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writes:i think i am in love... i've dated him for 3 days, and known him for 3 days. so i dont think i am. but i CANNOT stop thinking about him!! when i am with him its like nobody else is there. and i just feel really happy. i want to talk about him non-stop but i dont want to annoy my friends. though occasionally i talk about him anyway. Tyler, my boyfriend, seems to really like me as he holds me close. his friend Josh is dating my friend sarah, that how tyler and i met. anyway sarah and josh say their in love, but honestly me and tyler are always closer to each other and he'll hold my hand when we walk or put his arm around me. jjosh doesnt do that for sarah. however sarah and josh did have sex. sarah lost her virginity to him. when im around tyler i just wanna sit there. we dont need to do anything for me to be completely happy. i can just lay my head on his chest and listen to his heart beat and im in heaven. when he texts me my heart skips a beat and i have this overwhelming happy feeling. when i get out of the car and walk over to him and he hugs me or kisses me or when he moans from me giving him a blowjob i cant even explain the feeling i get. when im not with him im thinking of him. i would walk 4 miles in the dark for him, i was going to but he told me he didnt want me to get hurt. i get jealous at the littlest things, like when sarah hugged tyler i wanted to slap her. but instead just put my head down. when i figured out my ex best friend was dating him i started hating her more and more. and just wanted to rip her head off and tell her to leave him alone and stop texting him. i just wanna take off runnnin to his house just to say hey and give him a kiss. and i would if my parents would let me. i just cant explain how i feel about him. so i need your opinion on alot of things, love, jealousy, anything else.
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reader, c.ainslie.89  +, writes (11 September 2009):
Firstly, I would that your jealousy is already a problem, and will become a massive problem if you continue to date him, especially if you feel that jealous after only going out with him for just a few days.Secondly.. YOUR A TEENAGER. The first few WEEKs of any relationship feels as great as what you have described, often even better, and plus you're a teenager and with the first person you date it always feels more amazing than anything you can imagine, because you have never experienced anything like it. So i guess it's normal for you to be getting confused about it. it's not love, its called LUST and if you didn't feel lust for him in this stage of the relationship then you shouldn't be dating him. It's not possible for you to LOVE someone after having known them for only three days because you don't even KNOW someone after only three days, and can't possibly know enough about them to love them.Thirdly.. The reason that your friend and her boyfriend aren't as close and touchy as you and your boyfriend is because they have been going out a long time and can control their urges and probably are in love, whereas they are not in that stage of incontrollable lust anymore. give it a month or two and you will be the same with your boyfriend, if you even last that long. finally.. you are really young, why are you already giving him a blow job, you have to make him work for it if you want to have a long-lasting successful relationship.. he wont respect you if you're willing to give it all up for nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): You know what, you are one big raging HORMONE. I understand your "heady" feelings, it is a real rush what is going on in your brain with all the oxycontin flowing through it. You see you are biologically damned. Mother nature has made it so that the survival of the species is first and foremost so that human beings will survive no matter what.
The thing for you is to realize that this is a dirty trick played on YOU and on your brain. All logic is simply out the window.
Missy, at your tender age, what the hell are you doing giving a boy blow jobs? That is sex. And I understand that you feel a certain amount of control over boys and that can make you feel powerful, but it is a hollow victory as eventually this boy is going to dump you, have nothing to do with you because you have lost all respect from him and thus all value.
You need to get a grip on reality. This is a dangerous game that you are playing with boys. You cannot be in love in 3 short days, you are a hormonal, horney teenager and that is that.
Unless you would like to be one of the statistics of teen girls being mothers, kids having kids, then you need to reign this in and start using your smarts....surely you have some gray matter between your ears, that is what seperates humans from animals. Because right now you are only operating at an animal level, operating on basic instincts.
Talk to your Mom or your parents about what is going through your brains. Contrary to popular belief, people who are decades older than you are, including your parents have your best interests at heart and would like you to grow into a responsible, contributing adult with a happy life. If you want to end your life as you know it, then go ahead, have sex, get pregnant, maybe get the HPV virus and contract cerivical cancer...you know you are at higher risk simply because of your youth. Condoms do not protect against this virus and there are some serious side effects and questionable results about the only vaccination against HPV that is currently available, Gardasil.
If I haven't convinced you yet, then write back here in a month and let us know if this fellow will even still speak to you after your servicing him the way you did.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (20 August 2009):
It's called puppy love. I remember the feeling...butterflies in the stomach, not being able to eat, thought about him before I went to sleep and right when I woke up. It's 3-days...you don't love him, like another aunt said, you're infatuated. It's natural at your age to feel this way, but don't let it totally consume your life. Take it easy and don't get so jealous. There are a lot of girls in this world and they are probably going to at one point talk to your boyfriend or even hug him if they're friends.
Another thing, as everyone else commented on. DO NOT give guys blowjobs when you've known them for 3 days. Trust me, it will get around and then boys will only start liking you because they think that's what you'll do for them. You don't want to be one of those girls. Just slow down a little bit, you will end up suffocating your boyfriend, then he'll dump you for not giving him any space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): I think u should step back from a relationship until you fully understand what it is about!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): celtic_tiger you nailed it and echoed my sentiments entirely im glad to see some one else has mentioned the extremely disturbing sexual contact at such a young age.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 Im sorry... you have known this guy for 3 DAYS and you have already given him a blowjob???????????How old are you?! Because if you are 13-15 years old, then I am seriously worried for your well being and sexual health.Being easy is not the way to get boys to love you forever. They will just use you and move on to the next easy lay. Oral sex is still sex. Its not like kissing. Oral sex should be saved for serious relationships not dolled out like sweeties. If you do that on Day 3, what will he expect on Day 6? Full blown sex? There is something to be said for leaving a guy wanting more, you dont have to lay it all on a plate for them so SOON. Apart from the fact that you are far too young to be doing this anyway.What you are experiencing is a CRUSH, plain and simple. Its the first flush of excitement, lust and hormones that we get when we first see someone we like. Love comes out of knowing someone, getting to know them inside out and loving them even when they are annoying pigs and leave dirty underpants lying about, or refuse to let go of the tv remote. What concerns me more, is that you seem to have no qualms about getting sexual with this guy so fast, even by adult standards that is going way too fast, and as you are probably underage, then it makes it even worse. Hold hands, kiss, make out - keep the sexual stuff until you are older and in a secure, lasting and committed relationship. If you carry on the way you are, then you will regret it, as the more oral sex you give to every crush that comes along, the sooner you will be sleeping about and stand a high chance of getting some sort of sexual infection. I dont want you to come back in a years time with a question about some nasty STD, or a pregnancy scare. It costs nothing to wait, but it could cost you everthing if you do not seriously consider what you are doing.Wise up. Grow up, and become a more mature and responsible person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): What your feeling my dear is infatuation be careful not to let your emotions get the better of you. You are very immature i can tell that by reading your post you need to pull yourself in a bit. Also how old are you ? I hope your at the higher end of 13-15 because having sexual activity at that age is pretty risky i hope your using protection even if its only oral sex. People like you worry me i don't understand how you get into that state of mind.
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reader, lily13524 +, writes (20 August 2009):
 this sounds like your brain is telling you,you are in love really. but it sounds like to me, you are obbessed with him! if you continue like this he might just dump you or he might just ask you to give him a little space to breathe. and maybe this time you will not be able to live without him! hey hunny and holding hands and stuff dont really means you are really close or sum, so dont get to carry away! many couples i kno dont show affection in public and they are great lovers. and your jealously is way out of control,so your own best friend cant hug your bf, thats so wrong, if you kno she have a problem like she will try and make him cheat on you, then you have a right to be angry but to me,nah i dont think she is so, its all in your head. And wat happens in the past of your bf life, like his exes it doesnt matter to you,the only thing that matters is you being in his life now.so please act mature, cuz hunny if yu aint pray he isnt half way out the door!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): ok - you obviously really like this guy. love is a tricky and complicated thing and you can never really ask somone else whether you love someone because only you know how you are feeling. whether you are in love with this guy or whether you really like him it doesnt matter as long as you are happy. but one thing i just want to warn you about, you seem very obsessed with tyler and it would be very painfull for you two to break up so play it cool. dont let him know how much you like him because you could scare him off.
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