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writes:hi readers. so my boyfriend of three years and i have split up again. we went through this circle of breaking up and getting back. he was a bit too possessive over my internet life and would not stop spying on me blah blah blah. now he has met someone else and refuses to listen to what i want to say. would i be right in suspecting he may have been with this girl all along and is just using my internet life as an excuse because he wants to be with her now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2012): What is meant by internet life I do not know? Is it another way of saying flirting online but you fear a negative response by being straight up about it? I am under the impression you may be in the wrong but don`t want to acknowledge it.
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (15 August 2012):
It does sound a bit like this mentioned "internet life he was spying on" was a bigger issue than you want to mention. Nothing says that he had another girl waiting in the wings. It may have been that he was tired of the same things happening and met someone else along the way. If things would have been better, then he would not have wanted to meet someone else. Just a thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2012): Well I think you have both come out of this in a better position than you were previously in. You no longer have someone spying on your 'internet life'. He can now relax now about your 'internet life' and enjoy being with someone who doesnt have an 'internet life,' well, as far as he knows she doesnt. You are both in a better situation now. I think another important thing that should not be missed out is that an 'internet life' and real life relationship are things you cannot have both of, you have to choose which you want the most.
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reader, delightful84 +, writes (14 August 2012):
I dont understand why he was possessive about your internet life? Was he possessive about your real life too? An apology in advance if I am wrong, but I get the funny idea that you have been dumped for going on dating sites. Well, whatever it is, it sounds like its all in the past now.
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reader, delightful84 +, writes (14 August 2012):
I dont understand why he was possessive about your internet life? Was he possessive about your real life too? An apology in advance if I am wrong, but I get the funny idea that you have been dumped for going on dating sites. Well, whatever it is, it sounds like its all in the past now.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (14 August 2012):
 It REALLY doesn't make much/any difference if he had this girl "waiting in the wings".....
HE has tipped his hand and dumped you... SOooooo, it's best (for you) to just consider that things are over with this guy.... and get on with your life....
You can analyze what happened, until the cows come home, but it isn't going to change the situation...
Good luck....
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reader, Starlights +, writes (14 August 2012):
 Its hard to say if he had this other girl, but its irrelevant now because you two have broken up, he's moved on.
Thats a BIG SIGN for you, that you should too.
If he used to spy on you , trust me you dont want a boyfriend like that: count your lucky stars!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): Its possible he's a cereal cheat and his own insecurities got the better of him, and spying on you was his way of trying to find out if you were playing him at his own game...to which he wouldn't like.
Basically.
Whether the other woman is a rebound or a long term planned thing, I very much doubt he will treat her any different than he treated you, so I would just sit back and wait for the fireworks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): What do you mean by internet life? If blah blah blah is a simple way of saying you frequented dating sites, then let it go.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 August 2012):
 Does it really matter? You two were obviously not that compatible, but seemed to stay together because it was convenient/habit perhaps? (better the devil you know?)
If he has already met someone new, let it go, let him go. Obsession about him will not help you move on and find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
I would honestly, just cut the contact with him.
She could for all intend and purpose be a quick rebound. I have seen people in new relationships DAYS after a break up. Some people uses another person to "help" them get over someone else, they seem to think the sooner they "date" the faster the pain will disappear. Everyone moves in different speeds.
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