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writes:okay i aaam going crazy i got a 3 years old boy he is sooo stubborn never listens and if i say go wash your hands if you dont u il get sick he says okay i want to get sick, brush ur teeth if u dont your teeth well fall out he says i want my teeth to fall out, i am very exhausted nothings working with him, i get reward chart to try to change his behavouir he tells me i dont want stickers and he tries ripping it , he gets attatched to his socks clothe , it takes me minutes and sometimes longer to get him to change his clothes or wash him as u can see everything isa battle for me, if i win is by force and he ends up screaming. what he did recently realy embarassed me we went to dinner at friends house with him he screamed at me infront of everyone and threw a plastic plate at me and hit me... i really feel hurt that i cant change him, everyone says to me when i am not around he is an angel listens, he doesnt behave like this towards his dad only towards me and my friends not his dads relatives or friends or even his dads mother only towards my own family,,, i tried in every way being nice and calmn, i give him time out,, just helpless what should i do!!! how can i treat a stubborn child, everything is exhausting with him never listening to me :( Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 There's a man named John Rosemont who writes books about child-rearing. Get one of more of his books and read them and follow his advice and instructions. There's no reason that a 3-year-old should be controlling YOU (his parent) such as this little cretin has learned!!!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 August 2012):
 If he won't wash his hand, walk him out in the bathroom and wash hands with him, don't let him "talk his way out of it". If he doesn't want to brush his teeth (and by the way a 3 year old can NOT brush his own teeth, you need to do that or his dad) Make brushing teeth fun. My girls and I always had an egg timer (set to 3 minutes) when brushing and flossing.
Don't get into "fights" with a 3 year old. Be firm and don't back down. IF he throws a fit in the store, leave the buggy and take him home and if possible leave him home the next few times.
PATIENCE, REPETITION and CONSEQUENCES is what he needs. He needs rules. Reward him when he does something good. A reward can be going to the park or a sticker. Ignore and Time-outs when he does something bad. However explain in very few words (he doesn't need a long explanation) what he did wrong and why he is getting a time out. When you scold him don't yell, get down on his eye-level, look him straight in the eyes and tell him. And don't let him pitching fits get him out of time out. If he does, the 3 minute time out might end up a 30 minute, that is HIS choice.
As for his clothes, pick out two outfits and tell him to pick which one he wants on. When the kids get to be "involved" they tend to forget what they originally wanted.
Bath time.. Again it should be fun. If it works better with his Dad then you, then well, DAD need to step up.
He OBVIOUSLY want your attention.
Have a VERY set routine with him. Up same time every day, meals, playtime, nap time, reading and bed time. Keep it simple.
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