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writes:hello, i am a 14 year old girl going into eight grade.this is the grade where girls start to give hand jobs. I am just unsure of what i should do if this comes upon me, and how it will come upon me.will he most likely ask me to do it, or will it be in the moment???also, if he asks me to give him head also, what should i do.i dont want to hear the "your too young to be doing this" stuff, because although you may think that it is my decision to make which is also why i would really, really, really appreciate only people the ages of 14-25 to answer.thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): I'm 15 and first of all, i don't know where you live but where i come from, we didnt do that in eighth grade no one gave hand jobs, the farthest people got was french kissing, people still don't give hand jobs in 9th grade so i wouldnd't worry
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): u dont hav to if u dont want to. if he likes u. he should respect u for it. just cause everyone else does it dont mean u hav to. it makes u the diffrent colur to all the others. u might think of going with the crowd. but u'd be lik lost sheep. never finding the sheperd. its lik a freind says its better to be diffrent than to all be the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): Hand Job:
1. Rub vicks on your hands
2. Grab his balls and clap your hands together fast
3. When he is close to cumming grab his big toe and pull it hard.
Giving head:
1. Rinse your mouth with cooking oil or fat
2. Put his balls between your teeth and grate your teeth down his shaft.
Taking the pill:
Instead of taking the pill orally the best way is to put it between your knees and hold it there.
If your taking this all in you are obviously to young!! Wait to your older and ask your boyfriend the question.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 August 2009):
 In 8th grade we learned all the subtle nuances of diagramming sentences. They don't teach kids that anymore so I guess this is what they decided on to take up the slack. No pun intended.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): ... and I missed it by 36-47 years!
Education has certainly come along leaps and bounds since I was at school. Please tell me though - just how long have hand-jobs been on the curriculum? I can't help but think that I missed out in a big way.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 August 2009):
I missed your criteria by 32 years...but being the rebel that I am I just had to post something, so there...now where did I leave my walker...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): It'll be in the moment, just make sure it's your boyfriend! And you've been going out for a while first , and btw not everyone gives one in the eighth grade
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reader, Tbonex +, writes (29 August 2009):
 Ok, your are incredibly young to even consider that. You may be able to do it but why not wait until you're older because doing that with randomized people; you'll lose any respect people have for you. Trust me on this, I'm smart enough to know because you can learn from other peoples mistakes. Get your education and don't do that you're too young right now and it would seem dumb. You'll find out if you go through with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): In eighth grade, I got my first kiss. The thing I was worried about was french kissing, but I didn't even do that until high school, and didn't start enjoying it until 17, which is the age I am now. Like many other people on here, I would say to wait until you're ready. Following what other people do will only make you feel bad about yourself later on because once you're older, you'll realize that people respect you more when you do what's right for yourself...not what's right for other people or the majority. When you know you're ready, no matter what age you are--when you don't have to question yourself about it--then go ahead and have fun (but BE CAREFUL always). However, in the meantime, when you have to ask other people about this stuff, you're not ready. The first guy I gave a hand job to was my boyfriend of 10 months in my sophomore year, and I didn't enjoy doing that, and never did it for him again. Frankly, he was disappointed, but he was a good guy and respected that I didn't want to again, and for the rest of our relationship, we did no more than kiss. In short, don't do it because everyone else is doing it. That leads to regrets, which is something that you shouldn't have at your age, though plenty of people do because they think the way you're thinking. There is no set age or grade to do anything sexual. The age that you start giving hand jobs, blow jobs, having sex, etc. should be the age where you are ready physically, mentally, and emotionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): it will be in the moment - u need to know your answer b4hand. your answers are: yes, hell no, maybe, if you do x. be prepared for whining and pleading. practice on a banana, corguette, sausage etc. also use a condom. FINALLY don't do it u r too young!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): Wow things move fast where you are...I'm 23 and didn't give anyone a handjob till I was at uni, and that was with my bf of about 8 months. I tried giving the guy I dated after him a blowjob when we'd only been together 3 months and it was shocking - I gagged, I choked, I almost threw up. Later, after successfully giving a blowjob to a more long term partner who I cared about, I came to the conclusion that blowjobs just don't work with guys you don't care for. So that's why I suggest waiting for a special boy, otherwise it can get embarrassing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): Starting 8th grade, there are more important things to prioritize than giving hand jobs! Although there might be a higher statistic of girls becoming sexually active your age, doesn't mean you have follow their direction. Young girls who do sexual favours for random guy's don't get respect, they only get used, called all sorts of names, and build the wrong reputations for themselves. I suggest you concentrate on your education and not be distracted by the lastest craze going around the school!
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reader, heavyheart8 +, writes (29 August 2009):
I'm 26 and I'm a bit off your criteria. However, I think you should hear this from a guy as well .... YOU ARE TOO YOUNG.There is no grade where girls start giving hand jobs. when you find a meaningful relationship and have matured enough to know when you're being taken advantage of, then you might be ready for stuff like that. Otherwise I suggest you steer clear. You're 14, you should be focused on your studies and deciding what kind of adult you want to be when you get there. In 4 years you'll be 18, after that you're in your twenties. So right now you have to make some more important choices that will affect you for the rest of your life. Life and Adulthood are about making decisions. Learn how to make good decisions first before making your first life decision to give good hand jobs. If your parents don't influence you by keeping you away from such decisions then I suggest you impose them upon yourself until you fully understand the world you're living in.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (29 August 2009):
I am 20 and all I can say is wait. It was so magical that we were each others first. I was young I was 15 but I knew I was with the right person. If you are with the right person then you can talk to them and they will tell you what they like and there will be appreciation instead of, in their mind, you being the slut that finished her job and needs to leave. Trust me wait for that special person.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (29 August 2009):
 First of all, there NO certain "grade" to start doing sexual activities...so just from that statement alone: You seriously need to grow up! And neither is there any law listed in this world that says that anywhere, you should only do things because you yourself are ready for them, not because of what's going around you. And if I were you I would listen to what the other aunts have said here.
Most likely if a guy has to ask you to do that: he is making a complete fool of you & you will lose respect from him & others...so think about that. It is a great things to have a standard for your life & not sink down to anyone else's expectation of you or sink to the level of "fast" females in school. Just because a guy may ask for something, doesn't mean that you have to give it to them. Sure it is your decision to make, but remember that other hands & other mouths have been down there also & there will be others after you finish. Go ahead & do what you want, you can make "GROWN UP" decisions but I can tell you from experience that you should also be ready to accept & receive the "GROWN UP" consequences that will follow whatever choices you make in life, not just concerning sexual things but every other area as well.
Whatever you do, be safe & be smart about it, even oral sex should require protection, you can still contract things from it. Hand jobs are just as risky, whatever you decide...be careful & be safe!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 August 2009):
 Here is my question... now, I'm 23, so I fit in, but why 14-25? Because they have better technique, or because they won't lecture you? If it's a technique thing, I'll tell you now that the older they are, the more refined their skill is!! So the older, the better! Sex ages like a fine wine... deliciously.
Anyway, in 8th grade, I didn't give any handjobs. My sister is in 10th, and her and her friends don't do any more than kissing! Just saying. Maybe in your school, things are different.
But, to answer your question: if a guy asks you to do it, he's a scum bag. If it happens naturally, in the moment, that's a better situation. But seriously, if he asks you to, that means he looks at you as someone he can just get some ass from. A reputation will start, and QUICK. You don't want to be a "yes girl", who guys think they can just ask for a handjob and get it.
If you find a guy worthy of such a head, lick like a popsicle and avoid teeth. It's pretty simple. Communicate lots and have fun. But head is a HUGE step. To a lot of women, it is much more serious than sex. To me, for sure! That's like, WAY intimate. A guy has to really work his ass off and show a lot of commitment for me to go down on him.
By the way, you CAN contract STI's from head, another reason why it's a good idea to make sure the guy really cares about you and is willing to go get tested before getting lucky. You can get HIV, Herpes, Syphilis, Chlamydia, HPV, Hepatitis B and Gonorrhea. So protect yourself!! Doing all this stuff, if it's your decision and you feel good about it is FINE, just make sure you're being smart about it!
http://std.about.com/od/riskfactorsforstds/a/oralsexsafesex.htm
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/std/oral/
I hope you find a nice boyfriend who you can have fun with even when you're not getting frisky. Don't feel so pressured to do all this crap. Even if you were 16, 18, 21, or 25 I'd tell you the exact same thing. Classy girls are always chased after... guys love what they can't get easy.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (29 August 2009):
14-25? Why? Because an older person would tell you exactly what you don't want to hear? Well I'm 25 and going to tell you probably what you don't want to hear.
Just because you're 14 and going into 8th grade does not mean that you HAVE to give hand jobs or blow jobs. I was much older than you before I ever did any of that stuff. And the girls in 8th grade that did give the boys handjobs and head were known as the sluts, who were made fun of daily, had constant crap talked about them behind their back, and boys only liked them because they knew they would get a little action out of them. Do you want to be known as one of those girls? Unless you're very desperate for attention, I don't think so.
To actually answer your question, things such as handjobs usually happen in the moment. Do you have to do them for a boy to like you? No. Because in a week he'll dump you and get a handjob from another girl. Same thing goes with blowjobs, but please keep in mind that it IS sex and that you can still contract something from doing that. I know you think you know everything since you're almost in high school, but you don't. Sure it's your decision, but it's also your decision if you want to ruin your reputation.
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reader, karasu10 +, writes (29 August 2009):
 ok lol i know u dont wanna hear it, but you are too young. thats all im gonna say about that, but if you really want the advice ok.
you dont engage in these things unless you're ready. when you say "this is the grade where girls start to give hand jobs", it just shows that you need to grow up real quick and realize that you have PLENTY of time to do these kinds of things.
if a boy asks you, it's ok to say no. you dont need to do that to be cool or whatever. if you feel it's wrong and you dont want to then DONT DO IT. if people call you lame for doing that then it just shows how sleezy and shallow they are.
when and if it does happen it is usually in the moment and you'll know if you're ready or not. just go by what your gut tells you
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reader, jaeSKYE  +, writes (29 August 2009):
 8th grade is the year to start giving hand jobs? lol i wasnt aware of that. ehhm, as far as you being curious as to when it'll come up? uhm if the two of you are like making out or touching he'll probably ask. of the moment type of thing. and as for you going down on the dude? i dont think theres one exact perfect way of doing it. everybody has their own technique. you have to figure out which works for you and him and what doesnt. it takes time, and the first time is always weird and awkward so, dont worry all that much.
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