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writes:Okay my situation..is I've been talking to this guy lets call him john well we met and everything it went well at first I was nervous but then i got comfortable.It felt like there was chemistry between us..okay so a couple days later we wanted to see each other again so we decided to go to a park n talk..I get to the park that he chose and i didnt like it at all..I mean I felt weird there..I told him lets go to another park but he didnt want to so I told him im gonna leave but he wouldnt pay attention to me so I left him there..I know what I did was wrong because I ditched him.Well I kept on sending him text messages saying how sorry I was for doing that but he never replied..I then called him but he never answered my call..Well a week goes by and out of nowhere he sends me a text message saying that he wasn't mad at me.We talked for a little bit it felt weird. My question is should I tell him how I feel about him?? Should I tell him that I really missed talking to him and that he was on my mind all the time?? They say honesty is the best policy but I don't know if it is in this situation..
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (31 July 2009):
 It is a bit worrying that you felt uncomfortable in the place he chose for you guys to hang out and he refused to leave?
Why did you feel uncomfortable there? Did it feel unsafe?
I don't think what you did was wrong. He wouldn't leave, he wouldn't negotiate, he completely ignored your feelings for no valid reason (why the hell would he care about staying at this place by himself without you?)
And then it takes him a week to respond to your completely unnecessary apology? I wouldn't be sticking around to declare my affection for him personally.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (31 July 2009):
No, I don't think that you should. First of all, don't apologize incessantly for something that you shouldn't have been sorry for. He should have respected that you were uncomfortable and left with you. You did what was right, you were uncomfortable so you left. Second, he shouldn't have ignored your texts and calls. He's being a jerk. And third, if you tell him that you missed him and think about him ALL THE TIME, you're totally giving him the upperhand and he will think that it's ok to disrespect you, and that when you're in an uncomfortable situation and decide to do what you feel is right, that you'll always come crawling back apologizing. So in other words, he gets to act like an ass while you tell him that you're sorry.
It isn't about honesty. You're not being dishonest by not wearing your heart on your sleeve. Being dishonest is if he were to ask you how you felt about him and you told him that you hate him and can't stand his sight. Just don't worry about him and let him do the work. He should be trying to impress you and be respectful toward you.
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