the last week, i do feel more comfortable with him , i feel more at peace with myself and less needy ... and he knows that im not clinging to him all of which i was doing before, hes been a rotten apple yes absolutely, but i do believe people mess up... ive known him too long,22 years and if i wasnt bothered i wouldnt be so upset - his behaviour has totally changed towards me totally, so im enjoying our friendship again... rightly or wrongly... and seeing where it will lead, we fancy each other like mad we always have done.- im just really feeling guilty as im comfortable with his cross dressing but my mum and sister call him names and make fun of him (which i dont like) and are constantly trying to tell me who to go out with - i know everyone hasnt got the same opinion as me, ive thought about writing a letter to them about it, maybe ive told them too much and allowed them to have an opinion about it ... so maybe i have myself to blame... who knows.......... xx
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 June 2012):
 IF you are comfortable with his cross-dressing and he's ok with you then who cares what mom and sis think... it's not their lives.
BTW, MOST men that cross-dress are very heterosexual and not gay at all...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 June 2012):
 Shelley: Things will get a LOT better if you will go and have your scissors sharpened.... and then use them to snip the apron strings by which you are tied to your Mother and Sister....
While you're at it.... get a pair of ear-plugs so that you don't have to listen to ANYTHING that they say about you and how you live your life....
Then, you'll be ready to LIVE again... maybe with this guy friend of your's....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): I wish you all the happiness and I hope that everything works out well for you. Don't feel guilty, I know easier said than done, but you can only do what is best for you. Best of luck with it all.
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