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writes:I hace been talking to a guy for 2 weeks now and he has a gf. I didnt know that for a while but then when i found out i was furious. I know we arent together but he says hes comfortable in this relaionship and doesnt like the girl shes been pushing him to be in a realationship and he decided to give it a chance. Well today they left to cuzmel what do i do? do i be mad or have a right to be? do i talk to him when when he gets back? do i just be done with it? Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (31 July 2009):
I think you have a right to be angry. You were lead on by this guy...and it turns out he's shady. Be done with him, don't invest anymore time in him. Thank goodness it's only been 2-weeks, it will be easy. Tell him bye-bye and move on. If he's a big enough jerk to talk crap about his girlfriend to you (but I'm sure he kisses her ass when they're together), then he'll do the same thing to you. He's a selfish jerk and thinks he can have his cake and eat it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): WOW, the best advice i can give you is to stay away from this guy. since he has a gf, it clearly proves that he's a
dishonest jerk, so if i were you, right when i see him, i would tell him that we should stop seeing each other. believe me honey, it's the best thing to do, and just imagine what his gf must be feeling. i mean she has no idea that the two of you have been seeing each other. please just leave that guy alone with his girlfriend. that's the right thing to do =] good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): Well put, Eddie.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 The person with the most right to be angry is his girlfriend. She is oblivious to everything. You new all the details, he knew the details and she was in the dark. When you found out he was involved it might have been a good time to get out of the relationship. Now you are aware of the facts so if you continue to be with this guy, you should be not be surprised at anything.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (31 July 2009):
No you don't have a right to be mad because you guy's have just been getting to know each for two weeks. If anything you should be relieved because now you know how much of a jerk he is. As long as he is with her he will continue to do things with her so you might as well get use to it. I would thank the lord for this clue and get on and meet someone else because now you know you cannot completely trust him, If he was really a honest person he would have told you when ya'll met that he had a women but the relationship hasn't been working out and he maybe making some changes. He will do the samething to you when he is tired of your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): Of course you have a right to feel angry, you were mislead about him being single and about how he did not like the girlfriend, but obviously he is lying, they went to Cozumel. You have a right to feel however you feel.
That said, you do have a responsibility to deal with that feeling on your own, you have a choice in what you are going to do with that anger. You could tell his girlfriend but you all really aren't together or have even been out together on a date (right?) So talking is all that he is doing. So telling her would be retalliation against him and she has done nothing wrong.
You could yell at him when he gets back, but a guy like this doesn't care about you or other people most likely and he won't learn anything from it.
What he would learn from is if you stopped talking to him without explanation and simply moved on period. That is rejection and non attention that he deserves. He would get an ego boost if you told him off because that would mean you gave a sh-t about him, were jealous, etc.
He has shown he isn't an honest man, just let him go. NEXT!
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (30 July 2009):
you have been talking to a guy for 2 weeks online, you have no right to be angry but he girlfriend has! he has been talking to you online for 2 weeks so he doesn't need to tell you anything although if he lead you to believe he was single then fine be a bit annoyed with him but he has been honest about it now.if he isn't comfortable in his relationship then he would break up with her. dont trust this man, just let it go. he has a girlfriend so he is out of bounds. move on.
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