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writes:Would anyone else think this is strange, my boyfriend doesn't have that much of a sexual apetite for me but yet when I tried to get him to delete his porn he went mad. We did attempt to have sex and did sexual things everytime we met (me suggesting it mostly) Would this worry anyone? He only used it on the days he didn't see me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): If I watch porn it does the opposite to making me lose sex drive with a girlfriend, it makes me horny for her. Yep porn is a personal thing, so when he went mad its because he wouldn't have it to use when you are not around. Speak to him and ask him to open up to you about why his sexual appetite had decreased, it could be a number of things and not just the one thing people obviously tend to think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): Porn is a personal thing, it can take a while to develop a collection that you like. In a way it is like a collection of books, would you throw out your books because your other half demanded it? Probably not. Porn can have a place in a healthy relationship as long as it is not porn instead of sex. Try asking your boyfriend to stop watching it if it is interfering too much and see what he says, make sure he knows you are not asking him to permantly purge it from his life. He may never wish to delete it even if he ceases watching it.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (19 June 2012):
I would postulate that he doesnt have as much of a sex drive because of his porn. Look, I dont think moderate porn watching is a big deal, but the fact remains a person only has so much energy, sexual or otherwise. If he's using it on porn, then that leave a lot less in the tank for real sex.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (19 June 2012):
 I do not think it is strange because people can become addicted to porn and then they cannot function properly in real sexual relationships. So, on days he doesn't see you, he uses it and you are ok with that? Personally, I would want my boyfriend thinking about me and getting off with thoughts of me. This is why many people will say that porn is dangerous. It creates problems with individuals and with relationships. If it is interfering with your sexual relationship you need to discuss this with your boyfriend and tell him what you are prepared to do if things do not improve (leave, stop communicating with him, etc). If he does not want to help fix the situation, you may need to leave him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 June 2012):
 Would this worry anyone?
Yes... it would worry me.... but, then, I'm not YOU!!!!!
This guy sounds quite like he isn't going to offer you very much. WHY bother with him?????.....
Good luck...
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