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writes:Okay, so, about a month ago one of my best friends started dating a girl. Ever since then, he's changed:-He skips our band rehearsals.-He ignores my other best friend and I when she's around.-He skips classes.-He all of a sudden hates skateboarding and calls it "uncool."Then his girlfriend sent me an email today calling me a 'b*tch and to stay away from him.' And that she wants to 'kick my *ss.'There's much more, but in general, this isn't like him. We've (him, my other best friend, and I) have known each other since we were four years old! What could be happening?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 September 2009):
What's happening is he is allowing his whole life to be consumed in the relationship that he has with this girl. Is it smart on his part? No. She seems possessive and is threatened by you, and in turn, he's become her little robot and wants to do whatever makes her happy--even if it means turning his back on his friends.
You could teach this little immature twit of a girlfriend a lesson by printing out that email and showing it to your school principle (if she also goes to your school). Or you can show your friend the type of email that she's sending you (although I'm guessing he gave her your email address?). Then you can let your friend know that it's not cool for his new girlfriend to be sending you threats through email, you thought that you two were friends as you've known him almost your whole life, and that when he and his gf are no longer together who is he going to turn to when all his friends are gone since he ditched them for some insecure girl?
In a few months I'm sure he'll be back to his old self again once he gets tired of living his life only for the relationship and dealing with her insecure behavior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): The girl he is dating is clearly changing him and because she doesnt like you, he might feel he cant like you if you understand me. you need to talk to him without her there? like ask him over for a parents occasion or some story that he would fall for and tslk to him and explain why you lied and he will then know how you feel about her and tell him that you think she is changing him...
hope everything goes okay for you x
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