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writes:I was in a relationship for 7 months (long distance but we managed to spend at least half that time together in person). He was very into me and actually told me he loved me and that he thought I was the one. I was taking it more slowly because i was just getting out of a long relationship but I did like him very much. But he always complained that he wanted to hear the words that I like him more often. Due to some circumstances, I had to spend a few days at my ex and I explained my bf why and, although he didnt like the idea, he was ok with it. He just said that he didnt think we should talk during that time. So we agreed we wouldn't. But a few days into it, I saw that he tried to call me and sent me a text that said "What's going on". I was surprised so I emailed him back but the email came back to me. Tried again and it came back again. So I texted him telling him what happened and asking if hes having email issues. No response. I tried sending with a different email and it didn't come back. I am suspecting he actually blocked my email address. He also blocked me on skype, which we used everyday to talk to each other. it's been a month and I haven't heard back from him. He blocked me with no explanation. First I was upset because of how immature that was and it probably was a bad sign (we were discussing moving to be together). But now I am missing him but don't know what to do. I am scared that recontacting him will bring back truckloads of issues. Yet I am still not sure what happened.He's 40 and I am 30.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): he is not IMMATURE, you are. you expect to live at your ex's and think nothing of it. this guy has feelings and you know he did not want you to go back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): Its over - you made a mistake and he does not look like he is ready to forgive you. If you want closure write/email him and explain yourself - but make that the last contact if he does not respond - You need to move on without him.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (20 August 2009):
I have to agree with icelordess. I read the headline and thought right away that it was a test. The way he went about it, yeah it is very immature. But really, put yourself in his shoes.
How would you feel if he rang you up to tell you that he was going to be staying with his ex for x-amount of time; at this point you would probably be pissed and be thinking to yourself, "What the hell is he thinking? Staying at his ex's? He screwed her once he'll screw her again!" So, you go ahead and say, "Okay" because you don't really want to make a huge deal about it, afterall, you want to be trusting, but you're still pissed and you tell him that you don't want to talk during that period of time, and he fully agrees to it, "Sure, no problem. We don't have to talk at all while I'm at my ex's. Even better because we can get it on without any interruptions!"
Obviously, I'm exaggerating slightly to try to help get an idea of what I would at least think, and I'm not implying that that is what you were doing either. But do you kind of see how that would have been a problem? Try again and see if you can get through to him, and hopefully he'll be more of an adult and have a conversation with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): I am the original poster. I don't think it was a test because the last text I got from him before leaving was "Love you, I'll miss you. Hope you come to visit me soon" Plus he knew what the situation was and why I was going to my ex's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): Why did you stay at your ex’s. Unless there is a valid reason that could not be avoided, but I don think I could think of one then I am afraid I think it is over between you two.
Would you like it if he stayed at his ex’s?
Be honest with yourself also. Why would you want to stay at an ex’s if there was no feelings there. An ex is an ex for a reason.
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