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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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Only 14-25 year olds answer, please: I'm unsure about what to expect when it comes to handjobs and giving head.
Q. hello, i am a 14 year old girl going into eight grade. this is the grade where girls start to give hand jobs. I am just unsure of what i should do if this comes upon me, and how it will come upon me. will he most likely ask me to do it, or will...
A. 29 August 2009: 14-25? Why? Because an older person would tell you exactly what you don't want to hear? Well I'm 25 and going to tell you probably what you don't want to hear.
Just because you're 14 and going into 8th grade does not mean that you HAVE to give ... (read in full...)
We broke up, still see each other every day as friends; she says she just doesn't want sex
Q. Hey, Well me and my girlfriend broke up about 1 month ago. More so to take a step back. We still see each other every day (live 200 M from each other), still love each other, and still loyal with each other (as in not interetsted in other people)...
A. 28 August 2009: I really don't think that her being anemic has anything to do with her not wanting to be intimate with you. A lot of the time it has nothing to do with a woman's sex drive as to why she doesn't want to have sex with her ex that is now supposed to ... (read in full...)
My life is a mess! How can I sort it out?
Q. help big time!! I have been with a very emotionally unstable man for two years on the first of september. I have a child with another man. I am in debt. so there are my three problems. this man has an unforgiving heart. he meet me an...
A. 28 August 2009: Sometimes life can be a huge mess, yet we have to change things to try and clean it up. With that said, you choose who is in your life and what makes/doesn't make you happy. The way this man is behaving is very bad. He falls for some scam of ... (read in full...)
Me and my husband have been having arguments about a vacation to see my friend, should I still go?
Q. About 3 months ago, my husband and I had a fight because I wanted to take a little vacation to visit my good friend. Reason of that fight was he didn’t trust me, and he dislike that friend of mine because he feels that I have changed since I met ...
A. 28 August 2009: Personally, I think he's taking his insecurities out on your friend and using her as a scapegoat. In general, he probably doesn't want you to go for fear that you'll cheat on him being that she's widowed--meaning she's available. After 28 years of ... (read in full...)
She found out about us, but she's crazy, advice please?
Q. my friends girifriend and him have been together for about a 2 years and have a kid on the way. well he has not been happy for a year now, he told me last week she is not atractive and anoying, well just this weekend he and me went to a party and ...
A. 28 August 2009: Umm...what makes you think he's even being honest to you? She's not attractive because why? She's pregnant, probably feeling like utter shit, and carrying his child? I don't mean to be harsh, but honey, get a clue. He's jerk, and you're the ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how long I have to wait - after I take the pill - to have sex?
Q. Last night, I had sex with my boyfriend and I'm on the pill. I've been taking it for a while now, about three months, but I'm not sure how long i have to wait after I take it to have sex. I waited an hour, was that enough, or am I screwed? HELP...
A. 28 August 2009: The pill as in a regular birth control pill that you take daily, right? Yes, of course you should be fine. If you've been consistently taking it for the past 3 months, then it doens't matter how soon you take it before or after sex...I'm also ... (read in full...)
Why do women flirt with me and then think I'm a loser for asking them out?
Q. Hi. I have a question about flirting. Why do women do this and then seem so surprised to be asked out? I've asked out a few women over the years, thinking they were interested. In the majority of cases the women have then proceeded to completely ...
A. 28 August 2009: Well, I think that some of what you listed can be placed with higher value. Personally, I think sense of humor, appearance, and intelligence are the main things that I find interesting in a man. Sure act aloof, whatever; it'll get old after a ... (read in full...)
Brother molested me as a child years ago but acts like what I remember never happened!
Q. I am 52 yrs old and was sexually molested by my brother between ages 7-8. Recently this conversation conversation came up and he told me he had never really abused me. He says that he spoke to other people and that touching me thru the sheets was ...
A. 28 August 2009: Well it sounds to me like your brother is in denial. He knows what he did was sick and wrong, but now he's trying to turn it around and make himself look like the victim. So in other words, he's still manipulative and sick. He knows exactly what ... (read in full...)
Not happy with my b/f's action and now I'm seeing my ex
Q. I've been dating a guy i work with for almost a year, we both have 2 jobs and the time we spend together is mostly late at night when he comes over to sleep. I've been bothered for a while about him having a lot of female co-workers numbers and the ...
A. 28 August 2009: I'm sorry, but you are being very selfish. Don't play with your ex's emotions just because you aren't secure enough with yourself to be alone. You broke up with him because he wasn't responsible, is he any different now? Probably not.
As fo... (read in full...)
I want to leave my b/f but don't want him to be with someone else!
Q. Heres my story i want to leave my bf but i just dont want him being with someone els after me i feel like leaving him because he is the most selfish inconciderat loser i have ever meant he does nothing for me or our daughter i really need to leave ...
A. 28 August 2009: Well, I don't need to nitpick, but you kind of contradicted yourself. You said you don't think you have feelings for him anymore, but you don't want him to see anyone until any that you have left are gone. So in essence, you do still have feelings ... (read in full...)
My fiance said he would leave me if I got pregnant and now I am - how do I tell him?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together for awhile we just recently got engaged a few months ago. We have talked about our future a lot. I have 3 kids and he has accepted them. He loves them very much and they love him. We have talked about having k...
A. 28 August 2009: I'm sure he was being overly dramatic about what he said if you two had a child together. He could possibly walk, or maybe not. But while he wants to be an idiot, you can let him walk. Let him know that you're pregnant and you're not having an ... (read in full...)
He thinks I don't like him! Should I make the first move?
Q. Hey I need some quick advice because I want to know what i'm going to do! Please help I know it's long!! Okay so here's the deal I really like this guy that i've known all my life and he likes me back. A few weeks ago we kissed for the firs...
A. 28 August 2009: You could have come off as "not interested" even though clearly to you, you were. But guys and their egos...they get hurt so easily. Yeah, just text him and see what's going on for the weekend and let him know that you'd like his company. Like ... (read in full...)
In love with my best male friend. Should I wait or just give up on him?
Q. Hi. Im in a bit of a situation. I am in love with a very old friend of mine. I have known him since we were at school, and we are very good friends, who can talk to each other about anything. We chat nearly every day, even tho he has a girlfriend...
A. 28 August 2009: I think that while he stills has a girlfriend, you should hold off. Like you said, you don't want to be the other woman and leave the other woman hateful towards you. Since you two are friends, be there for him--once his relationship with her ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, but I'm not sure which guy is the father!
Q. Im 26 and just found out Im pregnant. The thing is, I have slept with 2 men - one 4 weeks ago, just a day after I finished my period and someone else 2 weeks ago. Im unsure who the father is but I think it is more likely to be the guy I slept wi...
A. 27 August 2009: I'm going to have to agree with Happy Face, it's probably the 1st guy. Usually about a month after conceiving will you feel symptoms. Of course everyone is different, but within 2 weeks you'd probably only notice slight differences with you body, ... (read in full...)
Is there a ghost in the house?
Q. ok, yesterday (20 august 2009) my gran had to have her oldest dog put to sleep as she was old, and in a really bad way. it was upsetting :\. but all that day, my gran and my uncle was sitting downstairs watching tv, nobody else was in the house...
A. 24 August 2009: Call ghost hunters.... (read in full...)
He seemed very interested but since the 2nd date when we had sex, he's been ignoring me. Did I get played?
Q. I am 31 years old and the mother of a 14 year old daughter, and 8 year old son. I am single. Anyhow, I decided to go back to school to advance my degree. I am always being hit on by younger guys, on campus, but never really thought much of it. ...
A. 20 August 2009: I'm not trying to be rude here, but just an asumption since you have children and you're still pretty young, you have't done too much dating have you? I'll be honest with you, you probably freaked him out. After you had sex with him you decided to ... (read in full...)
Since I stayed at my ex's house - which he approved of - my boyfriend has cut contact! What should I do?
Q. I was in a relationship for 7 months (long distance but we managed to spend at least half that time together in person). He was very into me and actually told me he loved me and that he thought I was the one. I was taking it more slowly because i ...
A. 20 August 2009: I have to agree with icelordess. I read the headline and thought right away that it was a test. The way he went about it, yeah it is very immature. But really, put yourself in his shoes.
How would you feel if he rang you up to tell you that... (read in full...)
Is there a ghost in the house?
Q. ok, yesterday (20 august 2009) my gran had to have her oldest dog put to sleep as she was old, and in a really bad way. it was upsetting :\. but all that day, my gran and my uncle was sitting downstairs watching tv, nobody else was in the house...
A. 20 August 2009: I'm not a sceptic, but you could be right. Especially if it's an older home, things creak, and pipes rumble. Even something small like mice in the attic could be causing the noise. We don't know if it's haunted, we haven't been there. But even ... (read in full...)
What does he mean "what happens in Las Vegas stays in Las Vegas"
Q. So my boyrfiend is on vacation whom is traveling all over Cali with some of his cousions, and from his social network status he wrote "what happens in vegas stays in vegas and his lips will be sealed". Now, this has made me insecure cause I know ...
A. 20 August 2009: It's just a saying...everyone says it before they go to Vegas. Have you ever been to Vegas? That place is a great time, nightlife, gambling, drinking--you name it. Let him have fun. Try to remind yourself that while being in a relationship, a ... (read in full...)
I've dated him for 3 days and I think I'm in love!
Q. i think i am in love... i've dated him for 3 days, and known him for 3 days. so i dont think i am. but i CANNOT stop thinking about him!! when i am with him its like nobody else is there. and i just feel really happy. i want to talk about him ...
A. 20 August 2009: It's called puppy love. I remember the feeling...butterflies in the stomach, not being able to eat, thought about him before I went to sleep and right when I woke up. It's 3-days...you don't love him, like another aunt said, you're infatuated. ... (read in full...)
The man I met online hasn't contacted me
Q. I met a man through an Internet dating site and we had a wonderful meeting. Afterwards he sent me an email saying he had a great and was looking forward to doing it again. This was a week ago and I haven't heard from him since. We are both in our ...
A. 20 August 2009: I agree, it's strange that he would email you that he would like to see you again and even invited you to a future event, then not talk to you for a week.
I would give it another week, and if he still hasn't initiated any conversation with you... (read in full...)
Should I ask my close friend to quit smoking before our relationship goes further?
Q. One of my incredibly close friends lives in (and is originally from) Germany. I met him while he was visiting the U.S., and even after he returned home--over a year ago--we remained very close friends. It's difficult to describe the nature of our ...
A. 19 August 2009: You can try to convince all you want, it doesn't mean he will do it. When you choose to quit smoking, you have to do it for yourself, because YOU want to, not because someone else wants you to.
If him smoking is a deal breaker for you, then you... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my wife with my best friend's wife
Q. I am falling in love with my wifes best friend. Her husband is my best friend. We both have 2 kids from our respective spouses. We have never had sex but we have been to third base two times. I know I am a horrible friend and husband, but we were ...
A. 19 August 2009: There's a difference between falling in love and being infatuated. What does she have that your wife doesn't? Obviously you loved your wife enough that you made the commitment to her that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with her. Think ... (read in full...)
Should I move on from my ex for good?
Q. okaayy so basically i cant get over my ex boyfriend i broke up with him in july and he found a new girlfriend right away but their relationship only lasted for weeks while he was with her he wanted me to send him nude pics but i wouldnt so he got ...
A. 18 August 2009: Please move on from this immature, disrespectful jerk! Of course you're not over him yet, you only broke up in July! My last relationship was over in May and I'm still trying to heal from it. Don't talk to this boy anymore. Who cares what he ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm wrong for wanting to call our relationship quits because she won't let me move back in with her?
Q. me and my girlfriend has been together for two years. I moved with her into her place. we got into a fight so she kicked me out. she still wants to be a couple(you know go out together, i come over every other day, still have sex...ect) but she ...
A. 18 August 2009: Sometimes people are better off not living together. I don't think you're wrong for feeling that, because maybe it's a sign that things probably won't work out in the future. I tried living with a boyfriend a couple times...and it's hard to live ... (read in full...)
Why do I burn after sex?
Q. I'm 16 and ii been haveing sex with my boyfriend WITHOUT a condom and we have sex 10 times a day so i was wondering why my pravit part burns after we finish ???...
A. 18 August 2009: Acids fighting sperm...that's new one. It's somewhat true, but there's not a battle going on up there and it certainly wouldn't cause you to burn. It's what quiet echo said. And please use protection.... (read in full...)
Women my age pay me no attention! I only get young girls liking me!
Q. My problem is young girls like me, women my age pay me no attention.Hs age girls flirt with me all the time they tell me im cute, This girl was probably six was just staring at me one day i looked at her and she said i was pretty seriously. ...
A. 18 August 2009: Why do you bother asking people out that you're not even attracted to? That's just weird. You said you're "not nice in general." That is why they make fun of you.... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to be angry with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six months, which was on my birthday. Which was two days ago. All he did for my birthday was give me a five dollar headscratcher, which I'm pretty sure he didn't even buy (his mom wanted one, and gave me money to ...
A. 18 August 2009: Apologize to him? Wow, what a joke. Tell him to piss off. Along with everyone else, he offered to buy you drugs for your birthday...how sweet. Maybe you should have suggested that instead of him wasting his money on drugs, maybe he should have ... (read in full...)
Women my age pay me no attention! I only get young girls liking me!
Q. My problem is young girls like me, women my age pay me no attention.Hs age girls flirt with me all the time they tell me im cute, This girl was probably six was just staring at me one day i looked at her and she said i was pretty seriously. ...
A. 18 August 2009: Like the others said, if you "jokingly" ask a woman out, you're making it seem like the joke's on her, of course she's going to say no and probably be irritated by you. When you do something like that, it seems like you're coming onto her like, ... (read in full...)
Married co-worker wants to take me to dinner and a show?
Q. Okay so I started interning at a newspaper after last month. A web designer guy stopped by the office once to meet my boss. Afterward he annoyed me for 30 minutes asking for advice about his mistress!!! He eventually left but he has been calling the ...
A. 18 August 2009: It sounds to me that he's trying to bribe you and wants to make you his new mistress. The guy sounds like a pig, and I'm pretty sure you know that (which is good). I would decline, just let him know that you don't feel it would be very ... (read in full...)
Cousin attacked me in a jealous rage and I broke his arm
Q. I was at a BD party just drinking and lounging, my cousin had brought a girl around he left her siting by the pool where i was he went some where. I began talking to this girl she was kool she filled up the beer cooler for me and even helped get ...
A. 18 August 2009: I think your cousin needs to chill out and lay off the steroids. I'm kidding, but it sounds like he went a little out of control. No, I don't think you should have fell for the whole, "If you want it come get it" statement. She was obviously ... (read in full...)
The deadline for telling his wife has come and gone. How do I tell her anonymously?
Q. I have been carrying on an affair with a married man. He is going to leave his wife, I do believe that. The thing is, the original timeline for him leaving her has already come and gone. Circumstances have just naturally happened that have caused ...
A. 17 August 2009: You really believe he is going to leave his wife? Sorry, but not gonna happen. My mother told me this years ago, a man will almost never leave his wife for another woman. Like the others said, why would he when he can have his cake and eat it ... (read in full...)
Can you can tell by a girls vagina if she is a transexual?
Q. Im just wondering if you can tell by a girls vagina if she is a transexual. Would it look, feel, smell, even taste the same? Anything would be great thanks!...
A. 17 August 2009: Hmm well I found a website, don't know if it would be too graphic to post, since I looked it up because it made me wonder. Just google transsexual surgery, third one down (male to female surgery) should pretty much give you your answer. As far as ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want kids but I do, how can I talk to him about it
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now and we have been really close friends for 6 years prior to starting an actual relationship. I moved in with my boyfriend and his family two months into the relationship due my roommate not ...
A. 16 August 2009: What I'm a little confused on is the whole Plan B deal. All it is, is a high dosage of birth control. Using any form of contraceptive, including condoms would help eliminate the possibility of becoming pregnant. Plan B doesn't cause you to abort ... (read in full...)
He said he needed a week and maybe things could be saved
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday because we argued too much. I asked him today if we could give us a week to think about whether we can be saved, and he said yes. I was wondering if this is a good sign? ...
A. 16 August 2009: Not necessarily. He agreed that he would have a decision in a week. Will he really have one? Probably not. And if he does,it could be 50/50 maybe yes, maybe no. In the meantime, don't call him him anymore or make anymore contact with him. He ... (read in full...)
How big or not big do ladies like him to be?
Q. Yes this is a freaky question but I'm in the mood so here it goes, ladies, when it comes to the cut of a penis for you, what's your preference. Yea we got all these topics about "I'm too small" or "I'm too big", but not too much on " what she ...
A. 16 August 2009: I disagree, size does matter. Too small like smaller than average kind of grosses me out and the "motion of the ocean" doesn't really matter when it's below average. Too big can hurt and be a little scary. So yeah, gonna have to go with average ... (read in full...)
My husband keeps taking money from our bank account and we're financially struggling!
Q. My husband seems to be doing better as of this week. But as a general rule he is constantly getting into the bank account and taking money. He doesn't tell me this or include it on the ledger so we have bounced numerous checks and have had repeated ...
A. 16 August 2009: If I were in your shoes, I would set up a separate account that doesn't have his name on it and use that for things that NEED to get paid. So when he goes to the joint account and can't get any money out, too bad so sad, the bills had to get paid. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm going to have a relapse with my eating disorder because of this insecurity toward my boyfriend!
Q. I recently had a trust related issue with my bf of three years. I went camping with my family for the weekend and left him home. He told me that he stayed home and hung with some guy friends and whatnot. What he lied to me about was that he went to ...
A. 16 August 2009: It seems to me that your one problem that is causing this insecurity is him. So you can remove the problem or you can stay with him and relapse. You are more important than him, he's a jerk, get rid of him!... (read in full...)
How do you juggle dating and work?
Q. I got out of a 4 year relationship just under a year ago and now that I'm dating again, I'm wondering how people cope with 1) the uncertainty of it all, getting to know different guys at the same time and not knowing if there could be a future with ...
A. 14 August 2009: You still have to remember to keep your priorities number one in your life. Then dating comes after that. Do what you can, and if you're too busy or need to catch up on work, then do that. I know dating can lead to your mind wandering and ... (read in full...)
What can I put in this resignation letter?
Q. Not really a relationship or love question, but advice is required. All i want to know is, what on earth do you put in a resignation letter. Things where i work have become unbearable, and i know i should be grateful i have a job, as so man...
A. 12 August 2009: I have to disagree with some of you. I am a supervisor for a large financial company and we had to take several courses in discrimination. It is illegal for them to retaliate against you for bringing up that you've been bullied. Don't worry about ... (read in full...)
He said there is no spark anymore...and I love him so much!! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I met in high school and have been together for almost 4 years. Since the day I met him I knew he was "the one". We've been through so much in our relationship and have come a long way. We've talked about marriage and babies and ...
A. 12 August 2009: What he really wants is for you to give him the space that he requested. Please realize that you are very young and that he may not be "the one." Especially at your age, people become curious and wonder what else is out there, and wonder what ... (read in full...)
What can I put in this resignation letter?
Q. Not really a relationship or love question, but advice is required. All i want to know is, what on earth do you put in a resignation letter. Things where i work have become unbearable, and i know i should be grateful i have a job, as so man...
A. 12 August 2009: Here is one template I found, but it's regarding conflict with boss, hopefully this helps get you started:
[Your Name]
[Street Address]
[City, ST ZIP Code]
August 11, 2009
[Recipient Name]
[Title]
[Company Name]
[Street Address]
[City, ... (read in full...)
What can I put in this resignation letter?
Q. Not really a relationship or love question, but advice is required. All i want to know is, what on earth do you put in a resignation letter. Things where i work have become unbearable, and i know i should be grateful i have a job, as so man...
A. 12 August 2009: Yes, you can include things of that nature on a resignation letter. Do you use Microsoft Word? You can look up templates for letters of resignation under different categories. And like the other poster, you should take legal action. I don't know ... (read in full...)
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