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writes:So my boyrfiend is on vacation whom is traveling all over Cali with some of his cousions, and from his social network status he wrote "what happens in vegas stays in vegas and his lips will be sealed". Now, this has made me insecure cause I know that he wouldnt do anything stupid like cheat on me, but there is apart of me that cannot trust him cause he is going with a bunch of guys. Mostly, I feel this way because he barely have communicated while he's been on his trip, am just lucky to get an email once in a while. I dont want to confront him with he did there , but neither I want to be hurt and wonder what he was up to, especially if he messes around with some random girl.Im weary of STDS and being cheated on makes me paranoid atm especially when hearing stories from other people what some men do there besides gambling.This leaves me confused and so I dont know what to do, I dont know if I would be comfortable kissing someone when I dont know if one has messed around. Please help!Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): It means that something happened that other people would not want to hear (possibly hurtful, a bit naughty or just plain wild) and so to prevent that they have made a pact. Personally he sounds a bit immature for you anyway. I mean - his actions and your, understandable distrust, is not really the basis for a lasting relationship. Maybe you need to take a break from him because he sounds like hard work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): its an old saying.it basically does mean what it says.what happens in vegas..stays in vegas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): If it's a boys holiday, then I need not explain what could happen, or what some of them ARE planning to do. He may not cheat on you, but it could mean he isn't gonna tell about anyone else who does the dirty on their partners. Plus, it's not just Vegas, you could use that term anywhere!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 Hi,
It's simply a saying a bunch of blokes say when they get together for a big hoopla.
The real issue here is you don't trust him. Be honest about it.
He will find out soon enough, as it will be written all over your face when you see him again. Unless you can deal with your trust issues, you may find you have a string of failed relationships ahead of you. No guy likes to be accused of cheating when they arent. When that happens, be prepared for "sorry, but no thanks I dont need the drama in my life".
If you take the advice of a previous poster and suggest he get tested when you see him, I would give him about 5 seconds before he ends the relationship. I would.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): You need to take care of yourself. There is indeed stuff that happens in 'Vegas. Anyone who lands in Vegas with cash can have pretty much anything they want happen. Get him tested for STDs when he gets back, before he lays a hand (or anything else) on you.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (20 August 2009):
It's just a saying...everyone says it before they go to Vegas. Have you ever been to Vegas? That place is a great time, nightlife, gambling, drinking--you name it. Let him have fun. Try to remind yourself that while being in a relationship, a part of it is trusting someone. If you go off the deep end and start prodding, you'll come off as insecure and not trusting your boyfriend. Let him have his fun. If he's going to cheat, he will. But if you know that's not something he would do, then just leave it be, it's natural to worry. Don't call him while he's on his vacation, let him miss you while he's gone. Every once in a while we need a vacation with just the girls or just the guys. When he gets back, welcome him back and ask him if he had a good time. Let him tell you what happened.
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