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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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Why am I never happy... and so clingy?!
Q. Why am I not happy in my relationship sometimes? I love him so much, this I know; but when he goes out with his friends, or goes on trips without me, I get mad at him. I don't know why I'm like this. I get so bothered if he even mentions the idea of ...
A. 7 August 2009: I think you're handling him "breaking up" with you very well. I think you should leave it as it is. Don't call him/text/email, whatever while he's on vacation. When he gets back and notices that he hasn't heard a peep from you he'll call you. ... (read in full...)
Whenever I express my expectation to her she gets mad!
Q. Girls, what all do you do in a relationship to make things happy and strong between you and your partner. I mean EVERYTHING..from getting up in the morning to the time you go to bed. I am in a relationship for past 14 months and I love her a lot and ...
A. 7 August 2009: If she's getting mad at you literally over nothing, then she sounds like she has some psychological issues. Could be that she is still scarred from her previous marriage and nitpicks and points out anything and everything as if it's a sign that ... (read in full...)
Why am I never happy... and so clingy?!
Q. Why am I not happy in my relationship sometimes? I love him so much, this I know; but when he goes out with his friends, or goes on trips without me, I get mad at him. I don't know why I'm like this. I get so bothered if he even mentions the idea of ...
A. 7 August 2009: Where are your friends? Do you ever go out with them? If he does it A LOT and you're not invited, I could imagine feeling left out. But it's good to have friendships outside of your relationship. Your life and happiness shouldn't be based on ... (read in full...)
Should I email him to check in after he broke up with me?
Q. Should I send him an email. He ended it with me about two weeks ago. I just want to know how he is? Where he is? Was the ending as difficult for him as it was for me? I don't know the REAL reason he ended it, the underlying reason. We loved each ...
A. 7 August 2009: No, you shouldn't. Why? Because he probably won't give you the REAL reason. And do you really want to hear the real reason? People don't usually break up with someone because of themselves. It never really is, "It's not you, it's me." So if he ... (read in full...)
How is this even possible?
Q. I just read an article about a young woman who came forward several years after some guy had supposedly forced her to give him a blowjob at a party. She claims that when this alleged assault was over with that most of the semen ended up in her ...
A. 6 August 2009: Try going to snopes.com and enter the title of the story. It lets you know if it's an urban legend/fabricated story. I highly doubt this is true.... (read in full...)
I'm bipolar, I don't want to scare her away. Should I tell her?
Q. I have recently been seeing someone and we get along very well. shes lovely I like her a lot and vice versa. however I have something on my mind which is bothering me. I'm bipolar and I don't know if I should tell her this. It shouldn't be wrong to ...
A. 6 August 2009: Sincerely,
I think it just depends on the person. Because when my boyfriend told me, I way like, "Eh, whatever. You act fine and you seem to know what you're doing and you treat me well, so no big deal." Until out of control mood swings s... (read in full...)
Help me get over my baby daddy
Q. I am 24 years old with 2 little girls, a 3 yr old and a 7 month old. I was with my boyfriend for 15 months, I got pregnant right away. During a routine ultrasound, it was discovered that our baby will be born with spina bifida. That's when the spine ...
A. 6 August 2009: He's immature and a loser. He's so tough that he's in a biker gang, but he lives at home with mommy and daddy and isn't man enough to help take care of his child? I'm sorry, but that's laughable. Honey, he's a straight up loser. Yes, he's using ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want me to witness the OW's child birth..
Q. I have a pregnant woman on the side and am married. The problem is that my wife doesn't want me to be there during the womans labor. If my wife has forgave me, shouldn't I at least be able to be there during the birth of this child?...
A. 6 August 2009: Ooohh...hmmm that's a tough one. Being that you're married to your wife and not the other woman, I could see how your wife would not want you to be there. Even though she "forgave" you, it doesn't mean that she's not a little bit threatened by the ... (read in full...)
I'm bipolar, I don't want to scare her away. Should I tell her?
Q. I have recently been seeing someone and we get along very well. shes lovely I like her a lot and vice versa. however I have something on my mind which is bothering me. I'm bipolar and I don't know if I should tell her this. It shouldn't be wrong to ...
A. 6 August 2009: Yes, you should tell her soon. My ex is bipolar and he told me early on in the relationship and I'm glad he did. It could scare her away, it might not, but that's the chance you have to take. I wouldn't wait until it's a "stronger" relationship, ... (read in full...)
Are these symptoms of a possible pregnancy, or am I being paranoid?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and i'm starting to get a little worried about possibly being pregnant.. I lost my virginity to my bf on the 28th of june.. we had sex three times that day: once protected, once not, and then protected again. He never "finished" inside m...
A. 6 August 2009: The only symptoms you gave was a little bit of blood...have you not started your period? Are you sick or overly exhausted? I've never heard of implantation bleeding, just cramps. If there's any type of implantation cramps, they're not going to be ... (read in full...)
Whenever I express my expectation to her she gets mad!
Q. Girls, what all do you do in a relationship to make things happy and strong between you and your partner. I mean EVERYTHING..from getting up in the morning to the time you go to bed. I am in a relationship for past 14 months and I love her a lot and ...
A. 6 August 2009: This is why everyone that gave you a response would assume that you compare her to your sister-in-law from your post that I'm about to copy and paste: "...for example i tell her how caring my sis-in-law is for my brother ..how she takes care of him ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him, or continue with my plans?
Q. Help! Me and my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up a few months ago, and ever since then we've been on-off. I still love him with all of my heart, and he says he does too, but the way he treats me says something completely different. If we get ...
A. 6 August 2009: Go! Run fast! He's so freaking immature, he was pissing me off while reading your question and I don't even know the guy. Yes, he will do it again. Now you go do what YOU want to do (away from him), make something of yourself, and find someone ... (read in full...)
How do I get her back, when I have blown so many chances?
Q. How can I get my ex back after she has giving me so many chances to change? ...
A. 6 August 2009: Make sure you've actually changed before you even try to pursue her. Guaranteed, one foul up that shows that you're still anything like you were in the past and she'll dump you on the spot.... (read in full...)
She's clingy and melodramatic and I always end up feeling guilty!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have a great relationship but she is terribly clingy. We have had petty arguments lately and she is very emotional and atop that has been through some very rough times as of late. We live together and spend a whole lot of time ...
A. 6 August 2009: To be honest, there's nothing that you can really do to help. In this situation, the only person that can help her is herself. She's obviously having MAJOR insecurity issues and basically her world revolves around you. She sounds really immature ... (read in full...)
Whenever I express my expectation to her she gets mad!
Q. Girls, what all do you do in a relationship to make things happy and strong between you and your partner. I mean EVERYTHING..from getting up in the morning to the time you go to bed. I am in a relationship for past 14 months and I love her a lot and ...
A. 6 August 2009: Like the others said, you're comparing her to your sister-in-law, and that's not cool. So yes, when your brother calls she's probably annoyed and figures that you two are going to talk about how great his wife is and how obedient she is. ... (read in full...)
He asked me out to dinner but keeps making excuses?
Q. I meet an exboyfriend for cofee at his request on sunday. He was apoligizing for past mistakes and wanted to date again. I was ok with trying again, we had a great couple hours and before we parted he said maybe we can go to dinner on monday or ...
A. 5 August 2009: Umm yeah, sounds like my exboyfriend. He's being a flake and totally avoiding the whole dinner thing. I highly doubt he forgot, he's making excuses. Forget giving him another shot, he's proving that he's going to make future mistakes as he's ... (read in full...)
I feel so bad for my daughter, Any advice on how to help her?
Q. My daughter is 22 and has not had a boyfriend since she was 17. A boy she went out with for a couple of years broke up with her. She is a pretty girl and a little bit overweight (size 14) not huge. She is starting to feel like something is wrong ...
A. 5 August 2009: That's so sweet that you care about your daughter's feelings like that. Really, though, as her father what can you really tell her without offending her or making her feel even more insecure about being single when you even notice? I think all you ... (read in full...)
I have the symptoms of being pregnant but it all sounds too soon!
Q. Hello and thanks in advance to all who reply to my question! Well i'm 21 and have been ttc for nearly 1 year now and this month i calculated my ovulation to be the 25th-30th July, which me and my partner had regular sex on those days (sorry if t...
A. 3 August 2009: Yeah, it's way too soon to have symptoms. Could be PMS, just wait and see if you get your period. ... (read in full...)
What does the term 'romantically fond (of)' mean?
Q. Dear All, I only joined this forum a few days ago so please excuse me if the question I am about to send in has been asked before. Basically, I have heard about romantic love and I have also heard people talking about being 'romantically fond' of...
A. 3 August 2009: My impressions of "romantically fond" is that you like a person more than just as a one-time deal. You like them enough to be more than friends and would consider having a relationship with them. I don't know about the begninning of love, everyone ... (read in full...)
How do I go about asking her parents if I can take her out?
Q. There's this girl who I really like and she really likes me, I'm 17 and she's 14. I don't think there's anything wrong with that, but I'm afraid what her parents might say if I took her out. What do I do about her parents??...
A. 3 August 2009: There's nothing you can really do about her parents. 14 is really young and her parents may not even allow her to date yet. If they say she can't go out with you, then you need to respect their wishes. If they're ok with her going out with you, ... (read in full...)
I said I didnt know if I loved him, now things have changed
Q. This boy says he is in Love with me. I told him that i didn't know if i was in love with him. Now he is saying its hard to talk to me did i brake his heart ? Please help me!...
A. 3 August 2009: When you tell someone you love them, you're totally putting your feelings on the line and making yourself vulnerable. So yes, you probably did. But it's ok to not be sure and not say it back. You don't want to tell someone you love them when you ... (read in full...)
Cooking up trouble, we hooked up, I wouldn't go far enough, now he wants nothing to do with me...
Q. Hi, i've been looking for answers to my predicament online, and i found this website--people seem to give actual answers--so i thouhgt i'd give it a shot. i met an older guy (he's 24, I'm 19) at a place i worked for a few months. --long story sho...
A. 3 August 2009: The problem is, you teased him. You were giving him ALL the signals that you were ready to get it on, and you bailed. So it probably pissed him off, so he just considers you a tease and isn't going to get anywhere with you. Really, you should ... (read in full...)
Is her new guy a bandaid or is she playing mindgames with me?
Q. So, my girlfriend and I of two years broke up. the last year we were living together. We got into a fight and she left the house didn't come home that night. first time she ever did that in a fight. everything was going good the weeks before. I ...
A. 3 August 2009: Good for you!... (read in full...)
How do I prove I love him more?
Q. hey i just have a quick question. my boyfriend and i have been together for about 10 months. and sometimes when were together i tell him i love him, and he says he loves me more. the thing is i dont see how thats possible so i argue and say no you d...
A. 3 August 2009: I'm with marieclaire on that one...does it really matter? When he says "prove it" I'm sure he's just having fun with you. If you go out of your way to "prove" your love, it's just going to give him a big head and make him think you'll do anything ... (read in full...)
Roles reversed since our breakup: she's having the time of her life and I'm so unhappy!
Q. Alright so about a month ago I ended a relationship that I was very unhappy in. The girl didnt appreciate me, she lied a lot, and kinda just used me. While we were together lots of my friends said I should break up with her. Even some of her friends ...
A. 3 August 2009: Don't let it bother you. Do you know how much satisfaction it would give her to know that you're feeling miserable while she's having the time of her life? Breakups are difficult on both ends, I'm sure she's hurt and she's coping by putting ... (read in full...)
She feels strongly about me but loves her boyfriend.. it's tearing me apart!
Q. i am in love with a woman that has a boyfriend of over a year now, we have been seeing each other for several months now and been intimate. she says she loves her boyfriend but he doesn't love her. she insists on remaining with him. she says she ...
A. 3 August 2009: You need to let her go and stay with her boyfriend that supposidly doesn't love her. You know this makes no sense, right? Her relationship is that horrible, that she cheats on her boyfriend, he doesn't love her, but she wants to stay with ... (read in full...)
Keep smoking? Or quit?
Q. Hey....... I am 23, I have started taking oral contraceptive pills. Got scared and stopped smoking after reading the booklet. I havent smoked from the day 1 of the pill beginning. Please advise if I can stil continue smoking or should quit.... ...
A. 1 August 2009: Well...they don't put that on the booklet for nothing. First off, it's not good to smoke either way, and it's usually a bad idea for women over 35 to smoke and take an oral contraceptive (I feel like the chick in the Yaz commercial). It just can ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my instincts, or give this guy more time to grow on me?
Q. Should I trust my instincts or is that unfair? I used to always trust my instincts when it came to relationships, what would work and what wouldn't, and it always turned out well. Until my last boyfriend, when I ignored my doubts and went for it ...
A. 1 August 2009: Well, I think most people know off the bat (regardless of looks) if they're interested in someone romantically or not. And sometimes you just get a "friend" vibe from them. That's not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes it's best to be friends ... (read in full...)
I don't want to end things with my boyfriend, but what can I do about his immaturity?
Q. Okay, so I was pretty desperate one night and decided to browse the internet for some help and came across this website! My problem is my immature boyfriend. We have been going out for a little more than a year now, and I really really like him...
A. 1 August 2009: You really have to look at it this way: does the good outweigh the bad? It seems to me that the bad outweighs the good and that is not a good relationship. Sure everyone has their arguments, but he shouldn't be calling you names like a bitch or ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for me to text her how I feel?
Q. There is this girl that I talk to every day and I love her but I don’t know how to tell her and when I finally decide to tell her I get scared of what she might say to me so I don’t tell her. Is it ok to like text her how I feel? I get scared ...
A. 31 July 2009: It's ok to tell her how to feel, but don't lay it all out. You could scare her away by flat out telling her that you're in love with her. I think you should let her know that you "like" her and would like to see where things go, but wait on the ... (read in full...)
I don't want to ruin anyone's life, so where do I go from here?
Q. I am working away from home at the summer job and ended up falling head over heels for this guy i'm working with, he is also in the same boat as me, except he is newly engaged. It is so confusing because we both fell in love with each other, ...
A. 31 July 2009: Deal with it if and when he leaves his fiance. I think that if he "loves you sooo much" that he will do what he feels is right. It's basically up to him. I wouldn't be anymore involved with him until the relationship is over. He invested in that ... (read in full...)
Do I have a good reason to be angry?
Q. I hace been talking to a guy for 2 weeks now and he has a gf. I didnt know that for a while but then when i found out i was furious. I know we arent together but he says hes comfortable in this relaionship and doesnt like the girl shes been pushing ...
A. 31 July 2009: I think you have a right to be angry. You were lead on by this guy...and it turns out he's shady. Be done with him, don't invest anymore time in him. Thank goodness it's only been 2-weeks, it will be easy. Tell him bye-bye and move on. If he's ... (read in full...)
Is she lying? She didn't bleed when we first did it!
Q. Hello, my question is my gf said that she was a virigin before me, but wouldn't that mean that when we first had sex that she would bleed? Or is she lying about me being the only one? I do trust her but Im not sure because she didnt bleed when...
A. 31 July 2009: Girls can break their hymen in all sorts of different ways without having sex...with someone else anyway. Bikes, masturbating, being on a trapeze, falling weird...and not everyone bleeds their first time. She's probably not lying. And it probably ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I feel? Sooner or later, I'm going to explode!
Q. Ok here is my problem, I met this guy, he was no ordinary guy. He was sweet and handsome. I really loved him. We were only friends, yes, I know but I never told him about this because I was soo sure that some day he would realize that I love him and ...
A. 31 July 2009: No, wait until he's single again. But of course, don't tell him you're in love with him, just let him know that you're interested. He could think of you as just a friend and thinks that you feel the same way, so he's with someone else. You don't ... (read in full...)
Is honesty really the best policy??
Q. Okay my situation..is I've been talking to this guy lets call him john well we met and everything it went well at first I was nervous but then i got comfortable.It felt like there was chemistry between us..okay so a couple days later we wanted to ...
A. 31 July 2009: No, I don't think that you should. First of all, don't apologize incessantly for something that you shouldn't have been sorry for. He should have respected that you were uncomfortable and left with you. You did what was right, you were ... (read in full...)
We're fighting and his birthday is this week...How do I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a fight right now, but his birthday is in two days. Should I still celebrate with him? Get him a gift? Or wait until we sort things out to celebrate?...
A. 28 July 2009: Depends. Are you two talking at all? If not, I suggest sorting things out before celebrating. If you two are talking then ask him what he thinks about it and then go from there.... (read in full...)
Why no reply to my birthday text?
Q. an ex spends loads of time playing little games to get my attention, she cheated on me i walked away. It was hard but i never gave her any trouble. she suddenly thinks im seeing someone else (but im not)we eneded 18 month ago. Anyway i aim to be ...
A. 28 July 2009: Like you said, she likes to play games. Flat out, it's rude to not at least say, "Thank you." Forget her, why should she feel special when she's trash? Seriously, when people like to play games and cheat, they don't deserve their ex to even be ... (read in full...)
I wear the same clothes all the time that I go to hospital in, am I spreading MRSA?
Q. I'm visiting my gf a LOT recently in hospital due to her illness but i haven't been changing my clothes when i get back and i have been lounging around on my bed and the sofa etc as i haven't seen the point in changing when i get back so late. I ...
A. 27 July 2009: I'm confused at to why you're worried about MRSA? Does your girlfriend have MRSA? From my understanding is that it's already on a lot of peoples' skin and if there is a a break in the skin (just scraping your arm on something)can cause it to get ... (read in full...)
Missed two pills! Was I fertile when we had sex?
Q. me and my bf had sex last week and i am on the pill and i missed two days of it and i took one on the day but i dont know whether i was fertile he pulled himself out before him... and i am scared he cummed in side me i am due on my period in a week ...
A. 27 July 2009: Umm if you had sex a week ago you probably wouldn't be feeling any symptoms. We have no idea if you were ovulating when you had sex. I'm sure you're fine...but there's ALWAYS a chance. Even if you take the pill like you're supposed to, you can ... (read in full...)
I'll be 16 in February, he's 21, is he too old for me? And is a bj a bad idea?
Q. I'm 15 turning 16 in feb. And is he's 21. Is he to old for me? Oh, and is it a bad idea if I gave him a bj?...
A. 27 July 2009: Guys are all idiots. Just be patient, at your age it isn't about finding the right one. It's mostly just trial and error. But this 21 year old guy is bad news. I don't mean to put you down, but he's up to something if he's 21 and wanting to date ... (read in full...)
How will I know when it's right to move on?
Q. I've been with a girl for 5 years and for the past few months we haven't been happy together,we both wanted different things in life so we decided to end our relationship. It is two weeks since we broke up, soon after we broke up i was talking to a ...
A. 27 July 2009: You'll know when it is time. But two weeks out of a 5-year relationship isn't near enough time. Personally, if I were with someone for 5-years I wouldn't want to jump right back into a relationship and I'm sure this new girl is thinking the same ... (read in full...)
What will happen to my boyfriend if I get pregnant?
Q. Ok..I am 14 and I have a 17 year old boyfriend..and all last week I was over his house and half of the time while I was there we had unprotected sex but everytime he is about to "bust" he take it out for awhile and we start again, while we were ...
A. 27 July 2009: That is something that you should probably ask your boyfriend. Young or old, all guys are going to have a different reaction and handle things differently. Be wise and from now on, use protection. This is a question you should have asked yourself ... (read in full...)
I'll be 16 in February, he's 21, is he too old for me? And is a bj a bad idea?
Q. I'm 15 turning 16 in feb. And is he's 21. Is he to old for me? Oh, and is it a bad idea if I gave him a bj?...
A. 27 July 2009: Yes, he is too old for you. I know some ppl say, "age is just a number." Forget that. He's 21, which legally means that he is a true adult, not 18 and he can buy porn and cigarettes. He'll be into things that you cannot do, for example going ... (read in full...)
Is her new guy a bandaid or is she playing mindgames with me?
Q. So, my girlfriend and I of two years broke up. the last year we were living together. We got into a fight and she left the house didn't come home that night. first time she ever did that in a fight. everything was going good the weeks before. I ...
A. 4 July 2009: This girl seems all sorts of confused. She doesn't know what she wants. I think you are doing the right thing, and don't give into her. She is insecure and afraid of being alone. She cheated on you, and now that you don't want her, she's chasing ... (read in full...)
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