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I'm attracted to a married man, what should I do?

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Question - (17 August 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 19 August 2012)
A female United States age , *ick and tired writes:

I have never dated a married man,. There is one man , he is 38 I am a youthful 50 year old female. I work out a lot and take good care of myself, I get a lot of attention from men. I really do not seek it out though. Anyways, I am in this man's social circle a lot. I thought he had the perfct family and was always respectful of his marriage, plus I never looked twice at him. Over time I have gotten to know him and he has an amazing personality. It made me attracted to him.lately, he has been posting on Facebook page that his marriage is doomed for failure, there is not love on his marriage . He wrote the other day, do I stay in my marriage for convenience or find a women that brings love to his heart,. He has two amazing daughters. I find myself thinking of him all the time. What do I do?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2012):

Read about affairs, get the book "Not Just Friends" or "After the Affair" and find out what they are really made of.

You think his girls are beautiful and want to help him REALLY HURT THEM REAL BAD then have an affair with him.

They will never forget it as long as they live...I've heard that from many a person and my wife never forgot her mother's and father's affairs and how it made her and her sister feel like they weren't special.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (17 August 2012):

Honeypie agony auntHonestly, if you like drama go for him.

If you have more respect for yourself, him and his "lovely" family you keep your mitts off.

Just because YOU are single doesn't mean it's OK morally or socially to start "hunting" for a married guy, no matter how rotten his marriage is. HE is choosing to STAY married for a reason, this isn't the Middle-ages where divorce was impossible.

If his marriage is doomed... He should get off his ass and either try and fix it or end it. Having an affair (potentially) is no way to FIX or END a marriage.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (17 August 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI suggest that you continue ONLY the activities in/of your social circle..... AND you ONLY watch this man from afar...

What he is positing ("my marriage is a shambles...." "My wife doesn't love me/we never have sex" etc....) is the routine B/S that guys say.... which may or may not be true... HOWEVER, we guys "say" those things to give the impression that we are - or will soon be - single and available.... YET, we keep the tether, there, in-place with our spouses... so that, if we can find a vulnerable woman (like you!) who will provide us with s*x, we can test the waters... and, maybe, have a "rewarding" fling... WITHOUT the risk!!!!

Good luck....

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A female reader, sick and tired United States +, writes (17 August 2012):

sick and tired is verified as being by the original poster of the question

This is the OP. I am 12 years older than him, hardly old enough to be his mother but thanks for the dig.

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (17 August 2012):

C. Grant agony auntWhat do you do? Wait until he puts words into action. He's posting on Facebook that his marriage is doomed?! Then his wife is seeing that, too. They need to work it out, one way or another. Until they divorce, he is off limits. In the meantime, don't get in the middle of it. If you must admire him, do it from afar.

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