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writes:Im 26 and just found out Im pregnant. The thing is, I have slept with 2 men - one 4 weeks ago, just a day after I finished my period and someone else 2 weeks ago. Im unsure who the father is but I think it is more likely to be the guy I slept with 2 weeks ago because this was when I would of been ovulating right? And the symptoms (tiredness and sore breasts) have only been present since sleeping with second guy. I know you may judge me on this problem, but I really would appreciate advice rather than a slagging off. I havnt told anyone yet because I need to tell the father first but Im worried. Im pretty sure its the second guy, I think it would be too early to get pregnant a day after my period, wouldnt it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): at the end of the day, until a paternity test is done, you wont know for sure which one it is.
and thats the bottom line.
good luck :)
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (27 August 2009):
I'm going to have to agree with Happy Face, it's probably the 1st guy. Usually about a month after conceiving will you feel symptoms. Of course everyone is different, but within 2 weeks you'd probably only notice slight differences with you body, such as urinating more often and tiredness. Also, your body probably wouldn't be producing enough of the hormone that pregnancy tests detect within just 2 weeks. Of course the second guy is always an option, but personally, I think it's the first guy.
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reader, natasia +, writes (27 August 2009):
 I'm also pretty sure it is the second guy. It must be him. Your reasoning is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): The only thing i can think of, is to wait until your baby is born and have DNA tests done on both potential farthers and also your baby.
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reader, SHANIKA +, writes (27 August 2009):
yes,most probably the second one
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (27 August 2009):
Its kind of unclear to me if you are pregnant, or THINK you are. Regardless. Here is the situation, you have two candidates. Contact both, inform them of the situation.Were they both a one time scenario, or was it multiple, were contraceptives a factor or not. Either way, see which guy reacts better when you tell them. You will never know for certain without the dna testing done anyways, so they both need to know they are potential.I hope your pregnancy goes well.-iydm
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reader, Sarah Love +, writes (27 August 2009):
I know how you feel. I to have been pregnant by two different men. I told either one of them, who I thought the father was, because I was doing both of them at the sametime. I have know idea who the father of my child is, and I longer care. I love my child just the same.More than likely, it the second man child.
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reader, Sphronas +, writes (27 August 2009):
 In terms of probabilities, you are right that the second man is the more likely candidate, especially if your period is very regular. But in terms of possibilities, the first man could also be the father as sperm can survive up to seven days under some circumstances, and the time of ovulation can also vary quite a bit. So you might want to start out by telling the more likely candidate, but you should tell him that there is an outside chance that the other man is the father. And you have to let the other man know about this outside chance too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): Hi anon, Isn't it true that you can't know that you're pregnant until at least four weeks along? And sore breasts and tiredness aren't likely to appear only two weeks after concieving, therefor, I think it's more likely the guy you slept with four weeks ago. I had sore breasts but I didn't think anything of it. That day, I went to the doctor for a gyno appointment and found out i was 4-6 weeks along. They told me that if I had come any earlier, they would not have been able to detect it.There are paternity tests if this really becomes a problem. Goodluck!
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