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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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The psychiatrist recommeded meds, but my mom's against it
Q. i saw this psychyatrist because i was flunking out of grade 10 and my parents wanted to know what is wrong with me. bnasically im just depressed all the time and she wanted me to put me on meds but i said no and now months later im not any better. ...
A. 3 September 2009: Tisha, the point that I was trying to get across was why his mom may be saying "no." I know it works for a lot of people, my mom has been on antidepresents since her mothers died, and she's been waaaay better. As for my cousin, I think she's ... (read in full...)
He was obsessive about calling but now he's not calling!
Q. Alright!! i'm gonna lay it all out. Ive been dating this guy Kris for 2 months now, he is twenty seven, and I'm nineteen. We started dating and everything was good. He said he loved me like two weeks in!! Way fast but I thought hey maybe it can ...
A. 3 September 2009: It's been two days since he's called, you've only been together for 2-months, and he said the L-word 2 weeks in...he likes the number 2, I'm going with that answer.
In all seriousness, he probably has some stuff going on. Yes, you're right, h... (read in full...)
The psychiatrist recommeded meds, but my mom's against it
Q. i saw this psychyatrist because i was flunking out of grade 10 and my parents wanted to know what is wrong with me. bnasically im just depressed all the time and she wanted me to put me on meds but i said no and now months later im not any better. ...
A. 3 September 2009: Relating to Ginseng, there are a lot of side effects and addiction to such medications. Also, there is a tendency for suicidal thoughts with those types of medications. I think too many people are doped up on medication these days anyway. ... (read in full...)
Was I rude to not check, or right to not lead her on?
Q. Hi there, I recently attended Reading festival (and had an amazing time!) and i was approached by a girl who couldn't find her friends on the first night and was lost. I lent her my phone to call her friends but she couldn't contact them so ...
A. 3 September 2009: No, you're not being rude by not checking in with her. However, I'm sure she'll probably be thinking what a lot of girls think which is, "I thought we had a good time, I liked hanging out with him, but he didn't call me! What a jerk!" She doesn't ... (read in full...)
Too many problems at work and home right now, and I'm tempted to contact my ex for comfort!
Q. I will go crazy if i don't air my feelings right now as no one around me has the time to listen. I feel so down today. The company I work with is giving me a promotion which is a very big responsibility and I feel that I am not ready for it. Th...
A. 2 September 2009: As far as getting over him, it's always no contact. Even if it is supposed to be as "just friends." You can't be friends until after you're over him. Even once you're over him, you may not even care one way or another if you're his friend. So I ... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer small, petite girls?
Q. Do guys prefer small, petite girls? I'm 4'11. Most of my guy friends love short girls, but I have met some who prefer 5'6 and over. What do you think?...
A. 2 September 2009: Depends on the guy. I'm tall for a girl, I'm 5'10, and I've had guys tell me that they like my height, while others have been intimidated or just prefer shorter girls.
My sis (she's older than me) she's your height. No biggy. Everyone has thei... (read in full...)
I need a male sex buddy..where would I find one?
Q. I am a 22 year old female that wants to have sex but I can't find a good partner that would do it with no strings attached Am I wrong for wanting a very sexy man to put it on in my area that wont kiss and tell and that will promise not to force a ...
A. 2 September 2009: What the other posters are saying, there is some truth to women not being able to have "no strings" sex/relationships. I have in the past, and for me it's fine as long as I NEVER talk to the guy again. But if he starts calling and wanting to have ... (read in full...)
Too many problems at work and home right now, and I'm tempted to contact my ex for comfort!
Q. I will go crazy if i don't air my feelings right now as no one around me has the time to listen. I feel so down today. The company I work with is giving me a promotion which is a very big responsibility and I feel that I am not ready for it. Th...
A. 1 September 2009: Honestly, I think if you contact him for comfort--in the long run, it will only make you feel worse and even more stressed out than you already are. He's being wishy washy and giving you mixed signals, and I think if you try to confide in him ... (read in full...)
Will he forgive me for my comment about his mother?
Q. I made a comment about my boyfriend's mom that shes fat. I was so stupid n rude :( now he is mad at me for almost 2 weeks. will he ever forgive me? :cries:...
A. 1 September 2009: I don't know, if you insult someone's mother there may be no turning back. What made you make a comment like that in the first place? Were you mad at him and knew that would get the best of him if you insulted his mother?... (read in full...)
How do I punish my son for what he did?
Q. Our 3 year old is very intelligent. He can write his name, sing the alphabet and ride a bike without training wheels. He is an excellent talker and even uses big words to describe things in detail. HOWEVER, he is mean to our dog. I keep ...
A. 1 September 2009: I know, I know. My parents are awful parents for ever spanking me or my sisters...in fact they should have never had us, those psychos! We should have definitely been brought in to CPS and been kept in foster homes. That would have been a much ... (read in full...)
My boyfirends ex cant get over him, and I want her out of our lives
Q. My boyfriend has this one friend (that is a girl) and they used to date. It never got serious with her because she went crazy on him and tried to get pregnant by him. Anyways, me and him briefly broke up then recently got back together. We are...
A. 1 September 2009: I think it's definitely something that your boyfriend needs to take care of. How is she communicating with him? Is it via email, social networking site, or over the phone? I think regardless if he ignores her when she tells him she's still in ... (read in full...)
My dad died, how can I get my mum into a new relationship?
Q. My mother is alone after my dad passed away, I want that she should take up new relationship. How to make her agree to go ahead and find some one for her? I can't talk with her as i feel embrassed. Please suggest?...
A. 1 September 2009: I agree, it depends a lot on how long ago your father died. She may not be ready to date, may not ever want to date, or may feel guilty about dating someone else.
If it's been a few years, kindly suggest that if she did meet someone new that you... (read in full...)
What else apart from cranberry juice gets rid of cystitis?
Q. hi im 20 and suffer from cystitus quite a bit doess anyone know of anything that helps to get rid of this when it starts apart from cranberry juice because i cant drink it. any answers would be a great help!! thanks...
A. 1 September 2009: Regardless if it's normal or not normal, the person that would have the best answers for you would be a doctor; sorry for being so straight forward, but the best answers you would get would probably not be on a relationship advice forum.... (read in full...)
He sent me a flying kiss, is he a playboy?
Q. hi friends.i actually neede some counselling.and before i forget id say thanks in advance.and now for my problem.i am from a middle class family.and i love to spend my time in my balcony.four days ago i was standing in my balcony with my half wet ...
A. 1 September 2009: It's flirting, not love. If a boy shows you attention it does not mean that he's in love with you. Therefore, just because a boy shows you attention does not mean that you should fall in love with him.
I'm guessing this is a real question... (read in full...)
I need a male sex buddy..where would I find one?
Q. I am a 22 year old female that wants to have sex but I can't find a good partner that would do it with no strings attached Am I wrong for wanting a very sexy man to put it on in my area that wont kiss and tell and that will promise not to force a ...
A. 1 September 2009: Bars or clubs...plenty of d-bags willing to have no strings relationships.... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't trust me enough to tell me things and its really causing a strain in our friendship
Q. So, Im in a really complicated situation right now... I have this friend who used to be my bestfriend untill the end of the last school year. We were super close but then, he let his old girlfriend get in the way of our friendship, so there was ...
A. 1 September 2009: Personally, I choose not to have close guy friends, so no advice on repairing that relationship. However, I would suggest you stay out of their little love triangle. If you start telling one person what's going on...you will end up being the "bad ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? What is this bleeding?
Q. Okay I'm on Birth Control. About a week ago I missed 2 pills. so when I went to take it on that morning I had to take 3 pills so I wouldn't skip the other ones. the next day I woke up and was bleeding. my period pills don't come until another week ...
A. 1 September 2009: I agree, your hormones are now out of whack...so your body doesn't really know what to do. On certain pills, since I forgot to take my pills for a couple days years ago; I started my period--so yes, it's possible to start your period when you skip ... (read in full...)
For women who've been pregnant -- could I be?
Q. hi i was hoping some body could help me please....i am 22 and me and my bf have been trying to conceive for a year and a half now my periods are always bang on time and heavy....i am due on my period on tues 1st september but i started getting small ...
A. 1 September 2009: Well some of the symptoms you stated sounds like PMS that I used to get when I was younger...like a teenager. But a pregnancy test may not show results for maybe another week. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend left me at the scene of an accident
Q. When you take your boyfriend to do somthing that you didnt want to do in the first place and then you get in an accident that wasnt your fault and then your boyfriend leaves you at the scene of the accident disregarding you your car and the ...
A. 1 September 2009: Wow, what the hell? I'm glad he shows he cares...? Before I answer anything, what was so important that he needed to leave you by yourself?... (read in full...)
She had sex with this guy and 6 of his friends and now they're all calling her an easy slut!
Q. One of best friends is Lily she is 20 and is a cool girl. She is really quite and jsut a really good girl , the kind of girl parents they had. She really lieks this jock type guy from our college and she just confided in me that a few nights ago she ...
A. 1 September 2009: I agree, all she can do is wait it out. Just be there to listen to her, I'm sure she'll want to talk about it quite a bit. She definitely disrespected herself--to be blunt, she got gang-banged...that's going to make a group of boneheads feel like ... (read in full...)
Falling in and out of love... daily!
Q. Some days I am more in love than words could convey, other guys I could give a shit less. I am clinically bi polar so this may be a factor, but however, I worry that I may be in the wrong situation. please help -iydm...
A. 1 September 2009: It would be helpful if we knew your situation...?... (read in full...)
Why do I feel I NEED this guy?
Q. My boyfriend and I are together but my sudden problem is - I think that I NEED him. I don't really have many friends anymore. Everyone went their own ways for college and such. He is majoring in Aerospace Engineering and I am majoring in Social ...
A. 1 September 2009: Yes, you're right. I'm sure you just want some affirmation that what you're feeling is correct. When he's all you have, then you begin to feel that you need him because what else do you have? So yes, reconnect with some old friends, try to make ... (read in full...)
I want him to ask me out again! How do I do that?
Q. Nine months ago, I became single after a two-year (not to mention shitty) relationship. Just over a year and a half ago, the guy I'm after became single after a four year relationship. We're both not exactly over our ex's but we're certainly not ...
A. 1 September 2009: Ask him out!!! You don't have to make it a "fancy" date, but just ask him if he wants to go do something, coffee, lunch, just something casual. Just be confident, the past is the past. "Hey Billy, do you have any plans tomorrow? No? Want to go ... (read in full...)
How do I punish my son for what he did?
Q. Our 3 year old is very intelligent. He can write his name, sing the alphabet and ride a bike without training wheels. He is an excellent talker and even uses big words to describe things in detail. HOWEVER, he is mean to our dog. I keep ...
A. 1 September 2009: I know these days spanking is "bad" but I'm sorry, if I did that when I was little, I would have gotten a beatdown. There are some punishments, in my opinion, that don't require physical discipline; however, there are some that do. I learned to ... (read in full...)
What else apart from cranberry juice gets rid of cystitis?
Q. hi im 20 and suffer from cystitus quite a bit doess anyone know of anything that helps to get rid of this when it starts apart from cranberry juice because i cant drink it. any answers would be a great help!! thanks...
A. 31 August 2009: Yeah, consult your doctor. Can you not drink the juice because you just don't like the taste? I think the brand is called AZO and they're cranberry pills, so if your doctor says that those are okay to take instead of drinking the juice because you ... (read in full...)
Why the hell would my boyfriends dad send me 7 friend requests on Facebook?!!
Q. I'm 24, been living with my boyfriend for 5 months now, been together for 5 years. I was checking my Facebook profile the other day when I was surprised to get 7 friend requests from my boyfriend's dad! Why would anyone need 7 Facebook acc...
A. 31 August 2009: Yeah, the 7 different accounts is a bit strange...if I were in your situation, I would ignore it and forget about it. You don't have to add him or wonder why he has 7 different accounts--whatever his reasoning is is his business and he's choosing ... (read in full...)
I want to go out with him, but I feel that the age difference is holding me back! What do you think?
Q. Ok so Ive met this one guy online a few months. We live close and I actually found that we go to the same college. Well we met one day and hit it off. He is a sweetheart and I really like him. I think he has serious boyfriend potential. He is pretty ...
A. 31 August 2009: I would say to try it out and see how it goes, everyone is different. I've dated a guy 3 years younger and a friend of mine has too, but as most of us know, guys mature slower and it may show. Another thing could be that since you're "of age" to ... (read in full...)
Something seems to be missing in our relaitonship and I keep picking fights with her!
Q. I have been going out with a girl for nearly 6 months now and we were getting on great until about 3 weeks ago. I havent fallen out of love with her and still find as attractive as ever but something seems to be missing from our relationship. I find ...
A. 31 August 2009: I'm glad that you realize that you are the one starting the petty arguments. If you think that there's something missing, then I think the reason why you're starting these arguments is because you are trying to find a reason why this relationship ... (read in full...)
I dumped him but am having second thoughts -- should I contact him?
Q. I met a really nice guy and we 'dated' for about two weeks. He asked me out each time, paid for all dates, was a gentleman. In the two weeks I knew him all we ever did was kiss lightly, no make out, no nothing else, he didn't push my boundaries at ...
A. 31 August 2009: Yes, I think going back to him would be only to make yourself feel better. Sometimes we don't know what we have until it's gone--so it sucks that you had to get dumped by the other guy to realize that you passed on a guy that probably would have ... (read in full...)
Two people deleted me from their Facebook, am I not cool enough, how do I get over this?
Q. two people deleted me from my facebook. I never really talked to them but I don't understand why they would do that. It really hurt my feelings. How do get over this?? I feel like i'm not cool enough for them. It affected my self esteem ...
A. 31 August 2009: If your self esteem is based off of how many friends you have on facebook and whether they delete you, then your lack of self esteem goes deeper than that. You even said that you never really talk to them, so they probably were clearing out the ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant, if we had unprotected sex?
Q. Ok so if been on birth control pills for about a year now. Like two weeks ago I stop taking them because of risks and stuff. Four days later after I stoped taking the pills me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom and he ejaculated inside of me. ...
A. 31 August 2009: I don't mean to be condescending, but shouldn't you have thought about all that stuff...going to the hospital, finishing school, and feeling embarrassed before you had unprotected sex?
Yes, there's a possibility you can be pregnant. If you skip... (read in full...)
How do I get my b/f's attention back?
Q. Please someone help. My boyfriend and I, who have been together for seven months, aren't as close as we once were. We became a long distance relationship because we both thought the distance was well worth being with the other. We both are in coll...
A. 30 August 2009: I think that you've already let him know how you feel, then you're right in having to make yourself a little less available to him. If the relationship isn't meant to work out, then it isn't.
I know it's hard to go out and want to have a good t... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but I cant stay faithful? How can I stop?
Q. I have a women and I love her but I like having sex with other women. I want to get help for my promblem. What can i do? ...
A. 30 August 2009: See a therapist? Learn self control? I don't cheat, so I don't know how to tell you to stop, but I've had opportunities. I think of things, like how my boyfriend would have felt if I told him I cheated on him, how he would react, the look on his ... (read in full...)
I want to fix my marriage, but I'm not over the man I had an affair with.
Q. [MOD NOTE: Three questions into one] Hello, Long and short, i had an affair and can not get over my lover. Trying to work it out with the husband, but can not seem to get my lover out of my head. I have heard this is normal, but i just want to be b...
A. 30 August 2009: So...you want to work things out with your husband, yet you want to get together with the ex? I'm sorry, I don't have an answer for you as to why you don't love your husband anymore, only you can figure that out.
Of course the man you had an a... (read in full...)
Should I tell my female teacher how I feel?
Q. I'm a female and I'm in love with a female teacher.She got me thinking am I bi or lesbian? Ever since I've been her teachers aid , I know we had a connection.She likes when I'm around and I visited her a lot.I'm 18 and she's 27. I graduated ...
A. 30 August 2009: No, you shouldn't tell her unless you're certain that she's also a lesbian. Otherwise, don't expect her to reply or to have much of a friendly relationship with you in the future. I'm not going to tell you that you don't or do love her, but there ... (read in full...)
The more he knows I'm interested, the more he slips away!
Q. i'm really confused and i dont know wat to do theres this guy i used to like but i stopped liking him because he kept ignoring me all the time so my feelings for him went away..i remember one night when i went to a concert i kept trying to get his ...
A. 30 August 2009: If a lot of girls say he's a player, then he probably is. Just come to terms that at your young age...or really at any age for that matter, he's not going to change. He probably likes to chase; when he gets what he wants, then he bolts. You don't ... (read in full...)
Sex, pregnancy, and itchiness
Q. okay so im now in a new relationship and well we have had sex twice.it was incredible not going to lie hes my second person to have sex with. And he and i looked at the condum and well i guess he came were not sure if it was pre cum or actually him ...
A. 30 August 2009: If he put the condom on correctly, then I don't think that any of it could have still gotten inside you. I guess it's a possibility, but I've never heard of that happening, and it's never happened to me. As far as the burning and itching goes...it ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend have to borrow everything from me?
Q. i know this isnt a love question but im hoping for some advice. i have a very clingly friend..we have been mates about 6 months.The issue i have is whenever we go out she always asks to borrow my things whether its a dress or jeans or jewelle...
A. 29 August 2009: I'm guessing she probably doesn't have too much money? It's good that she does repay you and gives you your clothes back. I think that she probably likes your fashion and that you're good at helping her get ready. I know some nights it's fun to ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my ex a message to let him know I'm still thinking of him?
Q. i was with someone for over 3 years...rather than rehash all the tiny things that made me insecure, jealous, just didn't feel right etc...i can admit i was wrong on some of those things and reacted too jealous at times and should have been more ...
A. 29 August 2009: Here's the thing, you two haven't been together in years--so bascially you can't just start out in a full-on exclusive relationship. It would be something that you would have to build on. Start with a friendship first, then try to move on from ... (read in full...)
How can I casually start talking to a guy I really like?!
Q. Theres this boy i like at my school, Im a freshman in highschool, his locker is 2 dowwn from mine, we stare at eachother alot, i always come close to talking to him but i dont have the guts, whenever where in the hallway walking past eachother ...
A. 29 August 2009: Pretty much what Emily said. He's probably really shy too, so just go ahead and smile and say, "Hi." It's just being friendly, it doesn't come on as if it's anything, and then hopefully it can make him feel more comfortable for him to talk to you ... (read in full...)
Should we move in together?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a week. But we have known each other for 15 years. Well we want to move in together. But im not sure if its the right time. Its not gonna just be me and him it will also be his bestfriend which is also my ...
A. 29 August 2009: Definitely wait. Things are a lot different once you move in together. ... (read in full...)
Only 14-25 year olds answer, please: I'm unsure about what to expect when it comes to handjobs and giving head.
Q. hello, i am a 14 year old girl going into eight grade. this is the grade where girls start to give hand jobs. I am just unsure of what i should do if this comes upon me, and how it will come upon me. will he most likely ask me to do it, or will...
A. 29 August 2009: 14-25? Why? Because an older person would tell you exactly what you don't want to hear? Well I'm 25 and going to tell you probably what you don't want to hear.
Just because you're 14 and going into 8th grade does not mean that you HAVE to give ... (read in full...)
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