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writes:I've been with a girl for 5 years and for the past few months we haven't been happy together,we both wanted different things in life so we decided to end our relationship. It is two weeks since we broke up, soon after we broke up i was talking to a girl that i recently met and she told me that she really liked me and i told her that i felt the same then we ended up sharing a passionate kiss,Ever since we kissed we have been texting and calling each other every day but the girl is frightened of starting a relationship with me right now in case i am using her as a rebound relationship, she said that she will wait for me to get my mind clear and ready for moving on,I truly understand what she is saying but i feel in my head that i want her right now, i have never felt this way about anyone before, she is the only thing on my mind all day every day, i really believe see is the one for me and i'm prepared to wait as long as needed so that i can be with her.If anyone out there has any advice on what signs to look for to let me know when the time is right to move onwards and ways in which i can convince this special girl that i am ready to be hers, or advise me if I'm going about this in the right way at all.I thank you greatly.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (27 July 2009):
You'll know when it is time. But two weeks out of a 5-year relationship isn't near enough time. Personally, if I were with someone for 5-years I wouldn't want to jump right back into a relationship and I'm sure this new girl is thinking the same thing. I think you should evaluate if you like this girl because you're not used to being alone and she is someone new so you're feeling excited and infatuated with her.
Give it time. Be friends with her and go with the flow. Things always start out great and then when reality sinks in you may feel differently. She is right for wanting to give you time to clear your head because when things start moving too fast, it's usually a red flag. Know that you're certain about things before moving on. Usually this takes months...not weeks.
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reader, stilllovinghim  +, writes (27 July 2009):
If you really mean what you said about having this new feeling for her and no one else then I think you two can have a relationship whenever you want! Tell this girl how you feel about her and that you really want to be with her because you really like her not because now your alone. If your totally over the other girl and can somehow prove to this new girl that you are then yow two can be together!
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reader, quarky +, writes (27 July 2009):
 I can understand why she would think you're on the rebound and maybe you seem just a bit too keen to her.It's clear that you like this girl so maybe you should take it a bit more slowly, take your time with her, respect her feelings that you may not be over the ex-even although you feel you are. the best ones are worth waiting for!
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (27 July 2009):
I think you should have a lot of respect for the girl, shes put love on the line for you and she obviously wants this to work, dont let her down. Sit and talk honestly and openly with her, say to her how much it meant to you that she held back and waited remind her that nobody has ever done that before, tell her how you feel if the emotions/feelings were genuine they will flood through in the moment. I think the signs are clear, youll need to say all the right things to convince her but if its the truth im sure shell believe it. Youve both handled the situation well so its off to a great start, best of luck
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