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writes:Dear cupid I'm trying to figure out if my ex boyfriend wants me back because I'm getting mixed signals.After we broke up he said that he would never stop trying to win me back and he checks up on me all the time by calling or texting to see how I'm doing. But when he is around his friends and family he makes it seem like hes totally over me and has no feelings left for me. For example all his Facebook posts are about him moving on and looking for a new girl but yet he calls me and messages me constantly if i don't reply to him. Or he will post angry things about what i did wrong in the relationship on Facebook but when he talks to me he acts happy as if nothing is wrong. I've began to ignore him because I don't take him seriously and i don't know what his motive is at all.Has any women ever been in this situation? A males opinion would be greatly appreciated also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for responding all you guys are right and ive realized that he is not the only one having a hard time moving on i am too that is why we are still talking from time to time. But now i see that Im doing exactly what he wants by giving him attention instead of focusing on my self which is what i need to do.And matter of fact he doesn't deserve my attention so im going on no contact.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (13 June 2012):
I assume you were the one who broke up with him. It just seems like he has an extremely hard time moving on. He is crossed between moving on and wanting to be with you since as we all know, it is hard to move on. Of course, he will act distant in public because he does not want to seem like a tard by clinging to you.
It is only natural for him to lash out at you from time to time. I am sure he still listens to you and your problems and it causes him frustration since he wants to be with you. This biggest problem is see in all of this is that you are still talking to him. Stop talking to him so the both of you will become better people.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 June 2012):
 Here's my "male" opinion.....
This immature guy has found a way to keep you interested in him.... EVEN IF THAT "INTEREST" IS NEGATIVE. (Better negative interest than no interest, at all.....). That way, he can hope that, if you happen to have a weak moment, he can have s*x with you (again?)....
You are beginning to see, more clearly, that that is ALL he is up to... AND you don't seem to be party to his childishness... Good for you...
He's your "ex-" for a reason. You should remember that and let him remain an ex-......
Good luck....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 June 2012):
 He's your ex for a reason. it does not matter what he wants unless YOU want him back... which I don't think you do nor do I think it's a good idea.
I'm not male but his motive is to get attention because that's human nature... most folks love some drama in their lives.
best bet: unfriend him and block him on face book
block his number on your cell phone
spam his emails or block them.
MOVE on and go no contact.
why people do things is always the concern and the truth is WE DON'T NEED TO CARE WHY they do it... we need to figure out what WE need to take care of ourselves...
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (13 June 2012):
 It sounds like immaturity talking to me. Or, he feels like he needs to save face to show how tough and resilient he is. Tell him that if he wants a serious relationship with you that he will have to be consistent in his feelings and what he tells everyone. Otherwise, there is not much hope of you ever being a couple again. That is, if you want to be a couple. If you don't, I would ignore any texts or calls from him.
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