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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for six months, which was on my birthday. Which was two days ago. All he did for my birthday was give me a five dollar headscratcher, which I'm pretty sure he didn't even buy (his mom wanted one, and gave me money to buy it, so I'M THE ONE WHO ACTUALLY GOT IT) and he put it back in it's original packaging and gave it to me. Then he offered to get me drugs for my birthday. I said no. I pretended not to me mad 'cause I didn't want to be a bitch on my birthday, but apparently I guess I was anyway. He didn't get me flowers or take me out to eat or anything. And he never does do anything special for me, ever. This passed week, I spent close to two hundred dollars on him (he paid me back some of it) and I took him out to eat plenty of times and paid for it. I expected at least flowers or something. He called me two days and asked me to apologize for how I acted on my birthday. Do I have the right to be mad?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (9 September 2009):
 You'd be crazy not to be angry with him.
He's a creep and he belongs in jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): If hes asking YOU to apologize to HIM for being disapointed at being offered drugs on your birthday, he clearly doesn't have his head screwed on straight. You owe this guy nothing. You seem to be quite a caring person (spending so much on him, even CONSIDERING to apologize) drop this guy and find one deserves you and treats you right.
You should feel special on your birthday :)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (18 August 2009):
Apologize to him? Wow, what a joke. Tell him to piss off. Along with everyone else, he offered to buy you drugs for your birthday...how sweet. Maybe you should have suggested that instead of him wasting his money on drugs, maybe he should have used that money to pay you back.
Please, do not apologize to this goof and dump him asap. He's not what you want in a boyfriend. He's not thoughtful, doesn't really seem to care about your feelings too much, does drugs, selfish, idiot, takes your money...there I started a list for you. Trust me, you can find someone MUCH better out there. You don't need him, a boyfriend shouldn't make you sad or make you feel like you should apologize when he's the one that clearly needs to.
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reader, jstdunno +, writes (18 August 2009):
Drugs = bye, bye. I don't care if you can list 2,000 things you like about him , if you end up in the slammer because of his drugs you'll have all the time in the world to write lists.
Dump him now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): Do you have the right to be mad? Are you joking??
He's not worth wasting any more of your time or energy on.
Show him the front door and tell him to go through it and never come back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): You have a right to be disappointed that he didn't do anything and frustrated that he is demanding an apology.
What do you see in him? What do you love about him? If you can list off five things or more, than maybe he's worth it. Give it a shot. Ligetimate things: not his eyes, etc.
I know i've made lists about my husband and they go for literally, pages.
~Sy.
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reader, BehindThese HazelEyes +, writes (18 August 2009):
 Yes you have every right to be mad! Now if he just doesnt care, then hes an *ss and you dont need to be with him! But if he just didnt have the money or couldnt afford it then thats a lil more understandable...you need a man who would do anything for you! Id be upset if my bf didnt even bother to do anything for my bday either...and why would he offer to get you drugs?! what kind of man is he? geez
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (18 August 2009):
 No offense, but this guy sounds like a loser. Come on. What kind of guy offers you drugs on your birthday? 'Here honey, please let me celebrate your birth by killing a few of your brain cells.' What? You don't have a right to be mad, because this guy obviously is who he is. At least he's consistent. What you need to do is just not be with him anymore. He sounds like he doesn't really offer anything toward the relationship, and you are kind of insane for spending two hundred dollars on him and expecting that money back. Come on girl, you know you can do better than that. After only being together for six months, he is acting like this? That's a bad sign, because things are only going to get worse from here. Give yourself an even better belated birthday present by becoming single.
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