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writes:I tried to hook up with this guy i've been seeing but he couldn't get it up. We'd been out partying, so it was pretty late and he was drunk. The foreplay went on for ages.I just want to know if there is anything I could do (if it happens again)?I thought about going down on him but because we'd been trying for a while i was afraid that if i gave him a blow job he still wouldn't get hard. And i wasn't sure w/ther a hand job would have helped. He was super embarrassed and kept apologizing. I told him it was fine and not to worry about it. i know it's totally normal for it to happen so it didn't bother me but if there's anything i can do to help him out i'd like to know
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Nope. There was nothing you could do. Alcohol pretty seriously supresses a guy's ability to perform - sexually - so you have to chalk this up to an unfortunate incident that DIDN'T happen.....
Talk to him... and decide that you will try this, again, some time when you and he haven't indulged in alcohol...
Good luck...
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 From a guys point of view, if he was really drunk then that would explain the problem, that added to the embarrassment of not bein able to perform meant there was no chance for him, a blow job probably would have helped but if he was really drunk then even that would have failed, try again when he's not in such a state, I'm sure it will all go fine
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (11 August 2012):
Don’t bother trying again whilst he’s drunk, that was probably the reason why he wasn’t able to rise to the occasion. If he’s sober and it happens again, just reassure him that it’s okay and carry on with foreplay. Are you looking for a relationship with this man? If it was just a hookup for one night, perhaps you should just put it behind you and move on. But if a relationship, tell him it might take time for him to relax and not be anxious and that there’s no rush. It’s often anxiety and pressure that causes failure to get or maintain an erection.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Too much booze of most any kind can definitely affect the ability to have sex. It did not happen to me when younger, but aging can make it more of a problem.
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