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I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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What can I put in this resignation letter?
Q. Not really a relationship or love question, but advice is required. All i want to know is, what on earth do you put in a resignation letter. Things where i work have become unbearable, and i know i should be grateful i have a job, as so man...
A. 12 August 2009: I have to disagree with some of you. I am a supervisor for a large financial company and we had to take several courses in discrimination. It is illegal for them to retaliate against you for bringing up that you've been bullied. Don't worry about ... (read in full...)
He said there is no spark anymore...and I love him so much!! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I met in high school and have been together for almost 4 years. Since the day I met him I knew he was "the one". We've been through so much in our relationship and have come a long way. We've talked about marriage and babies and ...
A. 12 August 2009: What he really wants is for you to give him the space that he requested. Please realize that you are very young and that he may not be "the one." Especially at your age, people become curious and wonder what else is out there, and wonder what ... (read in full...)
I just want a chance to tell him how I feel...what do you think?
Q. Hey there, about two years ago I met the love of my life, my true love and at the time I didn’t realize how I felt until I let him go. Long story short I had a boyfriend for fours that treated me like crap. I broke up with my BF of 4 years to be ...
A. 12 August 2009: Well I think you're right, you don't want to put too much out there at once. I'm sure you broke his heart and he has his reservations. Given that, I think that you're going to have to let him know your emotions a piece at a time. I think you ... (read in full...)
Bad waxing experience!
Q. I just made a very bad attempt at a do it yourself bikini line kit and now feeling the side effects -didnt even work . I was wondering if the pain is really worth it? Does anyone actually find waxing off your pubes attractive? Is there any other ...
A. 12 August 2009: Ugh, yeah that can be pretty bad. I'm not a big fan of dipilatory creams, I've gotten a very bad rash (almost like a burn) from Nair "down there." I was verging on tears it hurt so bad. However, I don't think I really used it the way I should ... (read in full...)
Do I keep trying to get him or get over him? How can I get over him?
Q. Hi there,I need some help please. Well,I like this guy a lot and I've known him for almost a year now.I liked him when I first met him but I got over him real quick.Well,we both have the same friends and I get along great with his little brother a...
A. 12 August 2009: First of all, no, you don't need him. You don't need any guy to make yourself feel validated.
Second, he may just view you as a friend. Sometimes that happens. Another possibility is the nagging of his friends. They may be making him feel lik... (read in full...)
What do I do to win him back!?
Q. So me and my bf have been broken up for a week. we have had a little contact. I miss him so much and I am deeply in love with him. I dont want to sound naggy or clingy and i really dont want to beg him to get back together. So what should I do...
A. 12 August 2009: You win him back by doing absolutely nothing. I know that sounds completely opposite of what you "think" you should do, but that's the only way.
You're going to sound nagging or clingy if you call him and beg for him to take you back. People w... (read in full...)
Tickly throat problems...
Q. Gah someone help :( For about 3 days now, and ONLY at night, there has been this tickle in my throat, and a sore throat (it feels more in the back of my throat kinda) and whenever I swallow I feel like I need to cough, because it tickles. But it's ...
A. 12 August 2009: It's called an illness, go seek help from a professional.... (read in full...)
What can I put in this resignation letter?
Q. Not really a relationship or love question, but advice is required. All i want to know is, what on earth do you put in a resignation letter. Things where i work have become unbearable, and i know i should be grateful i have a job, as so man...
A. 12 August 2009: Here is one template I found, but it's regarding conflict with boss, hopefully this helps get you started:
[Your Name]
[Street Address]
[City, ST ZIP Code]
August 11, 2009
[Recipient Name]
[Title]
[Company Name]
[Street Address]
[City, ... (read in full...)
What can I put in this resignation letter?
Q. Not really a relationship or love question, but advice is required. All i want to know is, what on earth do you put in a resignation letter. Things where i work have become unbearable, and i know i should be grateful i have a job, as so man...
A. 12 August 2009: Yes, you can include things of that nature on a resignation letter. Do you use Microsoft Word? You can look up templates for letters of resignation under different categories. And like the other poster, you should take legal action. I don't know ... (read in full...)
Commitment issues?
Q. I've been dating this guy only about 4 months now. We've only known each other for about 7 months. One week after we started dating he asked me to move in with him. I was reluctant to say yes but my lease expired in a couple of weeks and I was ...
A. 12 August 2009: I'm sure you've heard of this before, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." The problem will only continue if you allow it, which you are. This guy sounds like a complete nutjob and you should definitely move on from this ... (read in full...)
I like her but I'm scared she'll reject me... help!
Q. I'm 17 years old and i fancy a friend who is 15 and i am frightened to tell her what i think in case she rejects me due to our age and in case she doesnt fancy me back (however i think she does)...
A. 12 August 2009: When it comes to dating, there's always a possibility of rejection; unfortunately, that's the chance you have to take. Just be yourself, be confident, and if she says no then just respect her answer and move on. I'm sure it's scary, but just think ... (read in full...)
I've had my period but could I still be pregnant?
Q. Hi, im 16 and lost my virginity on july 8th, I had sex 3 times that day WITH condoms, my period was suposed to be on july 16 or 17th. Its was 10 days late. My period came on july 27th and was only 3 days long and very heavy. In JUNE before I lost m...
A. 12 August 2009: There's always a chance that you could be pregnant. However, you did get your period so I'm sure you're ok. Since it was irregular, you should definitely see a doctor. Also, the only answer you can get is if you take a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend refuses to show bikini
Q. Hello, me and my girlfriend have been going out for a few years now. However now that college has come around, I am living in my dorm room. She told me that she was going to go swimming at the ocean today, and said she had a new bikini. I asked ...
A. 12 August 2009: No, you have nothing to worry about. She probably wanted to enjoy herself at the beach and not worry about sending you a picture that she may think you'll end up analyzing or showing to someone else. There's really no meaning behind it.... (read in full...)
Harrassment!
Q. Why is my so called ex-boyfriend harrassing me after accusing me of things which were wrong about me and he had to apologise, so then i let him know i had seen his facebook account and the reason he would not add me(other women and ex girlfriends) ...
A. 12 August 2009: Regardless if he could possibly "want" you, he's acting like a child. If you show him that it makes you angry or if you acknowledge him at all, he will continue to act like a complete jackass. Ignore him and move on, he will stop eventually when ... (read in full...)
Go with my ex or stay with my current?
Q. I'll try to make this long story short. I'm 31 years old. I was with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years before he got a great job 2,000 miles away. I moved to the job location for him. We ended up having a lot of problems and he left me. That was in ...
A. 11 August 2009: Get over your ex, he's your ex for a reason and he left you. Of course he's going to say things like that to get you back. He should have known that he wanted to marry you the first time around, instead he had to crush your heart to pieces; ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he cheated on me?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for three and a half years and i got tested for s.t.d.s two years ago and was clean. Now I just got chlamadia and he's the only guy I've been with. Does that mean he cheated on me?...
A. 11 August 2009: Hmm..yeah..sorry. Confront him, don't give him any slack, let him know he's dirty, sleeps with girls with diseases, and he's passed them on to you. Tell him it was a nice parting gift and your gift to him is to stay out of your life, forever.... (read in full...)
Why would a man tell you he wants to see only you and then cut off communication?
Q. I was dating this man for a few months. Everything was going well. We had met families and our children had become close. Then I had a feeling things weren't quite right. Like he sometimes wouldnt return texts or calls etc. So I comfronted him and ...
A. 11 August 2009: I'm sure he's just as confused as you are, and unfortunately, I think some men just don't know how to communicate. There could be several things, but I think you would know him well enough to try and decide for yourself since none of us (or you) ... (read in full...)
Just out of a bad relationship and this other guy wants to date me. How do I tell him...I'm not ready!!
Q. I just got out of a tumultuous relationship with my child's father. I don't want to be in another relationship right away. I just want to hang out, mostly by myself, go back to school, take care of my girls and just get a grip on life. But my ...
A. 10 August 2009: I think over dinner would be a good time to lay it all out for him. Let him know a little about the last relationship and right now you need to focus on yourself and your girls. If you were to get into a relationship with him, you wouldn't be able ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex bf making contact after five months?
Q. So I dated this guy I was totally crazy about for three or four months. We broke up because he "wouldn't commit" because he claimed he was too busy and felt like he shouldn't get involved in something serious because he will need to move to complete ...
A. 10 August 2009: Well if you still have feelings for him and he did treat you well in this "relationship" you two previously had, then I would take it very slow. He's obviously still thinking about you and probably interested in you. Seeing you probably gave him ... (read in full...)
One week he wants me to never leave him, the next he ignores me, then he loves me,the next ignores me...??
Q. I need advice or I might do the wrong thing..I met the perfect guy in Sept 08, he was engaged and has a 7yr old boy from another relationship.He always turned to me for help since the engagement wasnt going well and they used to fight a lot.He left ...
A. 10 August 2009: Yes, I've put up with this crap before...and really, it'll never get anywhere. It's very stressful and really just pointless. It's a stupid game because of his lack of maturity. Try out what Iamsoconfused suggested, but expect it to happen again. ... (read in full...)
Why does a guy who thinks you're great keep backing off?
Q. Why does a guy who thinks you're great keep backing off? I've been seeing this guy for 3 or 4 months now and we really don't know each other that well still. We can go for over a week without speaking (I don't like to contact him twice in a row ...
A. 10 August 2009: It seems to me that he probably isn't looking for anything serious. Could be various reasons, but you may have a commitmentphobe on your hands. When a guy wants a relationship with you, he'll want to know everything about you and make every ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has started acting completely differently with me..
Q. hiya, The guy im seeing doesnt do anything nice for me anymore, he talks to me like im stupid and makes me feel like shit. Most times we make plans he chnages them and everything seems to be ok only if it suits him. He wants sex but hardly...
A. 10 August 2009: Obviously you know his behavior is unacceptable. What do you want to do? He's being very selfish and disrepectful to you. You don't want someone like that. He sounds very immature and it's going to be a looong time before he will ever change. ... (read in full...)
Do you think she knows he's cheating on her with me?
Q. I'm 18 and he's 40 and married, and we have been seeing each other for about 2 and a half months. We usually have sex in his car or a hotel room. Once after we had sex in his car his wife said she could smell perfume, but he said it was his mums ...
A. 10 August 2009: She probably doesn't know about you I'm guessing? Do you know her personally, are you already a family friend? Obviously she knows he's up to something. She's smelled the perfume and is questioning his whereabouts, she knows something is up. ... (read in full...)
Her severe mood swings are bringing ME down. Ideas on how to deal with this better?
Q. Hello, I need some help on how to deal with somebody who has mood swings. There's this girl who I have feelings for. She has also told me she has feelings for me. She also keeps telling me how nice I am to her and how great I am for dealing with her ...
A. 10 August 2009: Yeah, birth control pills can do it. But it seems like there might be some underlying issue if her mood swings are really THAT bad. Perhaps she does have a disorder, or maybe her body doesn't agree with the type of birth control pill that she is ... (read in full...)
A young, healthy female and I have a chin hair! Where is this coming from?
Q. I am twenty-two years old, and a female, and I just got my first? blonde curly chin hair today. I have not been diagnosed as a diabetic, and I exercise everyday. I jog on some days, and walk on others. I know that there are many methods for removal, ...
A. 9 August 2009: Haha! Was it just one? It's happened to me and I think most of my girlfriends. It's just some weird mutant hair. I have dark hair and it was a long blonde hair underneath my chin. I pulled it out and it never grew back again. It happens, I ... (read in full...)
Her severe mood swings are bringing ME down. Ideas on how to deal with this better?
Q. Hello, I need some help on how to deal with somebody who has mood swings. There's this girl who I have feelings for. She has also told me she has feelings for me. She also keeps telling me how nice I am to her and how great I am for dealing with her ...
A. 9 August 2009: Does she do anything to help herself? You can stand by her side for only so long when you're constantly getting put down and feel like you're being treated like crap.
If she's having these on again, off again mood swings and it's affectin... (read in full...)
I feel like I've got nothing to show for my teen years! How can I change this?
Q. In a few months i'm going to be 17, and i just can't shake the feeling that i have wasted the prime of my teen years. I've only ever had a gf for like 2 months, only kissed one girl, have barely been to any parties or stuff like that. I go out like ...
A. 9 August 2009: Seriously, don't even worry about your teen years. Be glad that you didn't spend all of it in a relationship with someone. Your prime is in your 20's. Don't worry, you have plenty of time for all that stuff. When you look back, your teen years ... (read in full...)
Want to move on, but don't understand why he left me, please help?
Q. i just get over him, he loved me but he left me without any good reason... i dont understand why is he doing this? dont know why he is being so horrible?...
A. 9 August 2009: Truth be told, we don't know either. It happens to a lot of people, it's happened to me before. Just poof, gone...being rude for no reason with no explanation. It happens, but you just have to keep your mind busy and put yourself out there to ... (read in full...)
Period trouble..is there something wrong with me?
Q. okay so I had my period about 3 weeks ago it goes away in about a week so its been at least 2 weeks since I finished it . I went to my dr the day I finished and I started using the birth control patch but I took the 1st one off cause I got paranoid ...
A. 8 August 2009: Yes, because like satindesire said, your hormone levels are fluctuating. When you are on the birth control pill, if you continue to take your pills everyday but then skip a few days, you'll usually start your period, even if you're not finished ... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship and now, he doesn't text me back! What can I do?
Q. I met a guy and we dated for about 3 weeks. We both felt a great connection and really liked each other. We do not live near each other, so we talked over text message when I had to return home. At first the texts were very nice and sweet and said ...
A. 8 August 2009: Quit texting him. Let him be the one to initiate EVERY TIME for a while and see how it goes.... (read in full...)
My gorgeous gf gets hit on by other guys and she hates it. How can we deal with this?
Q. Hi Aunts, My Problem isn't really a big one but its driving me mad!My Girlfriend is super attractive Shes 5 11' skinny long brown hair she could pass as a model.Thats not the problem though the problem is every where we go shes constant...
A. 8 August 2009: Oh boo hoo. She's one of those girls that just hates being pretty. If only she were ugly or at least average and people would just leave her alone!
Seriously, she should enjoy it now because when she's old it's not going to happen like it used ... (read in full...)
Should I have a threesome with my best friend?
Q. so my bestie is like 25 and he has a booty call gurl shes 21 and bi iam 19 and bi so my firen well we were kindda dating when i was 15. hes gurl likes me and i like her shes koo but not like immma steal her from him but they bot...
A. 7 August 2009: It sounds like you don't really want to do it with them and that you're uncomfortable. Feelings like that at all, you should pass.... (read in full...)
How can I tell her the truth about how many people I slept with, without losing her?
Q. I have told my girlfriend that I only slept with 5 people as she has only slept with 4. I did this at the start of the relationship. Last night she asked me again for the names of the people but I could not remember who I had told her as my f...
A. 7 August 2009: Are you being serious? You're somewhere between the age of 13-15 and you've slept with 35 people???? I find that really hard to believe, but ok. First of all, in relationships, it's usually best to not discuss the number of partners that you've ... (read in full...)
I am very concerned about a problem with my period
Q. Hi and thanks for reading, you don't know how scared i am at the point of trembling as i type these words. The truth is my period started when i was 11 (about 9 years ago) but since about nine months or so i haven't had a single regular one. Sin...
A. 7 August 2009: Well since your hormones are out of whack...perhaps you're starting an early menopause? Typically, when women start menopause they grow more hair because their hormone levels are off since they aren't producing estrogen like they used to. I've ... (read in full...)
How can I have sex with him without his GF knowing
Q. I have this best friend to wants me to have sex with him nd give him blow jobs . but he has a qirlfriend nd I feel very uncomfortable with it . so wat can I do to actually give him the sex he wants with out his girlfriend findinq out. ?...
A. 7 August 2009: You're actually considering this? You want us to give you tips on how to give this dude bj's and have sex with him without his gf finding out? Don't do it. You're only showing him and yourself your lack of self respect, not to mention the ... (read in full...)
Why do people in relationships play these games?!
Q. Games! Why do people in relationships play these games?! My bf has weird phrases that he uses and I don't know if he means them or not. Like when we argue, he'll say something like "I honestly don't think this is going to work out anymore.." and ...
A. 7 August 2009: If you don't want him to play games then you shouldn't either. If he's going to to say that he thinks you two should break up but doesn't mean it, you can either really "walk" or play his game. So option one when he says that you can leave and not ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should just scrap the idea of going to visit him?
Q. Hi Cupids, I have just started sort of seeing a guy. We became friends very quickly and ended up in bed very quickly too. I thought it might just be a one off thing, but we both felt this incredible connection and like we'd been together forever....
A. 7 August 2009: I would suggest that you don't make any plans and that if he wants to see you, he can make the arrangements, pay for at least half of the tickets and for wherever you guys will stay. Guys can put their emotions aside unlike women. So being that ... (read in full...)
Why am I never happy... and so clingy?!
Q. Why am I not happy in my relationship sometimes? I love him so much, this I know; but when he goes out with his friends, or goes on trips without me, I get mad at him. I don't know why I'm like this. I get so bothered if he even mentions the idea of ...
A. 7 August 2009: I think you're handling him "breaking up" with you very well. I think you should leave it as it is. Don't call him/text/email, whatever while he's on vacation. When he gets back and notices that he hasn't heard a peep from you he'll call you. ... (read in full...)
Could I become pregnant so soon after stopping the pill?
Q. I Was on the Yaz pill for 2 months straight, I started to take my 3rd pack but in the first week I stopped because they were causing horrible migraines. My period came 6 days later like it normally does because my cycles are regular. Well 2 weeks ...
A. 7 August 2009: You were off your pills for 3-weeks and you're not sure if you can get pregnant?!? You can get pregnant ON the pill...it's not 100% effective...c'mon now. ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to be 34 and be strictly platonic friends with a 15 year old girl?
Q. I know that guys in their mid-30's shouldn't really be friends with teenagers (especially girls), but one of my friends has a 15-year-old daughter who really wants to be my friend. I think she is really awesome and I would like to be her friend ...
A. 7 August 2009: Ok, I'm not trying to sound rude here: but what do you have in common with a 15 year old girl?! I'm 25 and don't want to have a friend that's 15! So that we can talk about celebrity obsessions and whether or not we should pop zits together? I ... (read in full...)
Whenever I express my expectation to her she gets mad!
Q. Girls, what all do you do in a relationship to make things happy and strong between you and your partner. I mean EVERYTHING..from getting up in the morning to the time you go to bed. I am in a relationship for past 14 months and I love her a lot and ...
A. 7 August 2009: If she's getting mad at you literally over nothing, then she sounds like she has some psychological issues. Could be that she is still scarred from her previous marriage and nitpicks and points out anything and everything as if it's a sign that ... (read in full...)
Why am I never happy... and so clingy?!
Q. Why am I not happy in my relationship sometimes? I love him so much, this I know; but when he goes out with his friends, or goes on trips without me, I get mad at him. I don't know why I'm like this. I get so bothered if he even mentions the idea of ...
A. 7 August 2009: Where are your friends? Do you ever go out with them? If he does it A LOT and you're not invited, I could imagine feeling left out. But it's good to have friendships outside of your relationship. Your life and happiness shouldn't be based on ... (read in full...)
Whenever I express my expectation to her she gets mad!
Q. Girls, what all do you do in a relationship to make things happy and strong between you and your partner. I mean EVERYTHING..from getting up in the morning to the time you go to bed. I am in a relationship for past 14 months and I love her a lot and ...
A. 6 August 2009: This is why everyone that gave you a response would assume that you compare her to your sister-in-law from your post that I'm about to copy and paste: "...for example i tell her how caring my sis-in-law is for my brother ..how she takes care of him ... (read in full...)
Whenever I express my expectation to her she gets mad!
Q. Girls, what all do you do in a relationship to make things happy and strong between you and your partner. I mean EVERYTHING..from getting up in the morning to the time you go to bed. I am in a relationship for past 14 months and I love her a lot and ...
A. 6 August 2009: Like the others said, you're comparing her to your sister-in-law, and that's not cool. So yes, when your brother calls she's probably annoyed and figures that you two are going to talk about how great his wife is and how obedient she is. ... (read in full...)
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