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*0charlene25
writes:hi i want some advise bout something just want to know is it me over reacting or would you not be happy what it is myself and my partner took the kids swimming and i hate my body i am size 14-16 and i feel massive and feel like i look disgusting in a swimsuit so i went in the pool anyway i was staying under the water so no one could see my body standing with my partner and the kids then i turn around to see my partner eyeing up some girl in a bikini now i feel really bad as if it was"nt bad enough so i moved away from him and decided i was going home now im not talking to him . Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 August 2012):
 The problem is how YOU feel about yourself....
all people LOOK at other people.. it's human nature.
does he comment about them to you?
to others?
does he STARE
is he RUDE about it?
or is this just a cursory glance that you noticed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2012): Time to channel your negative feelings towards fixing your own issues. Time to get into shape, change your diet and seek self-esteem counseling. He's a man, men look when they see something sexy walking by, that's how their brains are wired. So rather than blaming him, perhaps its time to focus on improving yourself. It takes work to maintain a mans attention in a relationship.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (14 August 2012):
 I don't think you are overreacting. I would've been pissed too. It has nothing to do with the size you are, I'm a small girl and I'd be pissed if my husband looked anyone up and down. It's rude and it's pretty piggish. I don't ogle other men so I wouldn't expect him to ogle women. Just my 2 cents.
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reader, ktmae +, writes (14 August 2012):
 i to am a size 14-16 .... I have been steadily doin things to better myself now that i have built my self esteem back up i know im beautiful . . . The fact is . . . Guys look ! Just like we look and he probably didnt mean any harm . Im sure he didnt mean to hurt you ! Take it from me dont lose someone close to you because of insecurities. I bet he thinks you are beautifull to . . . Its just human nature to take a peek ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): If you saw a hot dude wouldn't you have a quick glance? Its human nature! At the end of the day you are the one he is with. If eyes are elsewhere distract him yourself ;)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 August 2012):
 I would ask only ONE question... of YOU: "Were you this same size (14-16) when you started dating this man?"
If the answer is "Yes," then this man is a dog.
If the answer is "No. I was much smaller/lighter then..." then YOU need to decide how to handle a man who has become disenchanted with you because YOU have changed...
Which is it?
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