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anonymous
writes:So, what is going on? I am married, have a faithful wife, and I am still longing for more? What for? Not necessarily sex. I know that. Attention? Partly. I had a crush on a French girl for a long time; had to fix it, went to see her, confessed, hoped my feelings would be at peace. Problem with her solved, she wasn’t so great after the (10) years. Crush was over. NOW, two years ago, I bumped into an innocent, (but married) girl at work. She became a pretty instant crush for me. We talk, she is suspicious of my intentions but nice. I don’t want sex [again], but I am still longing. I cannot figure out my own intentions! Going out for a drink?, for, yet, another confession?, WTF!…? Is this a part of an unsettled human experience?... always wanting more??? Addictive personality, what am I addicted to? Can I have some peace in this world? [humbly asking] Any answers?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2012): Amazing how everything becomes clear once someone else spells it out. Thank you, aunts!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 August 2012):
 There's nothing out-of-the-ordinary in your submittal....
We guys are a rambunctious lot.... and love to look at our neighbors' lawns to see how much greener theirs are, compared to our's....
And we're willing to compromise - or give up - anything and everything that is good in our lives (i.e. Marriage to a lovely wife.... strong, healthy, good-looking children... a successful career...) all so that we can make complete jackasses of ourselves....
According to your submittal.... you are one of US!!! Congratulations!!!
... and, Good luck...
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (9 August 2012):
 Men value the chase. Once they catch a suitable wife the often don't know what to do next. The chase is over. Now a wise man will continue to keep just enough tension in the relationship that he continues to chase his wife. But it's a difficult game because once she gets to know you, there's little mystery left. You may have an addictive personality, you may be a hopeless flirt. But I really think you miss the chase. And so you find interesting women and you start a little game of cat and mouse. It's a dangerous one though, because it almost always leads to more. And once you cross that line you've entered into a whole world of WTF. Trying wooing your wife again. She might just surprise you.
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