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writes:I love it when guys are really animalistic in bed, but my new boyfriend is really tame and romantic, which is lovely but doesn't get me fired up at all. Should i say/do something? Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (17 June 2012):
 I would be like "Honey, I really love it when you do that, but could we try......." and then fill in the blank with what you'd like him to do/say/try.
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (16 June 2012):
 You should talk to him about it...but everyone has his/her natural way of behaving in the bed...so do try to sugar coat your words because if you end up saying him,for example, his style keeps you unsatisfied and he should be animalistic it might end up affecting his performance...it is something you should help him achieve for your mutual satisfaction and ...all the best
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 June 2012):
 The fact that he's new works in your favor. You can tell him you want to try new things with him. Don't come across like you want things you've gotten from past boyfriends. Sex is an adventure every time you're with someone new.
He might not have a lot of experience. You could be his first or second, and the girl he was with preferred vanilla to rocky road.
Say something, but not "I want you to be more adventurous". Say "Let's try some new ways to have fun" and take the lead. He'll love you for it, and you'll love the added adventure!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 June 2012):
 Of course you should speak up. We guys CAN'T read your (womens') minds...... Despite belief to the contrary...
Good luck..... and have fun!!!!.....
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (16 June 2012):
 Yes, you need to up the ante in the bedroom.
It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't know you as well and it takes a while for men to realize what their women like and don't like.
Why not take matters into your own hands? Do whatever it takes to encourage him, make noises, talk dirty, praise him when he hits the high notes. Afterwards, mention to him how turned on you get when he is really into you.
Without being super upfront about it, you can give your boyfriend some hints to satisfy you. If he is still failing in the bedroom department, I would encourage you to be more open with your needs and desires.
Good luck.
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