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writes:Should I send him an email. He ended it with me about two weeks ago. I just want to know how he is? Where he is? Was the ending as difficult for him as it was for me? I don't know the REAL reason he ended it, the underlying reason. We loved each other and got along well.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (7 August 2009):
 I'd say no. He ended it, therefore it's best to wait for him to initiate any further contact. If he does, then he probably just wants to be friends. Unless you have bad arguments, the only reason people end relationships is that they don't want to be in them any more. It's best to face up to the loss no matter how much it hurts and get on with life as best you can until you feel better. Good luck :)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (7 August 2009):
No, you shouldn't. Why? Because he probably won't give you the REAL reason. And do you really want to hear the real reason? People don't usually break up with someone because of themselves. It never really is, "It's not you, it's me." So if he gave you the REAL reason, it would more than likely make you feel even worse.
Of course it's difficult for him, he's not out frolicking in a field singing at the top of his lungs for joy. Of course he's probably upset. He broke up with you, therefore, he should be the one to contact you. If you try to contact him you'll either be ignored, be given a sugarcoated reason, or start talking to him again where you start to regain hope with him only telling you that he doesn't want a relationship.
The first two weeks...it's hard. Take it day-by-day. After about two months...you'll start to feel okay again. It takes time. But you're not going to get over him if you try to continue contact with him.
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