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*milymarie26
writes:Help! Me and my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up a few months ago, and ever since then we've been on-off. I still love him with all of my heart, and he says he does too, but the way he treats me says something completely different. If we get into one of our arguments over nothing, he'll cuss at me or completely ignore me for a few days, and then he'll find some reason to come back. Before our breakup I had agreed to move back home to continue college with him, but since then I've been having second thoughts. The final straw was when he told me during our last argument "get out of my life, leave me alone, I don't love you anymore." He ignored me for a week, posted pictures of him partying with new girls on his FB profile, the whole nine yards. I took what he said to heart, and decided it was pointless for me to stick around for him when my heart was breaking and he didn't want me anymore. I really thought this was it.Yesterday, he texted me asking me to take care of his dog for a couple weeks. I told him I couldn't because I was going back to school. Immediately he calls me in tears, upset because I'm leaving. I explained to him how much he hurt me, and that I was leaving because I believed what he had said. Now he's begging me to stay here with him. Should I take him seriously, or is he going to be saying the same things again in a month? Should I stay or should I go? I have one week until I would be leaving!
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reader, emilymarie26 +, writes (6 August 2009):
emilymarie26 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the advice everyone! My head is telling me to move on, I just need my heart to catch up so I can finally let go and be happy.
Also, some more info to clarify: I wouldn't be dropping out of school, my university has a program where I can take off a year and take classes elsewhere (community college back home), and then go back. I had already been considering it because my first year was kind of rough, but a lot of that had to do with this guy, so I'm going to try to give it my all this time and make it work.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 August 2009):
Go! Run fast! He's so freaking immature, he was pissing me off while reading your question and I don't even know the guy. Yes, he will do it again. Now you go do what YOU want to do (away from him), make something of yourself, and find someone that isn't an idiot.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (6 August 2009):
You need to stop, You can revolve your plans around a unstable relationship. He appears to be very childish or he wouldn't be posting pictures of himself partying after the break up. You need to go ahead and go back to school as you had already planned he is going to keep pulling your strings if you let him. Where will you be when he has another temper tantrum and walks out on you. I think you should cool out on relationships for a minute and be single and enjoy college life. Honey life is too short to put up with bull crap from someone that is beneath you and is only using you or wants you around when he wants you. Good luck
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reader, Farm Girl +, writes (6 August 2009):
 Move on! He wants his cake and to eat it too. If he truly loved you he wouldn't say the terrible things he says. He wouldn't be putting up pictures of himself with other girls. Think about it, did he text you because he cares for you? Or did he text you to watch his dog? If you agree to watch his dog, he'll be sweet to you for a week or so, then he'll right back to his same old stuff.Move on, you deserve much better!
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reader, painful_uncle  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 Ok, sorry i don't completely understand your situation. You are planning on dropping out of college to stay with this guy?!? Is this what you mean? If so, honestly i don't think this guy is worth you loosing your education over and perhaps you should be putting your future career first. I think you need to access what you want out of this relationship. From what you have written it seems that your relationship is pretty unstable. Where are you expecting this to go in the future? Do you see your future with this guy? It seems unlikely to last given how it is going at the moment. If the relationship is not going anywhere in particular you might as well break up now and save yourself any future heartache.I hope whatever you decide that everything will work out for the best.Good Luck
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