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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:we are married for three years total we were together was 7 years. recently he cheated on me and now she choose the mistress than us. but he wants to talk to me and see us and spend time with us more often. but i said no and he beg.my question is why she pick the mistress than us but he want to see us? what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2012): He's pathetic, he needs to drag two women through his drama just to keep going. you said it yourself - he chose her over you. As long as you stay with him you'll always be second best. do you want to live the rest of your life in this 'second best' position? why not move on and find a new man in the future who will put you first?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (18 August 2012):
 It's because we men never really want to "give up" ANY of those women who provide s*xual gratification to us....
You'll do yourself well to tell him that choosing to hang around with his mistress NECESSARILY "MEANS" that he doesn't get to spend ANY time with you..... PERIOD!!!!
Good luck...
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reader, Tez7  +, writes (18 August 2012):
its because he wants to have his cake and eat it.
stick to your guns, and dont go back to this guy, to give up 7 years for a moments weakness is pathetic and you can do better.
if you really want to try again then go for it, but it rarely works out after something like this.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): Basically, he's doing what typical cheaters and womaniser's do - wanting his cake and eat it too.
Either that, or the grass wasn't in fact greener on the other side as he first thought.
Either way you were right to refuse!
He made his bed with the mistress, and now he needs to lie in it.
If I were you, I would stick to my guns and don't give into him, then go ahead with divorce proceedings and make him realise you won't be used as a mug as and when it suits him.
Then continue to get on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): because he's selfish, he does not want to give up anything. having 2 women is better than just 1. obviously his mistress is willing to share him with you. if you're willign to share him with her why wouldn't he want that?
this is very disrespectful to you. if you have any respect for yourself, you will say no to him and move on even if he begs.
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