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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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Don't you think he should show me if he wants to be with me?
Q. Hello, I' m Artemis, and I'm gay. I ended my relationship with my boyfriend a while ago and I can't move on, I'm desperate because this whole situation is affecting every single aspect of my life, 3 weeks ago I saw him, we said hi and all that, we ...
A. 18 September 2009: Well, if you were the one that ended the relationship--my best guess would be that he is probably waiting for you to make a move. He's probably also hurt and still cares about you, but being that he was the one that was dumped he probably doesn't ... (read in full...)
Should I see a doctor?
Q. hey im asking u guys for an answer cause i want to know if what i expeirenced the other night is what everbody is telling me i did. the other night i was at home now b4 i say anything else let me just say i have a very stressful life im a single ...
A. 18 September 2009: I would suggest 1. Yes, a doctor. 2. A medical advice forum, not a love/relationship forum. Otherwise, could have been a panic or anxiety attack, or something more serious.... (read in full...)
What did his answer on Facebook mean?
Q. Hi! Ok I am so happy well before I said things that I regret to the boy I like allot and I apologised yesterday and he replied today and said.....haha we all make mistakes..... What should I say back? Does he like me back now? Signs: Sta...
A. 18 September 2009: Wow, you are reading WAY into this. He said that "we all make mistakes..." it's a way of him saying it's not a big deal. As for your other questions, no idea, it's way too vague.... (read in full...)
How often does a guy contact you when getting to know you?
Q. I guess a general question on when you start seeing someone.... How often do folk think that a guy should be contacting a girl when they are not really dating yet -just seeing each other when they can whilst they get to know each other a bit more...
A. 18 September 2009: Yeah, don't worry about it too much. I think like women, guys don't want to come off as too clingy either. He definitely seems interested, so don't over-think it.... (read in full...)
Is she interested? I can't tell for sure.
Q. Hey guys, i recently joined college, i'm only 16 and the girl i'm interested in is 17 she is in all of my classes i help her with her work ect ect but she keeps looking at me when i sit apart from her and smiling at me i wasn't sure if she was ...
A. 18 September 2009: I think it's a possibility. I mean, I wouldn't look or smile at a guy I wasn't slightly interested in--usually I would ignore him so that he wouldn't think that maybe I was. Of course, the only way to find out for sure: ask for her number and go ... (read in full...)
Why are girls aged 15-17 still classed as children?
Q. Just wondering, because people seem to be under the impression that anyone under the age of 18 is naive, easily-influenced within relationships and does not know their own mind? I would like to argue that in many cases, this is not true. If you take ...
A. 18 September 2009: Well you would assume this because you are naive. I'm only 25 and I'm sure women older than me would feel that some of the things I do and the way I think is dumb or immature. Same with women who are considered "adults," that are only 5 years ... (read in full...)
Do men like to chase? Or do they actually like slightly aggressive women?
Q. I've been wondering this as I've read some books as well as some articles online about women basically using manipulation or playing games to keep a man interested. Simply put: men like to chase. However, I'm starting to believe it's BS, and was ...
A. 17 September 2009: Haha I'm not a guy wondering...I'm a woman. I'm just curious as to what people's opinions are on playing games. I understand that some men like to chase and some don't. But I just kind of figure that it's the immature ones that enjoy immature ... (read in full...)
Addicted to lying: how do I stop?
Q. I seem to have a problem lying. I'm a bad liar. You can totally tell when I'm lying. I want to stop and have tried multiple times but in the end I always cycle back. It's not even about big things, it could be something small like I didn't lock the ...
A. 16 September 2009: If a liar tells you he's a liar, is he lying?
Think before you speak and think of the repercussions before you tell a lie. Otherwise, nobody will ever believe a word you say, which can result in the loss of friends and/or family. Remember... (read in full...)
why hasn't he come to get his stuff yet?
Q. My boyfriend broke up a year long relationship with me two weeks ago, saying "I don't see a future with you, it's not you, it's me, still wanna be friends, blah blah blah..." So, I was upset but I'm moving on. The thing is, he's doing friendly ...
A. 16 September 2009: Hmmm...well you can choose to be "nice" or be slightly bitchy. I think you're doing good so far. His texts that he's sending probably make you think, "Why do you care?" I'm sure he's trying to make nice and not come off as a jerk that just dumped ... (read in full...)
Should I still make contact with my ex??
Q. Me and my boyfriend split up over 2 months ago now. We were together for 18 months but broke up for a variety of reasons, mainly that I saw no future in it and that he had a lot of baggage. The break up was a mutual agreement, there were no rows or ...
A. 15 September 2009: Yes, breaking all contact will definitely help the process of getting over him. You can't move on if you still talk to him daily and see him frequently. Two months is still a fairly short amount of time to get over a past relationship even without ... (read in full...)
Should I tell this new guy about the abortion I'm about to get?
Q. A little over a month ago, I had a one night stand. Unfortunately, I did not use correct judgment and we used the withdrawal method. As it turns out, I can attest it is not as effective as I'd hoped to believe. An Abortion has been scheduled for ...
A. 15 September 2009: I think that it's your business and he doesn't need to know...not necessary for him to know at all. Take care :)... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel she see's right through me...
Q. I just wish she loved me. We've been together for 7 years and have 2 children. I love her, in love with her, she isn't. It's reaching obsession point now and I'm craving affection and her love. I want to marry her but she won't marry me. I adore her ...
A. 15 September 2009: My goodness. I know this is going to sound mean, and I'm just being honest, but from what you wrote, I invision a whiny man with no emotional control, and a lack of self confidence being that the whole world revolves around this woman. I hope you ... (read in full...)
He was newly separated when we got together, and his stories to me don't mesh with what his wife tells me.
Q. dear cupid i need your help, i been with a man who is seperated for over 2 years its been a really rocky ride as he didnt tell me the seperation was fresh when i met him and i was thinking the divorce was nearly through. anyway last yaer i had a ...
A. 14 September 2009: Ugh, he's a cheat and a liar. Been there, done that. It will just continually be lies upon lies to try and cover up the other lies. He's starting to get caught in his web and I think you know what to do. His wife isn't lying. If anyone knows ... (read in full...)
My son is saying he needs his space; I love his g/f like a daughter. Is there any way I can help them stay together?
Q. My son is 23 and he has been dating a girl, also 23, for 5 years, since they both started college. I love the girl like my own daughter, she is smart, kind and patient and up until now, my son and her seemed to have had a wonderful relationship. I ...
A. 14 September 2009: Nope, nothing you can do. I think you know that he wants to experience life etc. Sometimes people don't realize what they have right in front of them until it's gone. In your eyes, she could be the greatest person, but in his...perhaps he's ... (read in full...)
My friend has changed since he started dating this girl
Q. Okay, so, about a month ago one of my best friends started dating a girl. Ever since then, he's changed: -He skips our band rehearsals. -He ignores my other best friend and I when she's around. -He skips classes. -He all of a sudden hates skat...
A. 13 September 2009: What's happening is he is allowing his whole life to be consumed in the relationship that he has with this girl. Is it smart on his part? No. She seems possessive and is threatened by you, and in turn, he's become her little robot and wants to do ... (read in full...)
He called me a hoe -- does that mean he wants us back?
Q. im 19 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years is 29. yes thats 10 years difference. what could we possibly have in common right? well he spent 10 years in prison and his state of mind is truly that of a 20 year old at this point if you ask me so we ...
A. 13 September 2009: You're right, he has the mentality of a 20-year old or younger. He called you a hoe! If my boyfriend called me a hoe he wouldn't ever hear from me again. I know you two have a child together, but as others have stated, think about your son. ... (read in full...)
I'm definite proof that nice guys finish last
Q. OK, so I've asked questions on here before, got some advice, but a year on, I'm still in exactly the same situation. I'm now 25, and still never had a date. Never had a girl say yes when I've asked her out, or don't think there's ever been a girl ...
A. 13 September 2009: No way! Nice guys finish last when you go after little girls that think they can change bad boys into nice guys. It gets old after a while, and you'll start meeting girls (especially as you age) that don't want a guy that they want to change into ... (read in full...)
Can you get infection from anal sex?
Q. hey i just need to know what would happen if my boyfriend's sperms came into my back side ... i need to know is there any infections would occour in the intestine or not .. please i need reply as soon as possible thanks...
A. 13 September 2009: Yes, if he has any infections. Anal sex is a VERY good way to contract any sort of infection. It soaks up anything in there (that's its job). If he doesn't have anything, then no, you shouldn't get any infections just from his sperm alone as long ... (read in full...)
The fight was something silly but he broke up with me and won't talk to me now!
Q. I had a big fight with my boyfriend yesterday and he broke up with me. We were yelling at each other on the phone and that's how it went. It's been 2 days now and he haven't returned any of my calls and keeps clicking the cancel button when ...
A. 13 September 2009: The way your boyfriend is acting is EXTEMELY immature. It's happened to me before and one of my friends, then out of the blue they call like nothing happened. It's even worse when there's no closure and he just decided that the relationship was ... (read in full...)
Bites? Scabies? Allergic reaction?
Q. I've recently been waking up with what looks like mosquito bites but i did a little reasearch and i think it might be a dust mite bite but there is 5 of them , I am worried. Is it an allergic reaction? Is it scabies? when i first got bitten it hurt ...
A. 12 September 2009: Well, yes of course consult your doctor...but a dust mite bite???? There are dust mites all over the place, they're crawling on your skin right now...that wouldn't be what's biting you. It could be mosquitos, or even spider bites, and there are ... (read in full...)
This is the email he sent me..does he like me , or not?
Q. Basically I Saw this boy at this convention I been through 3 days I kind of no him But I never spoke to him.He was watching me 3 days blah blah its really long yeah I had 3witnesses watching him and they said Yeah he does preety much Like me,I ...
A. 12 September 2009: I'm not trying to be rude or hurt your feelings...but how could you possibly even consider what he responded back to you as him potentially "liking" you? Sorry sweets, but no, I don't think he likes you :(... (read in full...)
What should I do with this Capricorn guy? I feel like I'm the only consistant in this relationship!
Q. I have been dating my Capricorn guy for 5 months,everything was just great at the begining and slowly he was pulling away stopped calling txting..etc, unless if i did! second he was like let us be close friends! and thats what he told me that he ...
A. 12 September 2009: What does him being a Capricorn have to do with anything? I'm a Capricorn, and typically traits of Capricorns are stability, honesty, and responsibility...all of which are not characteristics that he's showing. I think he wants out of this ... (read in full...)
I'm from Montana, and dating my fifth cousin. Does anyone know if this is illegal?
Q. i'm from montana and i found out i'm going out with my fifth cousin, is it illegal for us to be going out? or would everything be ok...
A. 12 September 2009: You can look up the laws for your state...but fifth cousin??? I'm sure you're fine. I think in most states second or third is legal.... (read in full...)
She cut me off a year ago, and I'm getting tempted to cheat.
Q. OK, so I have made a complete mess of my relationship with a woman I have been 'cohabitating' with for 23 years... I have made a complete mess with our finances (I would say mainly due to my selfishness but there are other issues involved like ...
A. 12 September 2009: The first thing you need to do is have an actual conversation with her. By what you've said...small talk and no intimacy, you two don't really have a relationship. I know that "technically" you do, but two people in a relationship don't just talk ... (read in full...)
I really like my Teaching Assistant, I googled him and we have so much in common!
Q. Hi Everyone. I have a question about whether or not to show that I like my T.A. (teacher's assistant for those of you who don't know). I am a senior in college and he is a Ph.d student. I am 23 and he is 28. (Oh, I know this because I Google...
A. 11 September 2009: If he's shy and socially awkward as you describe, then there's a chance that nothing will ever happen unless you do something. So flirting may not be the best approach in the classroom setting unless you are VERY subtle, and even in that case he ... (read in full...)
He was running hot and cold -- should I give him a second chance?
Q. After seeing the guy for 2 months and telling him I would move at the end of the summer (mere 30 min. from him) he told me: well i guess this summer fling is over. Then a week later his ex magically came into the picture. A month after that, I ran ...
A. 11 September 2009: No way. Things obviously didn't work out with his ex so now he wants you back. Don't be his second choice. Just be glad you were with him for only 2-months, so you aren't too attached and it's an easy one to get over. If he did all that within a ... (read in full...)
He is ignoring my phonecalls, is our relationship over?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over two years now. Several times during the relationship - 6 to be exact, he wouldn't take my phonecalls nor answer my texts. I would call and ask him to return my phonecalls, but he never would ...
A. 10 September 2009: I think he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He's showing you no respect and he has a past of being up to no good when this ignoring pattern starts. I think you should pull the plug on the relationship. You two have been together for a ... (read in full...)
He used to be smart and no-nonsense. Now he's a manchild.
Q. I am clueless what went wrong with this guy I dated for a year. He used to be very sensible and even if I wasn't so attracted to him, his being rational, smart and level headed made me fall in love with him thinking I found a man who is unique. He ...
A. 9 September 2009: I've been through this before with a boyfriend that I lived with. After we broke up he said he, "couldn't not have me in his life," but he would be hot and cold all the time. One day he was telling me he missed me and he messed up, then the ... (read in full...)
Ex wants to be friends after our break up but does he mean it?
Q. my boyfriend of just about 2 years broke up with me about a week ago. no matter what i do, i just can't seem to get over him. when he broke up with me, he said it was because he couldn't see himself with me in the future and because we have nothing ...
A. 9 September 2009: Definitely go with what clariss advised. You're really not going to get over your boyfriend within a week or even two, it usually takes months. Just take it day-by-day. Of course you're going to have days where you miss him more than others, it's ... (read in full...)
B/f says to delete myspace or he won't take me seriously
Q. my boyfriend tells me to delete my myspace or else his not guna take me surious!! ok my boyfriend and i have been together for about 4 years. he tells me he loves me an cares for me, and i belive him i know he does i love him too and really care. ...
A. 9 September 2009: I'm a little confused here; are you wondering if you should delete your myspace page or if you should stay with a guy who is addicted to porn, dresses in women's clothing, you think he's gay, purposely starts arguments with you, and is a meth ... (read in full...)
He wants me to contact him but wont reply to me
Q. I had a bitter ending with my ex 4 months ago. Then last saturday we met finally as a closure and acted as if we were not bitter at all. I wasn't expecting anything as it was a relief to me that finally we ended in good terms but shortly after our ...
A. 9 September 2009: Personally, I think he's playing games and wants to see if he can have you wrapped around his finger. I've noticed, it's guys that are rather immature that like to do this sort of thing. Yes, it would have been considerate of him to acknowledge ... (read in full...)
Cheating girlfriend what do I do
Q. i recently completly broke up with my son's mother that was with for about 3 years. i found out she cheated on me. i had a feeling something was going wrong with our relationship when she started going out to the bars with her single friends. i ...
A. 9 September 2009: I'm a little confused as far as you not knowing what to do. You did break up with her, correct? I think you did the right thing. She probably won't change anytime soon and anytime she goes out to do anything, it's always going to be in the back ... (read in full...)
Am I being too sensitive?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 months and this is by far the best relationship I have ever had (and that includes two failed marriages). We are very much in love. The problem is she has gone away for a skiing holiday with her girlfriends for a ...
A. 9 September 2009: No, she's not being insensitive. She went on a vacation with her friends, it's not a big deal--she went to have fun and that's what she's doing. She's not doing it because she's happy to be away from you, sometimes people need to do things with ... (read in full...)
Is it to early to ask him to move in?
Q. am in a relationship for three months i love this man..i get bad mood swings if doesnt want to sleep in my house..i live with 2 of my teenage daughter do you think it to early to ask him to move in with me....
A. 8 September 2009: I'm going to go with yes, 3-months is a bit soon to ask someone to move in with you, I think you should know him a little better before taking that leap, espcially with 2 teenage daughters.
Question though, why do you get bad mood swings if he do... (read in full...)
Should I be worried? I havn't heard from her?
Q. I havent heard from my girlfriend for almost a week when we usually talk every night. The only thing i know of what is going on is that her family member at the beginning of the week said that she left her phone at her house after watching her kids ...
A. 8 September 2009: I don't mean to disappoint you, but yes, you have a right to be worried. I think you should stop trying to contact her and wait for her to call you back. If you stop trying, she'll more than likely take the initiative to call you. Honestly, if I ... (read in full...)
Possibly miscarriage?
Q. So I've been on the pill for 3.5 months now and have regular sex without a condom. Last month, about a week and a half before my scheduled period I started spotting heavily, like almost a full on period for the full week and a half. I had skipped my ...
A. 8 September 2009: I don't think that really any of us can answer you for certain, but I know when you continue your active pills instead of the sugar pills for that week, it can make your period become very irregular for a while. As far as what came out...perhaps it ... (read in full...)
We split eight months ago. Can anyone suggest how to ease the pain?
Q. So, just to clear something up, I am female, not male. So, I am going on almost 8 months of being broken up with the guy I thought I was going to be with forever. We knew each other for a total of 10 years, we dated for 5 years, 4 of those years...
A. 3 September 2009: What sticks out to me is that you stated you have pissed him off in the span of the 8-months. I'm assuming that you were keeping in contact off and on?
I say this all the time, but the only thing that works to get over someone and ease the pain... (read in full...)
Looking for a vacation spot for singles
Q. I recently became single me and my girl friend broke up. I dont really have much time for dating, Because of Work and School. At work I have some Vacation days. Looking for a place for "single" only kinda thing. Im pretty sure there round any one ...
A. 3 September 2009: What about trips that they have involving school? Anything going on that pertains to your major like study abroad programs or certain clubs that involve going on trips that you may be interested in? I know it won't be strictly singles, but at ... (read in full...)
She texts with the ex and doesn't see it as a problem
Q. Dear all, My girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year now. Before our relationship, her ex and her met up and slept together a few times, including him cheating on his then girlfriend with my girlfriend. So I had my suspicions at th...
A. 3 September 2009: I would say no you'ren not being paranoid, given the circumstances and the past, you have a right to worry.
If she isn't going to respect the fact that it makes you uncomfortable that she is texting her ex daily, then I think you should choose t... (read in full...)
The psychiatrist recommeded meds, but my mom's against it
Q. i saw this psychyatrist because i was flunking out of grade 10 and my parents wanted to know what is wrong with me. bnasically im just depressed all the time and she wanted me to put me on meds but i said no and now months later im not any better. ...
A. 3 September 2009: Tisha, the point that I was trying to get across was why his mom may be saying "no." I know it works for a lot of people, my mom has been on antidepresents since her mothers died, and she's been waaaay better. As for my cousin, I think she's ... (read in full...)
He was obsessive about calling but now he's not calling!
Q. Alright!! i'm gonna lay it all out. Ive been dating this guy Kris for 2 months now, he is twenty seven, and I'm nineteen. We started dating and everything was good. He said he loved me like two weeks in!! Way fast but I thought hey maybe it can ...
A. 3 September 2009: It's been two days since he's called, you've only been together for 2-months, and he said the L-word 2 weeks in...he likes the number 2, I'm going with that answer.
In all seriousness, he probably has some stuff going on. Yes, you're right, h... (read in full...)
The psychiatrist recommeded meds, but my mom's against it
Q. i saw this psychyatrist because i was flunking out of grade 10 and my parents wanted to know what is wrong with me. bnasically im just depressed all the time and she wanted me to put me on meds but i said no and now months later im not any better. ...
A. 3 September 2009: Relating to Ginseng, there are a lot of side effects and addiction to such medications. Also, there is a tendency for suicidal thoughts with those types of medications. I think too many people are doped up on medication these days anyway. ... (read in full...)
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