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writes:I had a big fight with my boyfriend yesterday and he broke up with me. We were yelling at each other on the phone and that's how it went.It's been 2 days now and he haven't returned any of my calls and keeps clicking the cancel button when he sees me calling. He shutted down his phone the entire day. He even deleted me from his chat-list.He was supposed to go to a birthday party today. His best mate asked me yesterday whats going on cuz my ex just told him we broke up and nothing else.Should i just let him go? The fight was about something silly, just miscommunication. We broke up already 2 times! He broke up with me but I convinced him to stay together cuz he didnt really give me any reason why not? Should I take him seriously? Is he even worth my time? I didnt find any closure it happened so quickly on the phone!? I do love him very much. He was the perfect boyfriend to me and treated me like a princess. I can't see the signs clearly anymore.. please help :(
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reader, LazyGuy +, writes (13 September 2009):
 He fought with you yesterday but it has been two days?
Timewarp much?
When you are young, emotions come hot and fast. Adults often say that this means the emotions ain't real.
You got to ask yourself, if you two break up over something trivial, and done it twice before, then what exactly are you feelings for each other.
Is it worth your time? It is your time, so that is what you got to decide. Just how trivial was the issue (to him, not to you) and who broke up the last couple of times.
If it was trivial, then if you persist with this relationship you will constantly have to walk on egg-shells to avoid triggering something else.
If it wasn't, then you two might not be compatible, sad, but it happens.
Mis-communication you say, so, why did it happen? For the 3rd time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): I think he wants his space or really considers it a break up. Whether he is acting immature or not, I don't know the whole story so I'm not gonna judge and point fingers. Given the current situation, you can't really do much about it
I'm sorry you guys didn't have your closure but I think it will be some time before both of you are ready to have the closure, I'm sure he's had enough and its clear he doesn't want to see you or talk to you.
Give yourself some space as well and try to collect your thought and mentality. For the mean time, take him seriously and consider it a break up.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (13 September 2009):
The way your boyfriend is acting is EXTEMELY immature. It's happened to me before and one of my friends, then out of the blue they call like nothing happened. It's even worse when there's no closure and he just decided that the relationship was over without even telling you.
So for right now, yes, let him go. He'll continue to ignore your calls if you keep trying to contact him. For right now, the relationship isn't going to work, even if you think he's the best thing that's ever happened to you. You shouldn't have to convince your boyfriend to stay with you. From my experience, when you beg him to stay with you because he doesn't have a valid reason to break up with you and decides to stay because he "feels bad" or something of that nature, he's going to find any small reason to oficially end it and use that as his excuse to end the relationship for good (that being the petty argument you two had).
So in the meantime, do what you can to keep your mind off of him, get support from your friends and family, and DO NOT CALL HIM!!! It's even harder to get over someone when there is no closure because you're questioning if he really meant it or if he's just trying to teach you a lesson. He's being immature and for now, no, he is not worth your time.
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