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writes:i am a friendly outgoing person and i love meeting new people even if it means talking to the person near me while waiting in pizza hut! my bf says its slutty and that i give off the wrong impression. but i chat with old young man women fat thin its just being social i tell him but he doesn't like it.. he says im too friendly is something wrong with me or is it him, is he anti social? can o live with some like this? he say none of his mates gf do what i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 August 2012):
 So he hasn't really forgiven you for cheating and he hasn't really moved ON from the cheating.
However, is it fair that he keeps "punishing" you for a past mistake? If he really can't get past the cheating (and some can't) then he should have left/leave you. Not make you "pay" for your mistake forever.
You two need to have a serious talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell it been a 5 year relationship and abut a qatar in i cheated on him with my ex .. only because i was alone and he had to go away for almost a year.. he says it was had for him to forgive me and wanted to leave but understand im sorry and know i wont do it again i love him he loves me and is very very jealous... but in a cute way, the only problem is i believe his lack of self esteem altho he is beautiful in and out trust me, get the better of him .. but i make excuse for his actions cos other than hating on me cos he thinks i might make others boys look down at him, or think i available.. he is really sweet loving and protective when he was working he spent all his money on us and time spent together. i think hes afraid of losing me or ppl think bad of me .. do you think im right?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 August 2012):
 His REAL message is that he wants to micro-control what you do. THAT is the sign of a misuser/abuser....and you will probably get several responses herein that will tell you to not get close to this guy... and, in fact, you'd be wise to stay away from him.... (I'm in that group).
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 August 2012):
No, he is NOT right. Talking to people doesn't make you a slut. IF people you are talking to "get the wrong idea" well, then it's on them, isn't it? It's not like you walk up to random strangers and talk sex is it?
And you are NOT his mates GF's. What they do is what they do. Personally, I see nothing wrong in being friendly to people. Some people are some are not, but him trying to make you feel BAD about it, is just plain WRONG.
I agree with Youwish - he is insecure and is hoping my putting you down and making you feel like crap, that he gets the upper hand and that you stop talking to people. How ridiculous is that?
I'm not a people person, but I do use manners and I am polite to people in general if they talk to me. I rarely initiate conversations with stranger. However, my husband is a chatty Cathy. He will talk to anyone about anything. Doesn't bother me at all. IT IS who he is. Do people at times mistake it for flirting, yes. Do I care? No.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 August 2012):
 If he's calling you slutty just for talking to people, then call him "alone" and drop him like a bad habit. He's trying to control you because he is INSECURE about you giving any sort of attention to anyone else. His mind is thinking you're flirting and is trying to smother you and change your behavior by breaking you down emotionally.
His mates' GF's are utterly irrelevant. Unless you're grinding all over people, you can talk to whoever you want. You need to let this guy go or he will keep this up until you are nothing but a terrified lonely person who's been cut off from your friends.
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