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writes:My guy is a compulsive liar. Every time I catch him lying he promises he won't do it again but he's been doing it so long it's a way of life for him. I believe the phrase "three's the charm" because we all mess up and deserve a second chance but no more. He's just lied to me for the third time and it was a doosey. Dump him or go for four? Any of you ever had any success reforming a lifelong liar? He has a history of doing this kind of thing his whole life with women by the way and I know that at least his stats don't lie. Thanks Aunts!
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reader, BSFinder +, writes (20 June 2012):
BSFinder is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you guys! Very inspiring and to the point answers and life experiences shared. You rock! Sending him off onto his next lie, today! Going to need to find someone with absolutely no self worth to tolerate his habit/abuse for life. I already pity that poor woman cause he ain't never going to change that's for sure! He don't even think he has a problem!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 June 2012):
 My third (and now ex husband) was and is a compulsive liar.
I believe NOTHING that comes out of his mouth till I see proof from OTHER people.
I couldn't live with the lack of trust and the constant chronic disbelief and having to roll my eyes behind his back to our friends who also HUMORED his lies... we all did.. he HAD THE NEED to lie... it's not worth it...
let him go
what's the old saying
fool me once shame on you
foom me twice shame on me
I play three strikes and you're out...
I stayed as long as I could but eventually it wears you down too much...
you won't ever trust him or believe him... better to let him go.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 June 2012):
 There's a reason for that old Irish saying: "once bitten; twice, shy...."
Good luck... (with your new, non-lying boyfriend).....
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reader, marjieex3 +, writes (20 June 2012):
BREAK IT OFF. Liars will always be liars. Forgive him once, shame on him. Forgive him twice, shame on you! And in your case, its the third. You need to decide if you think you deserve a liar or someone who would never even think about lying to you. End it, move on, and be happy. You deserve someone who really cares.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (20 June 2012):
 If he has a habit of lying, you are not going to have much luck changing him. People develop habits and if they've never been forced to change, they won't. I agree with CTR that trust is major and if you constantly have to worry about whether he is telling the truth, it is going to cause you constant headaches. I personally do not think it would be worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): Short and simple
Trust is big, without it you just get stress, stress, and more stress and then get pain, pain, and more pain. Lying is just a part of his personality of who he is, you could get him to be more honest about small things but the big things he will always hide and try taking it to the grave with him.
He has done it over and over and is not changing with given chances, i think its time to go.
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