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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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I already know he's a womanizer. Should I go for it?
Q. I am in a relationship with a divorced man who is well educated. I love him and had sex with him. Recently he has been saying about his past relationships and it appears that he had sex with two other women when he was married just because he had a ...
A. 26 October 2009: So he's using you for emotional support...okay? So in other words, he always needs a woman to make him feel better about himself. You can't make him change (I know you're not trying to), he can only change on his own because he wants to. I don't ... (read in full...)
I already know he's a womanizer. Should I go for it?
Q. I am in a relationship with a divorced man who is well educated. I love him and had sex with him. Recently he has been saying about his past relationships and it appears that he had sex with two other women when he was married just because he had a ...
A. 26 October 2009: I think that you'll just end up hurt in the end. No relationship is perfect, so of course people end up getting into disagreements; therefore, if you two get into an argument he thinks that it's a justifiable reason to sleep with some other woman. ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to admit his feelings?
Q. Okay. I'll try to make this short and quick. I've liked this one guy for way too long and I just want us to date already. We are really good friends and I don't see how we can't be really great as boyfriend and girlfriend. There have been times when ...
A. 25 October 2009: Just gather up the courage to tell him that you think you would make a good couple and why. I've discovered that guys only seems to get freaked out or run away if they don't feel the same way about you (it's the same with girls). So if he does ... (read in full...)
How can I unborn a baby?
Q. how can i unborn a baby i am 2 month of pregnat and if i tellmy dad he willkilll me and send him to jell i dient know i was pregnat me and him was pretecting are self but i dont know what happing and when plz help me dont tell me to go to a clinic ...
A. 25 October 2009: Unborn a baby? Do you mean abort a baby? You don't want us to tell you tell your dad, and you don't want us to tell you to go to a clinic--what answer are you looking for, because those are your only 2 options. You can't magically make things ... (read in full...)
"I can't have a relationship with you right now". What does that mean?
Q. What does it mean when a guy says I cant have a relationship with you right now, because I have trust issues and everything Ive been through? He says that doesn't mean a year down the road that he wouldn't want a relationship with me, because he ...
A. 25 October 2009: It means exactly what he said. And like others have said, if you're willing to be his bootycall or FWB, then that's fine by him, but he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship with you. Depending on how he feels, he may or may not want a ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get engaged so quickly?
Q. Hi. I have a relationship question. My ex and I dated for 5 years. We were in love with each other, and he was ready to get married. I constantly told him that I wanted to marry him, but I just wasn't ready to get married by the time I was 23. When ...
A. 25 October 2009: Yes, I would say within a year is perfectly normal. His reasoning for it may not be though. I can give you something that isn't normal that happened to me to make you feel a little better: after my ex disappeared because he was too much of a ... (read in full...)
Girls, how would you react if your partner had a 3 inch penis?
Q. I'm wondering for myself since mine is about 3.5 inches in length and 4 inches around - when it's erect. Both sizes of which are well under average. I'm not sexually active but I'm worried that when I get to that point, I won't be able to satisfy ...
A. 25 October 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/girls--should-i-be-worried-about-my.html... (read in full...)
If he ejaculates quickly does that mean he is cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and i use to be sexual active but no longer... Well if we do.. he ejaculate very quickly (in seconds). I kno he feels back but i always told him it was alright. Dont worry its not a big deal, it can be fixed. I just love him so much ...
A. 25 October 2009: Ummm...ejaculating quickly would normally mean that he's not getting any...... (read in full...)
What is this white gunky stuff?
Q. ok i have seen other people ask but the anwsers were stupid and from people who just don't know??? i have been having during sex this white clumpy/gummy stuff coming from my vagina?? there is no odor and i have never seen this before?? any doctor or ...
A. 24 October 2009: Crazy idea...you could go SEE a doctor and quit guessing and asking people who can't diagnose you on a website. If you have an STD it can cause you to be sterile. Chlamydia may or may not have an odor and abnormal discharge...it could be anything. ... (read in full...)
Girls: should I be worried about my small size?
Q. I myself have a smallish penis that's around 3 inches long and 4 inches around... Now I haven't had sex before, but I've read that the size makes a big difference to the girl. Should I be worried about my small size?...
A. 24 October 2009: I'm not going to lie or try and claim that only shallow women or women that are "sluts" like larger penises. I am a woman and have many female friends (we aren't shallow or sluts), I nor have anyone of my other friends ever asked each other, "So ... (read in full...)
Is it supposed to be this hard to hang out with her?
Q. I met this girl a while back on a movie set we were both production assistants. Well we chatted during the downtime for about 2 hours. she was really cute and cool. Well, after hitting it off with her i felt bad cuz she was leaving for Tanzania for ...
A. 23 October 2009: Okay...after you said that, she's more than likely not interested. If that's not the case then she needs to live a little. All I'm saying is that if a guy that I was definitely interested in asked me to the movies or a concert, regardless if I ... (read in full...)
Is it supposed to be this hard to hang out with her?
Q. I met this girl a while back on a movie set we were both production assistants. Well we chatted during the downtime for about 2 hours. she was really cute and cool. Well, after hitting it off with her i felt bad cuz she was leaving for Tanzania for ...
A. 23 October 2009: This could also give you your answer: when you ask her out, does she say she's busy on the night you ask her out BUT she can do it another night? If she's just giving you a "No, sorry I'm busy" answer, then she's not interested. If it's a, "No, ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone associate being lonely not having confidence?
Q. My question is why does everyone associate being lonely not having confidence? I think that I am a lonely person, but I have plenty of confidence. My issue is just that I cant get anyone. I have a high IQ im athletic, I have 3 businesses, I...
A. 23 October 2009: It's natural to feel lonely. No worries, it can only take away from your confidence if you let it. But everyone gets lonely from time to time, it doesn't mean that they have no self confidence.
There's plenty of people that are confiden... (read in full...)
Ok to cheat on him to get pregnant and then tell him its his?
Q. I have been with my bf for 2 years and love him to def! Now... we have been trying to have a baby the last 6 months with no success. I know it is not ME with any issues because I have had 2 pregnancies before and got pregnant RIGHT away. I ...
A. 23 October 2009: Just because you've had 2 pregnancies before doesn't mean that there isn't anything wrong with you. I've known plenty of guys that chain smoke and jerk off and get women pregnant just fine (okay, I'm assuming the jerk off part but whatever).
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Why is he ignoring me?
Q. This is ridiculous but I've been ocassionally sending txts to my ex - wishing him well.Last time we spoke we had a huge arguement and he said he was going M.I.A. for awhile. (he went from adoring/infatuation w/ me to in a flip of a switch,want...
A. 23 October 2009: This probably isn't the answer that you're looking for, but I'm going to be blunt: he's ignoring you because he's a douche. Don't worry about him because he's not worrying about you. The end.... (read in full...)
I'm stuck, my boyfriends birthday is soon and I don't know what to get.
Q. Hey guys, Ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for two months now, and his 15th birthday is in November. I havent really asked him what he wants for his birthday because I want to suprise him. So my question is, what should I get him...
A. 23 October 2009: Hmm..guys in general are hard to shop for. They like things that they can use. You don't need to get him anything expensive--especially since you two are young and only been together for 2-months, definitely don't go all out.
If he likes a ... (read in full...)
First he rejects me, now this. I'm confused, is he playing games with me?
Q. Ok so this guy knows I like him, I asked him out like 6 months ago and he rejected it by saying its because he doesn't really know me, but he showed signs of interest before so thats how I went to ask him out. Now that fall quarter has started he's...
A. 22 October 2009: He sounds like a child--do you really want to hang out with a manchild? Probably not. It sounds like he likes getting your attention and when he has it, he disappears.
I'm sure when you asked him out it got his attention (even though he did decl... (read in full...)
Did I make the right move by backing off?
Q. so i meet this guy six months ago, we had a lot of fun together, no fights at all. His old girlfriends parents see us out together, so she begins to call him! so im sure now he has mixed feelings. They dated on and off for years, one sided from him, ...
A. 22 October 2009: That certainly is drama that you don't need--it sounds like his ex has some issues! I agree that you need to talk to him about it before backing off completely. If she's calling him but he's not responding to her because he's with you and wants ... (read in full...)
What kind of flowers and stuff for homecoming?
Q. I need help, again. I need ideas on what color and wat kind of flowers to get for the corsage for homecoming. She is wearing a purple dress(like a normal purple, like the kind markers are) And also, what does the guy wear ? A cordage tooo or what is ...
A. 22 October 2009: Listen, girls like to be surprised. They like the thought that you picked out something that you thought that she would like. It doesn't matter what it is, she will like it. Flowers are always pretty, so it won't be ugly. Go with colors that are ... (read in full...)
I like my sister in law in a sexual way! Please help!
Q. this is about my sister in law. we are quite friendly. we used to talk many things and are free to talk anything. first place i love her as my sister and i have respect for her. she is elder to my wife and me. many times i saw that she kind of expos...
A. 22 October 2009: Are you the same guy that wants to do your aunt that is supposidly always showing her boobs to you too? I agree, leave her alone, you're married.... (read in full...)
What kind of flowers and stuff for homecoming?
Q. I need help, again. I need ideas on what color and wat kind of flowers to get for the corsage for homecoming. She is wearing a purple dress(like a normal purple, like the kind markers are) And also, what does the guy wear ? A cordage tooo or what is ...
A. 22 October 2009: Boutinerre (sp) for guys. Ask the florist that's putting it together, they can help you.... (read in full...)
I wanna lose weight... fast.
Q. I wanna lose weight... fast. What is a way I can lose a lot of body fat and tone my body up fast?...
A. 22 October 2009: Protein and vegetables. I don't suggest fruits because of sugar...for two weeks eleminate sugars, breads, pastas, and rice. Drink a lot of water and work out (but don't overdo it). You will lose weight fast, but it is a diet and something you ... (read in full...)
I am 22 he is 35, what do you think?
Q. Hey there it is me again, so being 22 i am thinking about dating a guy that is 35, do u think the age difference is to much? i am just tired of all the immature jerks that i have dated in the pass, they have cheated on me, lied and used me ...
A. 22 October 2009: No, I don't think he's too old. But like lena mentioned--just because he's older doesn't necessarily mean that he is more mature. Sadly, some men never grow up. But good luck with him, hopefully he's what you've been looking for.... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant if I forgot to take the pill?
Q. Hello, i had unprotected sex a week yesterday (13th) and i forgot to take two pills (contraceptive pill), today i have been getting small craps and little heartburn and i felt sick and faintish this morning, im due on my period in 9days. Also when i ...
A. 22 October 2009: Yes. And take a test if you miss your period. If you keep forgetting to take your pill get something else...the patch or a shot, the ring, condoms, anything! Or don't have sex. Although everyone is different, if you got pregnant a week ago you ... (read in full...)
He cut me off suddenly....what did I do wrong?
Q. he cut me off and i just dont know what i did wrong.. I dated this guy for a month,we always had a good time toghether and he said so himself, we were double dating alot with his friend and my friend which are now b/f and g/f...he was aff...
A. 21 October 2009: *Sigh* believe it or not, I've heard that sometimes guys will back off if you're not having sex with them. Spending the night and cuddling with him maybe have been far less than what he wanted. I'm not saying that in the future you should "give it ... (read in full...)
What does "exclusive" mean while dating?
Q. I started dating this guy and it was funny when he said we were exclusively but now i feel dumb cuz i dont know what exclusively means. help me?...
A. 21 October 2009: You can be exclusive and exclusively dating--it means not dating anyone else but each other. Wow.... (read in full...)
What if I refuse to divorce?
Q. here is a dumb question. I still love my wife and i know she still loves me but she has alot of pride. I want to save our marige but i dont know how. Ive tried convincing her to go to counsling with me but she refuses. What would happen if i ...
A. 15 October 2009: Yes, I think it also depends on the state. But regardless if you sign or not, the judge can still grant it in some states.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to talk me, why is he being so distant...
Q. I met this guy at a festival and we swapped msn's. He lives about 2 hours away and im going to uni next year so il be near him. Nothing happened between us, like not even kissed, but when we met we got on really well and we liked each other. The...
A. 14 October 2009: Since we don't know what's going on in his life, we can't give you an answer as to why he isn't bothering to keep in touch with you.
Guys seem to do this sort of thing all the time. I know women do too, I don't know if women just do it less or ... (read in full...)
How is possible to make money by having an information website on a specific country?
Q. I maybe be dumb!, but I do have a question. How is possible to make money by having an informationa website on a specific country? My bf is saying he will make good $ by puting this website with info of the country we live in. He is a foreigner a...
A. 14 October 2009: Umm, you may have better luck getting advice from an entreprenuer site. However, making money by having a website about your country...I don't see that as very profitable unless you can get sponsors where you'll have ads and whatnot on your page ... (read in full...)
Do you think my husband has noticed she is gorgeous?
Q. My husband and I are friends with another couple. He and the other guy hang out a lot but I know my husband and the guy's wife get along well, too. Problem is she is GORGEOUS. Like model-gorgeous. Fairly lean, big boobs, good legs and butt, clear ...
A. 14 October 2009: I'm going to take a guess here, but if YOU noticed she's gorgeous, then I'm pretty positive that he has.
Guys are going to look--as women will too. If I see a handsome guy, sure I like to look at him or even think maybe he's paying some sort of ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get pregnant a week after your period?
Q. Hi! I have a question for all you women I try searching for the answers to my question and couldn't find anything that was helpful enough. Hope yall can help me. I would greatly appreciated....ok so the week after my menstrual period I had sex with ...
A. 14 October 2009: Yes, it is possible. I know from experience.... (read in full...)
Is playing hard to get a good thing?
Q. ok what does a guy mean when he says "your playing hard to get"?is that a good thing?...
A. 14 October 2009: When he's calling you out on it, no, it's not a good thing. He's getting mixed signals from you and isn't sure what to think. Obviously he likes you if he's sticking around and telling you how he feels. So from my experience, when a guy starts ... (read in full...)
How do I warn other girls my ex has Chlamydia?
Q. An ex passed an STD onto me last April and has recently told me he didn't get treated. Mainly because he knows that it makes men and women infertile and no-one can say he's got them pregnant. Obviously I'm not with him anymore and I have a dut...
A. 13 October 2009: Let me get this right...he doesn't want to get treated so he can be infertile or make women infertile so he won't have children running around? What the hell? I hope I'm reading that correctly. I don't think you'll be able to find out who the ... (read in full...)
Room mate is a male whore! Should I rat him out?
Q. My roommate will screw anything that isn't moving, which is why our cat never lies down. Right now he is juggling 4 girlfriends and yesterday a new girl showed up and he had sex with her too, only he said she wasn't a girlfriend. That makes 5 ...
A. 13 October 2009: Unless they have sex with him every single day--they are probably not going to assume anything or will even be in denial. No woman wants to think that before she came over he was screwing someone else, I think most women want to assume that he ... (read in full...)
Room mate is a male whore! Should I rat him out?
Q. My roommate will screw anything that isn't moving, which is why our cat never lies down. Right now he is juggling 4 girlfriends and yesterday a new girl showed up and he had sex with her too, only he said she wasn't a girlfriend. That makes 5 ...
A. 13 October 2009: Yeah, I also forgot to mention diseases like anonymous mentioned. It's seriously sick, I also was disturbed reading your question. If your roommate doesn't have something already--he will.... (read in full...)
Room mate is a male whore! Should I rat him out?
Q. My roommate will screw anything that isn't moving, which is why our cat never lies down. Right now he is juggling 4 girlfriends and yesterday a new girl showed up and he had sex with her too, only he said she wasn't a girlfriend. That makes 5 ...
A. 13 October 2009: I disagree. Girls don't always know what a guy is up to...she doesn't know that he screwed 3 chicks before her that same day without a condom and without a shower (seriously disgusting)! Just because a girl is having a fling with a guy does not ... (read in full...)
Her actions concern me..should they?
Q. Am I wrong to be concerned about her actions? How can I gain the strength to walk away? Am I the problem? I am struggling with making the move and saying how I really feel and my gf is pushing to try to get me to buy a bigger place so that we...
A. 13 October 2009: Before you made this statement, "It seems she has made a decision with her head that a life with me, where I work and provide a home, a child, and enable her to pursue her creativity is a better choice than being alone or searching for someone she ... (read in full...)
Am I gay (honest opinions only)?
Q. i'm a 27 year old and have been thinking bout men since i was 17. it started as a little bit here and there like one day think about men the next i think about women. i had a sense of guilt when i masturbate thinking bout men when i blow. at the age ...
A. 13 October 2009: Not to be just blunt or give you a superficial answer to your question, I know someone would want to definte themself more so than by a dictionary definition. But according to the Meriam-Webster dictionary a homosexual is:
1 : of, relating... (read in full...)
How do I control him and get him to not listen to his family?
Q. Hi everyone! I need help for my relationship with my boyfriend who I date 2years now. We've move to his home town 2months ago and now I came back to Arizona because he been listen to his family. He take advice from them and fight with me.Especially ...
A. 13 October 2009: If you want to control someone all you have to do is read biographies on Hitler or Stalin...I'm sure they can give you good tips on how to control a person or even a mass of people!
In all seriousness you can't control someone. You shouldn'... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can get the truth without looking crazy?
Q. I had just read an article where someone was mentioning that 30% of brothers and sister experiment on each other. My girlfriend was very close with her half-brother who was about 5-6 years older than her. They had went though very though times and ...
A. 13 October 2009: First off, I would like to know where this article you read was posted at, second it's not even half, and third who were these people that they were even asking? Just because she's good at oral doesn't mean that she's been practicing on her ... (read in full...)
Do bad boys every change?
Q. Do u think bad boys ever change? What do u class as a bad boy? Im hooked on this man who i have had an on/off relationship with 4 3 years! He always let me down. Put his mates first. Sleep with lots of woman b4 i met him. And continued to when were ...
A. 12 October 2009: I wasted a good year on a guy exactly like that and no, they don't change. Even after I moved he'd still try to come back into my life saying things like, "it's different this time," "I've realized what I lost," "I want to change and be a better ... (read in full...)
What do good guys look for in a girl?
Q. How do I attract good guys, I dont know what I am doing but I always seem to attract bad guys. Lots of people think that I want bad guys but the truth is I dont notice their bad behavior til later on and I do leave always. So my question is if I did ...
A. 12 October 2009: The only way you find out is by getting to know them. I think it's true that a lot of has to do with who you are attracting. Sometimes we don't realize who we are attracting, then we figure out it's a bad guy after we get in deep enough and are ... (read in full...)
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